Pregnancy #41

[Nayalove96]

My little ones name has very little chance of being stolen since nobody likes it win win

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

We picked a name for our son that was way down in the top 100, because I didn't want him to be one of 4 of the same in his class.
There's another in his year, and this year when they mixed the classes up they've ended up in the same class.

So with this one we're ignoring the charts and just going with something we like.

 

[themuffinwoman]

Could I have some advice please as I never know what to do in these situations- I’ve got a friend who only talks to me about my pregnancy and the baby, and it’s getting really irritating. I know she’s just trying to be nice and as much as I like talking about it, she always frames everything in my life around my pregnancy and baby which annoys me. I asked her about her house, she answered and then asked me about the baby. I told her something about work, she called me a “multitasking mama”, which I found very patronising. Again, she’s being nice but I’m not one of those people who is obsessed with babies, obviously I will be with my own but generally I like talking about things other than being pregnant and she’s the only friend of mine who does this, she’s got a baby but even my other friends with babies aren’t like this.

How do I tell her I wanna talk about things other than my pregnancy without offending her?

 

[Nipslips]

Could I have some advice please as I never know what to do in these situations- I’ve got a friend who only talks to me about my pregnancy and the baby, and it’s getting really irritating. I know she’s just trying to be nice and as much as I like talking about it, she always frames everything in my life around my pregnancy and baby which annoys me. I asked her about her house, she answered and then asked me about the baby. I told her something about work, she called me a “multitasking mama”, which I found very patronising. Again, she’s being nice but I’m not one of those people who is obsessed with babies, obviously I will be with my own but generally I like talking about things other than being pregnant and she’s the only friend of mine who does this, she’s got a baby but even my other friends with babies aren’t like this.

How do I tell her I wanna talk about things other than my pregnancy without offending her?

I had this with my sister last weekend. There was no let up in the end I had to just tell her I liked talking about other things than the baby and she stopped. It’s her whole personality right now

 

[themuffinwoman]

I had this with my sister last weekend. There was no let up in the end I had to just tell her I liked talking about other things than the baby and she stopped. It’s her whole personality right now

Was she ok or was she offended?
Almost everyone I’ve told except her hasn’t treated me any differently which is exactly what I want. I’m really keen for my personality not to just be “mum”. It’s the most important thing I’ll ever do but I don’t want it to be the sole thing that defines me.

 

[loveanatter]

We picked a name for our son that was way down in the top 100, because I didn't want him to be one of 4 of the same in his class.
There's another in his year, and this year when they mixed the classes up they've ended up in the same class.

So with this one we're ignoring the charts and just going with something we like.

Literally! Ours have both got names quite high up the top 100 but they’ve never had another in their class/ year! Funny how it goes isn’t it x

 

[Nipslips]

Was she ok or was she offended?
Almost everyone I’ve told except her hasn’t treated me any differently which is exactly what I want. I’m really keen for my personality not to just be “mum”. It’s the most important thing I’ll ever do but I don’t want it to be the sole thing that defines me.

No she wasn’t offended at all. She had a little reality check. Now it wasn’t long before she was back talking about babies but she’d be rather intense anyway

 

[Tifastrife]

Had an event in during the day and a party tonight with snap happy friends and family. I'm only 14 weeks today but omg. Nobody put a camera near me for the rest of my pregnancy please I feel gross. Someone commented on my "bump showing already" no Hun I'm just large.

 

[Sky Sports Main Event]

Could I have some advice please as I never know what to do in these situations- I’ve got a friend who only talks to me about my pregnancy and the baby, and it’s getting really irritating. I know she’s just trying to be nice and as much as I like talking about it, she always frames everything in my life around my pregnancy and baby which annoys me. I asked her about her house, she answered and then asked me about the baby. I told her something about work, she called me a “multitasking mama”, which I found very patronising. Again, she’s being nice but I’m not one of those people who is obsessed with babies, obviously I will be with my own but generally I like talking about things other than being pregnant and she’s the only friend of mine who does this, she’s got a baby but even my other friends with babies aren’t like this.

How do I tell her I wanna talk about things other than my pregnancy without offending her?

I had this when pregnant with a bunch of friends event. In the end I went mute, smile and nod kind of thing, and left when I could. The only people who spoke to me about other things were the people who I had told beforehand that I was sick of talking about it. Just say you are finding all the baby talk exhausting and it's making your mind race. You want to chill and switch off from it for a while.

 

[ChattyMammy]

Woke up at 2 for a wee and had more of a ‘bloody show’ so I’ve been wide awake ever since, convinced I’m going into labour any minute obviously not happening. Half of me knows I should really try going back to sleep but also desperate to gut the house again and wash my hair in case I do go into labour today probably still be pregnant this time next week! Honestly this last week or two is such a mind duck, feel like I’m constantly holding my breath waiting for labour to start

 

[Chocolatelover123]

Could I have some advice please as I never know what to do in these situations- I’ve got a friend who only talks to me about my pregnancy and the baby, and it’s getting really irritating. I know she’s just trying to be nice and as much as I like talking about it, she always frames everything in my life around my pregnancy and baby which annoys me. I asked her about her house, she answered and then asked me about the baby. I told her something about work, she called me a “multitasking mama”, which I found very patronising. Again, she’s being nice but I’m not one of those people who is obsessed with babies, obviously I will be with my own but generally I like talking about things other than being pregnant and she’s the only friend of mine who does this, she’s got a baby but even my other friends with babies aren’t like this.

How do I tell her I wanna talk about things other than my pregnancy without offending her?

My friend has this turns out her friends was trying for a baby and that’s why she was so interested in every symptom, birth etc. She used to joke a bit at first with her being like enough about me i feel it’s all we talk about I want to hear about you etc and she got the picture. Sometimes she would still ask pregnancy stuff but my friend would answer briefly and then change the conversation onto something else

 

[Gossipgirl79]

Hi all! Can anyone recommend a pregnancy pillow they love? Been looking at the Bella Moon, I like that it can be used as a nursing pillow/sit up aid when baby is here too but it’s on the expensive side. I wouldn’t mind paying the money if it was going to be amazing, but reviews are really mixed! Thank you.

 

[calmyourritas]

Woke up at 2 for a wee and had more of a ‘bloody show’ so I’ve been wide awake ever since, convinced I’m going into labour any minute obviously not happening. Half of me knows I should really try going back to sleep but also desperate to gut the house again and wash my hair in case I do go into labour today probably still be pregnant this time next week! Honestly this last week or two is such a mind duck, feel like I’m constantly holding my breath waiting for labour to start

I went and washed my hair when my early contractions started and I’m bloody glad I did!

 

[Nipslips]

Hi all! Can anyone recommend a pregnancy pillow they love? Been looking at the Bella Moon, I like that it can be used as a nursing pillow/sit up aid when baby is here too but it’s on the expensive side. I wouldn’t mind paying the money if it was going to be amazing, but reviews are really mixed! Thank you.

Honestly, the bbhugme is the best purchase I made all year. I don’t think il ever sleep without it.

 

[Blair-Waldorf]

Hi girls we’re home now from hospital and everything is going well. I’m besotted. Hope you’re all well xx

2 days of labour and no sleep, panic attacks, being the only woman in an 8 bed ward who had actually given birth, couldn’t stand properly because of epidural (fell over) wet myself standing up in front a a nurse who didn’t do anything, could barely walk because of my episiotomy, couldn’t bend down to go to the toilet, was dripping blood everywhere, passing wind without any control, somehow learning to breastfeed, change nappies, dress the baby while I could barely move myself and was always sobbing. The noise on the ward, the lights being kept on until 11pm, night checks at 4am, a woman snapping at me to feed my baby properly, my husband only visiting for half an hour. No privacy, the curtains kept being pulled open.

This breaks my heart it reminds me of my first birth. I hope you’re ok. I’m just catching up on the thread xx

I did want to come and give you all the details of how my labour started and baby was born but I just can’t even bring myself to talk about it and tbh I don’t want to upset anyone. I’ve been offered counselling and a debrief at the hospital. We’re home and ok and that’s all that matters

Baby shadow was born this morning at 35 weeks, he’s absolutely tiny at 4lb & I’m so overwhelmed, I can’t believe he’s here

Congratulations

 

[ChattyMammy]

I went and washed my hair when my early contractions started and I’m bloody glad I did!

Did it with my first as well, can’t bear the thought of going to the hospital with unwashed hair glad it’s not just me!

 

[fairylights2000]

Hi all! Can anyone recommend a pregnancy pillow they love? Been looking at the Bella Moon, I like that it can be used as a nursing pillow/sit up aid when baby is here too but it’s on the expensive side. I wouldn’t mind paying the money if it was going to be amazing, but reviews are really mixed! Thank you.

My SIL has lent me hers, she used it when pregnant but not really for feeding. I was looking for a spare cover on Vinted and there are some pillows available, might be worth looking into. I really like it as I've been trying to sleep with a pillow between my knees for a while (even before I was pregnant) and it kept ending up on the floor.

Easy for me to say as I didn't pay for it! Full disclosure SIL said she wished she hadn't spent the money.

 

[Hunthehun]

Why does raspberry leaf tea taste so awful

 

[GlennCoco]

Hi girls we’re home now from hospital and everything is going well. I’m besotted. Hope you’re all well xx


This breaks my heart it reminds me of my first birth. I hope you’re ok. I’m just catching up on the thread xx

I did want to come and give you all the details of how my labour started and baby was born but I just can’t even bring myself to talk about it and tbh I don’t want to upset anyone. I’ve been offered counselling and a debrief at the hospital. We’re home and ok and that’s all that matters


Congratulations

I'm glad you're both at home now and all is going well sorry to hear that the birth wasn't what you wanted but hope you find comfort in the debrief and counselling

 

[Nayalove96]

Been checked over twice and everything is fine but did anyone else’s baby’s movements change at 28 weeks? He barely moves anymore and after being on the trace monitor twice and a scan he’s fine but they just can’t give me an answer on why he’s gone from being so active to only a few movements a day!