I am so very confused by those stories.
I have a 3 year old. He is a whirlwind. HOWEVER, he knows that if he wants to get another toy out he "should" put another one away, granted it doesnt always work but regardless of that - he helps tidy up before bedtime as thats just part of his routine as it were. I couldnt cope with that much mess every single day. Tidy house, tidy mind, as they say.
I have a 3 year old. He is a whirlwind. HOWEVER, he knows that if he wants to get another toy out he "should" put another one away, granted it doesnt always work but regardless of that - he helps tidy up before bedtime as thats just part of his routine as it were. I couldnt cope with that much mess every single day. Tidy house, tidy mind, as they say.