Yes my first section was with baby 3. I was very lucky that my parents did all the school runs for my eldest and took my middle (who was just shy of 3) out a few times a week so I had plenty of time to do nothing. But the days I had them all it was fine. I was careful with not picking them up etc, and just being sensible. I got my date at my 34 week appointment.Amazing thank you!!
How was recovery if you have other children (my son will be 2)so worried about recovery. When did you get your date for the section?
I’ve had one very bad tear, and one episiotomy that tore further. Tbh both are ripping you where you aren’t really supposed to rip so neither are ideal. Both my tears healed well though, and certainly my 2nd degree wasn’t overly sore or troubling. My 3rd degree was bad, but I worked on it a lot (think pelvic floor exercises for your bumTearing is what I’m most fearful of in labour, physically.
Were you cut or just allowed to tear?
I read that if you’re cut it can encourage a bigger tear. They used a piece of fabric as an example, try to rip it and it’ll stretch, put a nick in it and it’ll tear at that point so much easier so it did seem plausible? But then a cut is easier to stitch and controls the direction I’ve read too.
From actual experience could you say what’s best?
You can tell them your preference before hand and I’m unsure.
My second gave me a 3rd degree tear and I was advised to have a section afterwards because of that. It was by far my best birth. As with you, the previous experiences left me totally out of it (once with blood loss and the second time just with everything happening and the trauma) and I don’t remember my babies first hours. With the section I remember it all and it was so much smoother and calm!While we’re on the topic of elective c-sections, when I had my first baby I had a pre-eclampsia and ended up having a 3rd degree tear and lost around 2.5l of blood. I don’t remember any of my birth or the 24hrs afterwards, I don’t remember holding my baby for the first time or any of that, so only know anything from my partner. It was a really traumatic time for everyone, especially my partner who can’t watch anyone give birth on tv now because it brings back really crap memories for him. I was wondering what my chances of having a c-section actually are? I’m so worried I’m going to have to go through all that again now I’m pregnant again. I really don’t want to have to give birth naturally again
When I did my birth plan there was a question about how I wanted the placenta delivered, and then the midwife asked if I wanted to keep it for anythingIv never heard of anyone doing this other than the kardashiansnot sure what all the benefits are, apparently it helps with menopause? Think I’d rather just go through normal menopause than ask midwives if I can keep my placenta
Some people make placenta art with itWhen I did my birth plan there was a question about how I wanted the placenta delivered, and then the midwife asked if I wanted to keep it for anything
That is so odd remindes me of something from stranger things...Some people make placenta art with it
I’m sorry to hear thatI had a 3rd degree tear, which was apparently “a hair’s width” from being a 4th degreeSo they advised I had sections afterwards as they were worried it could tear along the same again and make it the whole way to 4th. Luckily I healed well, but they said should it happen again I most likely wouldn’t heal so well. I have no desire to be crapping myself forever more so was very happy to go for a section My son had a huge head (he was only 8lbs 12 so not enormous) but he was back to back and stuck, so they had to use the big forceps for him. Was a total palaver. I would have still had discomfort - not necessarily pain- for a few years afterwards. But if you are worried about the pain you’re having you should definitely speak to a GP or midwife about it.
It’s your choice and I think they would agree with youWhile we’re on the topic of elective c-sections, when I had my first baby I had a pre-eclampsia and ended up having a 3rd degree tear and lost around 2.5l of blood. I don’t remember any of my birth or the 24hrs afterwards, I don’t remember holding my baby for the first time or any of that, so only know anything from my partner. It was a really traumatic time for everyone, especially my partner who can’t watch anyone give birth on tv now because it brings back really crap memories for him. I was wondering what my chances of having a c-section actually are? I’m so worried I’m going to have to go through all that again now I’m pregnant again. I really don’t want to have to give birth naturally again
Some religions and cultures bury the placenta.When I did my birth plan there was a question about how I wanted the placenta delivered, and then the midwife asked if I wanted to keep it for anything
Oh I’ve never heard of that. I can’t imagine leaving the hospital carrying my placentaSome religions and cultures bury the placenta.
Not necessarily. We tend to stretch better with subsequent children but scar tissue can be less stretchy so you may tear. But the risk of tearing is less in multiparous women.I was cut when I had my daughter, It healed fine after a month or so but I’m a bit worried it will happen again, is they’re a higher risk second time round ?
We once had a couple take theirs home in an ice cream tub, and another couple used an roses tub. I have had to bring placentas to the hospital in my car boot after home births. I was so worried I'd forget it was in thereOh I’ve never heard of that. I can’t imagine leaving the hospital carrying my placenta
I hope that the treatment helps and you are in less pain soon xI’m sorry to hear thatI am currently having treatment for my issues
Yes my first section was with baby 3. I was very lucky that my parents did all the school runs for my eldest and took my middle (who was just shy of 3) out a few times a week so I had plenty of time to do nothing. But the days I had them all it was fine. I was careful with not picking them up etc, and just being sensible. I got my date at my 34 week appointment.
The recovery wasn’t anywhere near as bad as I thought tbh. First two weeks I was much better than I expected. Then it seemed to stall a bit around week 3-4, and by week 5 mostly back to normal.
Thank you so much!Yes my first section was with baby 3. I was very lucky that my parents did all the school runs for my eldest and took my middle (who was just shy of 3) out a few times a week so I had plenty of time to do nothing. But the days I had them all it was fine. I was careful with not picking them up etc, and just being sensible. I got my date at my 34 week appointment.
The recovery wasn’t anywhere near as bad as I thought tbh. First two weeks I was much better than I expected. Then it seemed to stall a bit around week 3-4, and by week 5 mostly back to normal.
So sorry to hear this. I hope your surgery goes ok and you feel well afterwards. XHey ladies, wish I was dropping in with good news but I’m not. Confirmed today that I have a blighted ovum and I’m having surgery this weekend. Hopefully I can join back here in a few months time with a healthy pregnancy! I have had all week to accept it so I was expecting this today. Hope your all feeling well! Go easy on the salt and vinegar crispsLove to you all xxx
Sending you all the love xxxxHey ladies, wish I was dropping in with good news but I’m not. Confirmed today that I have a blighted ovum and I’m having surgery this weekend. Hopefully I can join back here in a few months time with a healthy pregnancy! I have had all week to accept it so I was expecting this today. Hope your all feeling well! Go easy on the salt and vinegar crispsLove to you all xxx
I an so sorry. Lots of love and hope to see you back here soon xxHey ladies, wish I was dropping in with good news but I’m not. Confirmed today that I have a blighted ovum and I’m having surgery this weekend. Hopefully I can join back here in a few months time with a healthy pregnancy! I have had all week to accept it so I was expecting this today. Hope your all feeling well! Go easy on the salt and vinegar crispsLove to you all xxx
Sending you love too hope you comeSending you all the love xxxx
Hope all goes well and we see you back here again soon xHey ladies, wish I was dropping in with good news but I’m not. Confirmed today that I have a blighted ovum and I’m having surgery this weekend. Hopefully I can join back here in a few months time with a healthy pregnancy! I have had all week to accept it so I was expecting this today. Hope your all feeling well! Go easy on the salt and vinegar crispsLove to you all xxx
So sorry for your loss. Hope you get pregnant again very soon xxxx take careHey ladies, wish I was dropping in with good news but I’m not. Confirmed today that I have a blighted ovum and I’m having surgery this weekend. Hopefully I can join back here in a few months time with a healthy pregnancy! I have had all week to accept it so I was expecting this today. Hope your all feeling well! Go easy on the salt and vinegar crispsLove to you all xxx
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