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I’d be to nervous Oh that’s interesting. It makes sense actually given how everything has been low in stock the last few years.
I had my pram and cots bought the day of my 12 week scanAlmost due date buddies! I’m due 30th Marchthat’s mad people are doing that already, I’ve bought some baby grows and those bins but that’s it, most people I know have waited until they’re around 7ish months till they got the big stuff.
Actually jealous I’d love not to worry! you go girlyI had my pram and cots bought the day of my 12 week scan
It wasn't about worrying, the whole pregnancy was a worry as it was so high risk, it was more about finance's as there was two lol.Actually jealous I’d love not to worry! you go girly
My parents had bought my pram the day after I told them at 11 weeks 
Obviously super thankful but I wanted to wait haha
Obviously super thankful but I wanted to wait haha
I wish I could give you a hug, I can’t imagine the strength you are mustering, you are doing amazing. I’m glad you’re staying in the hospital so you do t have to go back and forth through London for now but I hope they get your BP under control soon. Your analysis of how you got missed is so interesting- I hope you get to feed that back xxThank you for thinking of mewe’re both still in the same hospital. Little guy is doing great. We know we have a long 3 months ahead of us as we have been told to expect him to be here until his actual due date (20/11), but so far he’s hit his little milestones and is having what seems like one less thing on him each day tubes/wires wise. He really is totally healthy and as expected for a now 28 week old GA baby , so that’s a massive relief, I’m on a special ward on the MCU ward now that only has women with babies in NICU so I am seeing how fortunate we really are in that sense as not everyone has that even with a full term baby.
They haven’t been able to fully stabilise my BP yet though they have got it down, that’s why I’m still in the hospital as they are keeping me under observation until they find the right one/dosage for me. But tbh I feel like I’ve been run over by a bus after the emergency c section so glad I just have to go to another floor to see my little boy rather than travelling to and from opposite ends of London.
I know I kind of went from keeping you guys updated to “oh he’s here now” and have been meaning to elaborate a bit as I know some find these things helpful. And sometimes knowing only half the reason something went “wrong” can be more anxiety inducing. The whole thing was a crazy experience that I dont think I’ve fully processed yet. Even though there were some amazing staff at the hospital and midwives who have come out of their way to check I’m alright. The whole thing felt like a weird nightmare. I was up for 2 days constantly on one of those machines where they strap the sensors to your tummy to check the baby. They tried to let me sleep but if I moved in my sleep I would knock the sensors and need to start again. I had to get a perfect 60mins on that machine meeting all the criteria, but partly because the baby was small he was easily able to move away. I kept being told different things, one minute I would be kept in hospital and my BP managed until the baby could be more safely delivered. Then it was that we would need to deliver now. I was in tears because I was terrified for my baby. Obviously all this didn’t help the blood pressure which kept having to be taken every hour. I felt like I was taking the biggest test/exam of my life and my baby’s and even my life were on the line if I failed one way or the other. Eventually even though they managed to keep him still for a long enough to find his heartbeat was consistent and he was moving, I wasn’t passing the test because there wasn’t enough variation in the heartbeat. They expect to see a slight variation in beat when he moves. The fact it was staying in one place means he could be a bit stressed. I was also having regular ultrasounds to check the blood flow from the placenta and apparently that was getting worse. This accompanied by regular blood tests was basically 48hrs of hell. They decided the best thing was to get him out to avoid foetal distress and not risk me becoming éclamptic. The c section was not the best experience of course. Despite the amazing calming surgeons explaining everything to me, because of the situation it was never going to be great. It was under general anaesthesia so they had to get the catheter in and my tummy ready while I was still awake which was pretty terrifying. This is because they have to get the baby out quickly and not let him be effected by the anaesthetic. I just remember being freezing cold and terrified restricted on the operating table and not sure if I was going to wake up and if I did if my baby would be ok. My partner was allowed to stay with me until I was asleep which was one thing, in fact he was there for the whole ordeal and amazing. I have so much respect for any woman that does this journey alone. I couldn’t have done any of this without him. But the context of the situation didn’t help. I can still see how a planned c section would be a lovely calm experience, but this was pretty traumatic.
The midwives I had were fantastic and incredibly sweet and have been to check up on me in the ward a couple of times. One I almost felt like her whole job was to keep hugging me and holding my hand while I cried.
There’s been a lot of concern from the hospital team in general about how the experience will have effected my mental health and I’ve been referred to a specialist team which is nice that that’s a consideration. I have cried a bit the past few days, which I think is partly “baby blues”, but cried more when I looked up the cures and it listed things like “take a break from your baby and have a shower” ha. I definitely feel robbed of a lot of experiences at the moment. I keep seeing people going past holding their newborns and would love them to know how lucky they really are. I would give anything to hold my baby.
The good news is the consultant I spoke to has said it’s very much something that effects first pregnancies more. If I have it in the second it will be later and to a lesser extent.
Also, I think there’s a possibility I was higher risk but was missed due to how the questions are. Mainly they ask if you have a family history of high blood pressure, I do not, no one in my family has had hypertension, however, what they didn’t ask me, and which I now think is important if there is a family history of stroke, especially <60. I now think the strokes in my family were blood pressure related, as they easily could have gone years without knowing they had high blood pressure. I think it’s a big misstep. The other for me was that I lost a significant amount of weight before I got pregnant, meaning I wasn’t at risk due to my weight, but really the physical effects of that extra weight may have still had an impact.
I wish I’d been identified as needing aspirin sooner in the pregnancy basically, rather than at the 20 week scan when they spotted a placenta blood flow issue.
I’ve been keeping myself busy and entertained in hospital with the Jack Monroe threads on here. Amazing as there’s just so much and it’s not got anything that reminds me of baby things
I just wanted to tell you how amazing you are and how impressed I am at how you’re handling this even though you probably don’t think you are. I wish I could give you a massive hug. Just take it day by day, we’re all here for youThank you for thinking of me
They haven’t been able to fully stabilise my BP yet though they have got it down, that’s why I’m still in the hospital as they are keeping me under observation until they find the right one/dosage for me. But tbh I feel like I’ve been run over by a bus after the emergency c section so glad I just have to go to another floor to see my little boy rather than travelling to and from opposite ends of London.
I know I kind of went from keeping you guys updated to “oh he’s here now” and have been meaning to elaborate a bit as I know some find these things helpful. And sometimes knowing only half the reason something went “wrong” can be more anxiety inducing. The whole thing was a crazy experience that I dont think I’ve fully processed yet. Even though there were some amazing staff at the hospital and midwives who have come out of their way to check I’m alright. The whole thing felt like a weird nightmare. I was up for 2 days constantly on one of those machines where they strap the sensors to your tummy to check the baby. They tried to let me sleep but if I moved in my sleep I would knock the sensors and need to start again. I had to get a perfect 60mins on that machine meeting all the criteria, but partly because the baby was small he was easily able to move away. I kept being told different things, one minute I would be kept in hospital and my BP managed until the baby could be more safely delivered. Then it was that we would need to deliver now. I was in tears because I was terrified for my baby. Obviously all this didn’t help the blood pressure which kept having to be taken every hour. I felt like I was taking the biggest test/exam of my life and my baby’s and even my life were on the line if I failed one way or the other. Eventually even though they managed to keep him still for a long enough to find his heartbeat was consistent and he was moving, I wasn’t passing the test because there wasn’t enough variation in the heartbeat. They expect to see a slight variation in beat when he moves. The fact it was staying in one place means he could be a bit stressed. I was also having regular ultrasounds to check the blood flow from the placenta and apparently that was getting worse. This accompanied by regular blood tests was basically 48hrs of hell. They decided the best thing was to get him out to avoid foetal distress and not risk me becoming éclamptic. The c section was not the best experience of course. Despite the amazing calming surgeons explaining everything to me, because of the situation it was never going to be great. It was under general anaesthesia so they had to get the catheter in and my tummy ready while I was still awake which was pretty terrifying. This is because they have to get the baby out quickly and not let him be effected by the anaesthetic. I just remember being freezing cold and terrified restricted on the operating table and not sure if I was going to wake up and if I did if my baby would be ok. My partner was allowed to stay with me until I was asleep which was one thing, in fact he was there for the whole ordeal and amazing. I have so much respect for any woman that does this journey alone. I couldn’t have done any of this without him. But the context of the situation didn’t help. I can still see how a planned c section would be a lovely calm experience, but this was pretty traumatic.
The midwives I had were fantastic and incredibly sweet and have been to check up on me in the ward a couple of times. One I almost felt like her whole job was to keep hugging me and holding my hand while I cried.
There’s been a lot of concern from the hospital team in general about how the experience will have effected my mental health and I’ve been referred to a specialist team which is nice that that’s a consideration. I have cried a bit the past few days, which I think is partly “baby blues”, but cried more when I looked up the cures and it listed things like “take a break from your baby and have a shower” ha. I definitely feel robbed of a lot of experiences at the moment. I keep seeing people going past holding their newborns and would love them to know how lucky they really are. I would give anything to hold my baby.
The good news is the consultant I spoke to has said it’s very much something that effects first pregnancies more. If I have it in the second it will be later and to a lesser extent.
Also, I think there’s a possibility I was higher risk but was missed due to how the questions are. Mainly they ask if you have a family history of high blood pressure, I do not, no one in my family has had hypertension, however, what they didn’t ask me, and which I now think is important if there is a family history of stroke, especially <60. I now think the strokes in my family were blood pressure related, as they easily could have gone years without knowing they had high blood pressure. I think it’s a big misstep. The other for me was that I lost a significant amount of weight before I got pregnant, meaning I wasn’t at risk due to my weight, but really the physical effects of that extra weight may have still had an impact.
I wish I’d been identified as needing aspirin sooner in the pregnancy basically, rather than at the 20 week scan when they spotted a placenta blood flow issue.
I’ve been keeping myself busy and entertained in hospital with the Jack Monroe threads on here. Amazing as there’s just so much and it’s not got anything that reminds me of baby things
xxx
Sending you so much love @TreeTrunksApplePie I remember the awful feeling of feeling like you’re missing out on those early newborn days and cuddles; I wish I could give you a big hug. Hopefully you will be able to go home soon and get yourself into some sort of strange routine. Your little one is a fighter 
@shadowofdoubt are you okay? x
@shadowofdoubt are you okay? x
Thank you for all the tips RE Nausea. I'll have to get some ice lollies they seem popular. I found today that salt and vinegar squares stopped it for a while thank god.
I have HG so no tips for getting rid of sickness but peppermint tea seems to be the one thing that helps the most! And when it comes to eating I find tomato soup also helps x
I'm the same way, all day every day. 11 weeks now and hoping it'll ease off sharpishI'm only six or seven weeks along but omg I'm really struggling with nausea. I'm not actually throwing up but for the last week I've just felt constantly sick. I can't do anything else to take my mind off it. I've tried ginger, digestives, eating as soon as a I wake up. I found melon helped to start with but doesn't seem to be anymore. Even the thought of sipping water is giving me the boke. Someone help please
drinks are the worst for me, I cannot stomach a liquid or even something like an ice pop 
haven't found anything that helps really, a sour sweet if I'm out and about and feel like I'm gonna gag. I'm half way through Invisalign as well and the trays in my mouth are literally more than I can take at times solidarity with you!Gosh fair enough, I’m a constant ball of nerves about it as it’s our first and my hubby is superstitious
I’ve hidden the babygrows from him 
Hm. I wouldn’t bother to be honest. It’s completely possible that a year of unprotected sex could still not get you pregnant anyway, so there is plenty of chance that his fertility is fine.
Personally I wouldn’t unless you’re still friends with him. Every couple is different and at the end of the day, it’s up to him and his current partner whether he gets tested or not, because you getting pregnant with someone else (congrats btw!) doesn’t confirm anything about his fertility really.
I think this was me that suggested spinning babies.
I'm going to be honest here - I did the Three Balances exercises every other day for the last three weeks of my pregnancy. Baby wasn't back to back but I was scared of him getting that way. And guess what... in labour he moved back to back
He did still get into the right position for birth eventually, but after all that effort he did what he wanted anyway. I would probably still do the exercises if before birth you knew they were actually back to back. Just bear in mind baby will absolutely do as they please regardless
Thank god it’s September. Can the sun and heat please piss off
And for ever more!I think this was me that suggested spinning babies.
I'm going to be honest here - I did the Three Balances exercises every other day for the last three weeks of my pregnancy. Baby wasn't back to back but I was scared of him getting that way. And guess what... in labour he moved back to back
I would probably still do the exercises if before birth you knew they were actually back to back. Just bear in mind baby will absolutely do as they please regardless
so that’s interesting, my madam could have moved at the last minute
sounds about rightMorning Mama’s!
Is anyone else just feeling fed up? I’m 34+2 and just feel so fed up! I finish work in two weeks (can’t wait!) as I feel so ready and done, I would finish earlier but it would be less time with baba once he is here
I have GD so constantly monitoring what I eat and pricking my finger 4 times a day is getting to me, I go through being scared to eat thing to having a idgaf attitude to it and eating what I want (meal wise! Not shovelling chocolate and ice cream although that sounds dreamy!)
Possibly tmi but constipated all the time but if I have a glass of orange I know my sugars will go through the roof!
Sorry to rant.. but I just don’t know what to do with myself
Is anyone else just feeling fed up? I’m 34+2 and just feel so fed up! I finish work in two weeks (can’t wait!) as I feel so ready and done, I would finish earlier but it would be less time with baba once he is here
I have GD so constantly monitoring what I eat and pricking my finger 4 times a day is getting to me, I go through being scared to eat thing to having a idgaf attitude to it and eating what I want (meal wise! Not shovelling chocolate and ice cream although that sounds dreamy!)
Possibly tmi but constipated all the time but if I have a glass of orange I know my sugars will go through the roof!
Sorry to rant.. but I just don’t know what to do with myself
Morning Mama’s!
Is anyone else just feeling fed up? I’m 34+2 and just feel so fed up! I finish work in two weeks (can’t wait!) as I feel so ready and done, I would finish earlier but it would be less time with baba once he is here
I have GD so constantly monitoring what I eat and pricking my finger 4 times a day is getting to me, I go through being scared to eat thing to having a idgaf attitude to it and eating what I want (meal wise! Not shovelling chocolate and ice cream although that sounds dreamy!)
Possibly tmi but constipated all the time but if I have a glass of orange I know my sugars will go through the roof!
Sorry to rant.. but I just don’t know what to do with myself
Good morning!
Oh I don’t blame you for feeling fed up especially having GD!
pregnancy is hard enough without it, so to have that ontop of everything is rough. You’re doing so well, I am not sure how I’d cope not having those idgaf days where I’ll maybe eat 2/3 bars of chocolate.But yes, I’m feeling pretty fed up too prematurely at 28+1. Everything is starting to slow down, I feel like a walking ailment. I’m in nyc on holiday right now and I know I’ve been over doing it walking wise but yesterday oh my goodness the pain in my feet was horrendous so it pretty much cast a dampener on the trips we did. I’ve got my usual holiday air con cold which I have no fecking clue what I can take to help. My tailbone still hurts from flying. My midwife called me to tell me my iron levels are on the low side but I’ll cope until I get home. I’m now at the stage where everything needs special consideration and I’m over it already, but generally I feel like a bit of a pain in the arse
My fiancé was shocked yesterday because I don’t moan or complain when I’m in pain/ill, I’m always of the mindset that moaning is expending energy I already don’t have so I tend to just get on with it but I think I must have said I was in pain at least 10,000 times which going by my Apple Watch data was every single step I took yesterday I think once I get home it’s officially time to slow down.Oh and I can’t eat Sushi
I know, first world problems haha.- Status