I have no doubt that Phoebe is good at allowing and championing Vesper to learn through play and doing all the fun, fluffy type things. It’s great for effort to be made to pull out toys, build sensory areas because not all parents do that, that is one part of it though. By not allowing screen time doesn’t make her super mum and sure she wants time where she’ll not turn to a screen, amazing! But vesper doesn’t do that all the time anyway so it won’t be that hard when on holiday. (Different if it was Bossmummy who’s tablet parents sienna when out and about)
Allowing a child to go so long and have limited routine, structure and no consistency with cause and effect isnt going to work long term as it’s harder to build these things in the older they get. The little girl had no cosy space to call her own, her room was never made suitable for her and phoebe has admitted it herself, she couldn’t be bothered to decorate and make it her little girls room so just let her settle in a double bed etc because they co-bedded anyway with her for over 2 years. It was the same with weaning her off a bottle at night, she said then too she hadn’t tried to do it because it seemed like too much of an effort and a battle. She didn’t even know she should be taking her to the dentist or brushing her teeth at night.....at 2 years old!!!! maybe if she saw the health visitor then she’d be educated on parts of basic hygiene though!
In my opinion she is a very lazy parent and wants to avoid the true grit it takes to be resilient to get through the tough parts of what being a parent is. That’s why when she has no choice now but face up to what it takes when Vesper is kicking off she’s on insta moaning her face off in disbelief.
Vespers tantrums are definitely typical toddler tantrums, they all do it, but my point that I maybe didn’t make as clear is that without teaching the word no to something or whatever it may be they’re kicking off about and carrying that through, because we all have to learn, then it’s only going to get worse when she’s growing up and there’s also another child there. As someone else said though, the relationship between her and Jim is quite separate. They financially live and socialise partially separately and obviously parent in the same way.
The only woman to have ever mastered breastfeeding in the history of man is gearing up for whapping them out for the ‘gram Mach 2! 
