I don’t understand why you wouldn’t want it. NO parent is perfect and gets it 100% right, surely you’d want the support/ advice especially with your first so you can be a better parent?
Phoebe Court @swfeebs #2 Want a lecture? You're in the right place, brace yourself for a boob in the face
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our 2.5 year review was great! They are not there to criticise, more pick up on any developmental issues and offer support if needed. It’s not a pass or fail thing and as a parent I found the questionnaire they ask you to fill out really interesting. No concerns but I’m appreciative to live in an area where they are offered. It’s takes a village and al that jazz.... were they to give me advise then I don’t need to take it, but perhaps she should have vented to a trained professional about troublesome toddler behaviour rather than try to moneytize that rant on the internet.
She just likes to think Vesper is so advanced and sassy and so forward. She may well be.. doubt she has a choice with mick smugnel as a mummy!I don’t get the battle with the clothes? My daughter is 4 weeks younger than Vespar and Iv never had a battle with her?! I choose what shes wearing then I get her dressed, she’s never refused or demanded she wears something else? Maybe mine just isn’t interested in fashion yet
So glad she’s becoming a bit of a handful though after allll the smugness lately
Mick Smugnel, oh my god we need that in the next titleShe just likes to think Vesper is so advanced and sassy and so forward. She may well be.. doubt she has a choice with mick smugnel as a mummy!
But yeah, all these bleeping stories about V being a “nightmare” - she’s being a normal toddler you cow. And wait til the baby comes along, you might get some gram worthy cute snaps but it won’t be the plain sailing you’ll make it out to be
Certainly sounds like she could've done with her 2.5 year review!
Laughing at the smug face.
Maybe if she actually parented (instead of professing to be the textbook mummykins) and put her foot down with the “sassy” child who is obviously running the show, then she might be able to cope with the meltdowns a bit better! Her husband seems like a wet fart an all “explain to her” yes ok fella, just like you explained to her about her having to sleep in her own bed...bought a double bed for a toddler because you and your Mrs didn’t want to deal with the normal tit that most parents do! They’re going to have a rude awakening with Princess v and a newborn that’s for sure!
I’m not surprised about the clothes etc. Vesper hasn’t learned healthy boundaries and routine, she was still sharing a bed with them both from birth until a few months ago, obviously when Phoebe wanted to have sex to make the second baby! Can clearly see vesper is spoiled and I don’t mean with love and in a good way. She’s called the shots and I think partly with Phoebe, it’s pure laziness. She couldn’t be bothered for so long to parent and wants an easy life so it’s easier to let her do what she wants and fluff it round the edges to make it look good for insta casting it off as free expression.
I’m glad she’s having a dose of reality just now. She’s been lucky so far and now her smug arse with the ‘perfect’ newborn phase is realising it’s actually bloody hard. It’s so bad of me but I hope this new baby gives her a run for her money so she can realise how crappy of her it was when she went on about how easy a newborn is and that people are lying when they say it’s hard. She’s an absolute arse hole.
I’m glad she’s having a dose of reality just now. She’s been lucky so far and now her smug arse with the ‘perfect’ newborn phase is realising it’s actually bloody hard. It’s so bad of me but I hope this new baby gives her a run for her money so she can realise how crappy of her it was when she went on about how easy a newborn is and that people are lying when they say it’s hard. She’s an absolute arse hole.
I have to disagree in a way, I’ve always got the impression feebs goes way over the top with parenting vesper. Like there’s no half measures. She would always say she didn’t like her watching tv, she very begrudgingly gave her an iPad when they were on holiday. All the sensory play baskets? Those trays full of rice and farm animal toys?
I think what vesper is doing is pretty normal. But what makes it more amusing is feebs really thought all her iPad banning and truff trays would make her exempt from the terrible twos, and it just doesn’t work that way!
At 2 1/2 years old my kids just wore whatever I put them in ..... in fact they never made any fuss about what they wore till they were much older... 
Ridiculous to let a toddler rule the roost.... I had a smaller gap than she's going to have and it was hard work and my eldest was an easy going sweet natured boy who wasn't one bit jealous of his baby sister... in fact they quite liked each other as babies/toddlers lol!
Ridiculous to let a toddler rule the roost.... I had a smaller gap than she's going to have and it was hard work and my eldest was an easy going sweet natured boy who wasn't one bit jealous of his baby sister... in fact they quite liked each other as babies/toddlers lol!I have two of each, and the girls were more strong willed with their opinions and tried to battle against me more, when they were trying to assert themselves than the boys have been at the same age. I don’t think any amount of tuff trays and no tele time etc helps with personalities, and being demanding etc. This is where she needs to assert that she’s mummy, not asking her child whose the boss like on that story the other day, but clear boundaries, you choose your battles yes but clearly in this whole dressing instance vesper wants her own way, she’s not used to hearing no it would seem if they keep giving in to her, which is making a rod for their own backs in the long run! Get a grip woman, being a mum isn’t Insta perfect but sitting there moaning in your car when you could be handling it so much better is annoying!
I think I use ‘mummy is leaving now’ probably every time I try to leave somewhere with my 2 year old 
Not really that much of a challenge, just typical 2 year old behaviour trying to assert their independence!
Not really that much of a challenge, just typical 2 year old behaviour trying to assert their independence!I’m sorry but would I bollox want to buy a lunchbox from the co-op it’s the north’s version of Waitrose especially at £4.80!! Save £1.20 that’s a tit saving and god feebs your so relatable with all this money talk. Just shove it all in a bloody backpack in some sandwich bags ffs.
And no one asks where you get your lunchbox from they sell them ones everywhere.
And no one asks where you get your lunchbox from they sell them ones everywhere.
Asda had them yesterday for way cheaper !
I think another big thing Feebs has a problem with is if she says no, Jim says yes. Like she said before she battled for ages with her when she was tantrumming because she woke early to watch Jim's phone and Feebs said no. Then Jim got up and gave it to her.
Doesn't sound like she addresses it with him either, just rants to her followers.
So on top of that, I'm guessing she doesn't want to be seen as the bad parent
Doesn't sound like she addresses it with him either, just rants to her followers.
So on top of that, I'm guessing she doesn't want to be seen as the bad parent
I have no doubt that Phoebe is good at allowing and championing Vesper to learn through play and doing all the fun, fluffy type things. It’s great for effort to be made to pull out toys, build sensory areas because not all parents do that, that is one part of it though. By not allowing screen time doesn’t make her super mum and sure she wants time where she’ll not turn to a screen, amazing! But vesper doesn’t do that all the time anyway so it won’t be that hard when on holiday. (Different if it was Bossmummy who’s tablet parents sienna when out and about)
Allowing a child to go so long and have limited routine, structure and no consistency with cause and effect isnt going to work long term as it’s harder to build these things in the older they get. The little girl had no cosy space to call her own, her room was never made suitable for her and phoebe has admitted it herself, she couldn’t be bothered to decorate and make it her little girls room so just let her settle in a double bed etc because they co-bedded anyway with her for over 2 years. It was the same with weaning her off a bottle at night, she said then too she hadn’t tried to do it because it seemed like too much of an effort and a battle. She didn’t even know she should be taking her to the dentist or brushing her teeth at night.....at 2 years old!!!! maybe if she saw the health visitor then she’d be educated on parts of basic hygiene though!
In my opinion she is a very lazy parent and wants to avoid the true grit it takes to be resilient to get through the tough parts of what being a parent is. That’s why when she has no choice now but face up to what it takes when Vesper is kicking off she’s on insta moaning her face off in disbelief.
Vespers tantrums are definitely typical toddler tantrums, they all do it, but my point that I maybe didn’t make as clear is that without teaching the word no to something or whatever it may be they’re kicking off about and carrying that through, because we all have to learn, then it’s only going to get worse when she’s growing up and there’s also another child there. As someone else said though, the relationship between her and Jim is quite separate. They financially live and socialise partially separately and obviously parent in the same way.
Allowing a child to go so long and have limited routine, structure and no consistency with cause and effect isnt going to work long term as it’s harder to build these things in the older they get. The little girl had no cosy space to call her own, her room was never made suitable for her and phoebe has admitted it herself, she couldn’t be bothered to decorate and make it her little girls room so just let her settle in a double bed etc because they co-bedded anyway with her for over 2 years. It was the same with weaning her off a bottle at night, she said then too she hadn’t tried to do it because it seemed like too much of an effort and a battle. She didn’t even know she should be taking her to the dentist or brushing her teeth at night.....at 2 years old!!!! maybe if she saw the health visitor then she’d be educated on parts of basic hygiene though!
In my opinion she is a very lazy parent and wants to avoid the true grit it takes to be resilient to get through the tough parts of what being a parent is. That’s why when she has no choice now but face up to what it takes when Vesper is kicking off she’s on insta moaning her face off in disbelief.
Vespers tantrums are definitely typical toddler tantrums, they all do it, but my point that I maybe didn’t make as clear is that without teaching the word no to something or whatever it may be they’re kicking off about and carrying that through, because we all have to learn, then it’s only going to get worse when she’s growing up and there’s also another child there. As someone else said though, the relationship between her and Jim is quite separate. They financially live and socialise partially separately and obviously parent in the same way.
Buying a bike for a child who has only just learnt to scoot because Mummy wants to push her to overachieve at everything giving her things a year above her age and stage.
ThisBuying a bike for a child who has only just learnt to scoot because Mummy wants to push her to overachieve at everything giving her things a year above her age and stage.
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