Yip 100 percent this, if we all had Davinas money and not the everyday stresses of money worries on top of everything else I’m sure all our peri/menopause journeys would be a walk in the park
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And how much of that money has she made by being the first woman to go through the menopause?
I struggle with conversations with my closest friends sometimes, finding it hard to say what I want to say and getting words muddled up
It’s hard at this age and stage of life as there is expectation for you to have your tit together which most people don’t. Then you also start to feel “old” for the first time - it has definitely hit me a lot lately and I’m working with people who I could literally age wise be a mum to! That has messed my head up and I feel so judged by them, remember how old people in their 40s used to to feel to me at their age!
Clothes and looks wise, not helped by there being no shops that I want to buy from! I’m not ready for large Face, Seasalt etc yet but I again feel so old being in Zara, New Look or similar.
It feels like having to navigate a whole new way of life in so many areas, and with the physical and emotional parts of peri it is pretty hard!
Clothes and looks wise, not helped by there being no shops that I want to buy from! I’m not ready for large Face, Seasalt etc yet but I again feel so old being in Zara, New Look or similar.
It feels like having to navigate a whole new way of life in so many areas, and with the physical and emotional parts of peri it is pretty hard!
It is hard,you’re right about starting to feel old. I haven’t managed to go through most of the “important” life milestones, wedding, buying a house, etc ( it feeling much of an adult) so that combined with the fact people have always put my age at 10-15 years younger than I am, it’s a shock to be finding moving hard in new ways and an older face starting to look back in the mirror!
Clothes wise, my body has got thicker in the middle when I never had a waist to start with ( I had someone thinking I was pregnant again
) and my legs are bigger, my go to was always distract away from tummy with legs, and that isn’t working so much, I’m trying to buy more timeless classic/basics, which I’ve always loved as it makes financial sense but now it’s mainly that as I can’t fit in my more interesting pieces anymore. If I have to look basic, I’m gonna be the best quality basic I can manage. I’m hovering between utilitarian work wear/gorpcore/im a middle aged psychiatrist (I’m not).
I can’t imagine slipping into Seasalt in my seventies. It’s perfectly nice, just not me. I might be one of those ladies who wears a basic but fabulous cut black dress with some outrageous jewelry instead
Clothes wise, my body has got thicker in the middle when I never had a waist to start with ( I had someone thinking I was pregnant again
) and my legs are bigger, my go to was always distract away from tummy with legs, and that isn’t working so much, I’m trying to buy more timeless classic/basics, which I’ve always loved as it makes financial sense but now it’s mainly that as I can’t fit in my more interesting pieces anymore. If I have to look basic, I’m gonna be the best quality basic I can manage. I’m hovering between utilitarian work wear/gorpcore/im a middle aged psychiatrist (I’m not).I can’t imagine slipping into Seasalt in my seventies. It’s perfectly nice, just not me. I might be one of those ladies who wears a basic but fabulous cut black dress with some outrageous jewelry instead
It doesn't help that the weather is so unpredictable, it's hard to know what to wear anyway at this time of year
I'm 2 weeks into HRT now and I feel SO much better. The only side effect has been headaches, I had one constantly for the first four days, but only two shorter ones this weeks, so I'm hoping that's an adjustment thing and will go away soon. Mr F says he's noticed a big difference in me too.
How long can you stay on this? I presume you have to stop taking it at some point.
How long can you stay on this? I presume you have to stop taking it at some point.
That’s great news Falky. My experience is also fairly positive. I’m not sure how long to take these for, but assumed it would be until I’m through to the other side of the menopause.
Mil was on it for 5 years.
My wife just asked her but asked her as is “how long were you on HRT ? Asking for a friend
” and she replied “what friend?”
(We are both in our mid 40s. This house is NOT fun sometimes.)
My wife just asked her but asked her as is “how long were you on HRT ? Asking for a friend
” and she replied “what friend?”(We are both in our mid 40s. This house is NOT fun sometimes.)
I think you've explained it perfectly and I feel exactly like this, too
I hate my body and seeing it age so rapidly is adding to my depression. Coupled with having no motivation or energy to do anything. I just want to disappear TBH. I've also been bleeding now for nearly three weeks with my last period only two weeks before that.
I bleeping hate being a woman
It’s hard to know if it’s peri menopause or just that’s it’s a crap stage in life. I just feel that my elderly mum/work/teenagers ask a lot from me and I don’t get a whole lot back. Society treats women in our age groups like robots - we don’t have needs or feelings of our own - we are just expected to give, give, give….
It's like when people say they experience rage, particularly at their partners and kids, I always think their partners and kids probably deserve it.
I am about six months on patches now and feel like a brand new woman most days. Still have the odd day where I feel bleurrgh and useless but have always had that odd day.
I am 48 and last week went into town with a 22 year old male colleague I get on with well , got drunk and danced like a twit for hours. I felt like me again which I hadn't for a long time.
I had a kind of epiphany a few weeks ago that if I keep saying No to things and hibernating which was my reaction how would I be living at 70? Why was I saying No?
Since then I can honestly say my life has improved. I won't say twatty quotes like live each day etc ..but maybe pushing yourself to go on that walk, on that night out, for that meal is what you need.
I am 48 and last week went into town with a 22 year old male colleague I get on with well , got drunk and danced like a twit for hours. I felt like me again which I hadn't for a long time.
I had a kind of epiphany a few weeks ago that if I keep saying No to things and hibernating which was my reaction how would I be living at 70? Why was I saying No?
Since then I can honestly say my life has improved. I won't say twatty quotes like live each day etc ..but maybe pushing yourself to go on that walk, on that night out, for that meal is what you need.
I'm considering the mirena coil . I want my periods to stop as I can't cope with the episode of flooding I get during them. I'd consider the combined pill, but I don't know if they'd prescribed that cos I don't meet all the criteria now.
What puts me off the coil is the fact I might be disappointed if it didn't solve my period issues and the strings. I do still need contraception at this stage.
What puts me off the coil is the fact I might be disappointed if it didn't solve my period issues and the strings. I do still need contraception at this stage.
I'd be interested to know if anyone has experienced anything like this. I started HRT in March, Mirena coil plus patches. I've been having massive brain fog and fatigue so I went to my GP to ask for in increase from 50 to 75 mcg on the patches. She agreed, and asked about any unusual bleeding. I told her that after the coil was put in, I had no bleeding for about 5 months, then in August I had what seemed to be a period, and since then some spotting. I didn't think much about this as I assumed it was normal to get some random bleeding on the coil, but she said that after three months on the coil things shouldn't change like that, so she's referred me for a scan on a two week wait pathway. I'm quite happy to have the scan as it would be good to know if there's anything amiss, especially as I also have endometriosis, but has anyone else who has the coil been told that any changes with regard to bleeding after three months are unusual?
The scan is booked for Sat 28th and the clinic is called 'Post Menopausal Bleed' which I also find a bit odd as I don't think I qualify as post-menopausal yet!
The scan is booked for Sat 28th and the clinic is called 'Post Menopausal Bleed' which I also find a bit odd as I don't think I qualify as post-menopausal yet!
Thank you! xI had spotting for 6 months or so after having the coil fitted and they said it takes that to settle sometimes. Good to have the scan though to confirm all ok, hope it goes wellx
Yes, I recall being told it would take six months to settle. Always good to get things checked though so I'm actually glad to have the scan to make sure things are okay!
This is my 4th time trying HRT and it is working I think. It's made an enormous difference, I'm sleeping better albeit still waking up at 3am or 5am. My brain fog is lifting and I feel happy. Just wanted to share that it's worth pursuing. I do 2 urogestan tablets and 2 pumps of oestrogel daily.
Thought provoking post Nurseali, thank you. It is making me reflect on how I am not engaging with things then feeling stifled or confined (by my own choices!)
I've been looking into getting a coil, and it seems it doesn't stop periods for everyone, and these might be irregular.
It's a good thing they are checking there isn't another reason for your bleeding.
Totally recognise all these feelings of just feeling old ...in my head I'm still 18 and then I look in the mirror or my knees crack when I move and its just so depressing at times.
When i had my first HRT review the doc said she had a lady still on HRT at 90 something because it made her feel fab and she didn't want to come off it!!!
I do have bad news though - I have discovered that exercise does in fact make you feel better I've been doing a bit each day for three weeks and i'm sleeping better, coping better with stress and have more energy - ffs why can't donuts do that to you!!
At our age we need to be doing strength training and I've nearly done this four week beginners programme on youtube. I think its aimed at seniors but its great for beginners and for anyone who needs to go easy to start with. oh and if you want dumbells asda had some very reasonably priced one on their website - three weeks in and i can feel a muscle in my arm!
When i had my first HRT review the doc said she had a lady still on HRT at 90 something because it made her feel fab and she didn't want to come off it!!!
I do have bad news though - I have discovered that exercise does in fact make you feel better
I've been doing a bit each day for three weeks and i'm sleeping better, coping better with stress and have more energy - ffs why can't donuts do that to you!! At our age we need to be doing strength training and I've nearly done this four week beginners programme on youtube. I think its aimed at seniors but its great for beginners and for anyone who needs to go easy to start with. oh and if you want dumbells asda had some very reasonably priced one on their website - three weeks in and i can feel a muscle in my arm!
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