I bowed out of this thread a few threads back as I thought it was all getting too much. Especially with keels etc (I do still believe she had more of a personal vendetta against R to begin with)
... having caught up, I actually can’t believe I stuck up for her and even doubted some tattlers motives for ‘finding things out’. I was originally sent here by the rant, felt sorry for her, then started to doubt her, and subsequently thought it was nothing more than a witch hunt. Now I can’t believe how naive ive been. I’m absolutely heartbroken for the boys mother. Before I was 100% certain that R & J wouldn’t have got custody of the boys unless some serious stuff went down, that their Mum was abusive, neglectful etc. And now it seems totally apparent that wasn’t the case. I really really hope some truth comes out of all this (from the horses mouth I mean), and hope it all becomes too hot to handle and R can’t manage to keep it all under wraps another second longer. How awful.
Our Family Courts system is appalling; truly appalling. I don’t know what happened in Samantha’s case and I respect her privacy, however I do know it’s not as simple as “well the judge wouldn’t have taken the children away without reason”. I’m appalled at a decision made this week by a Cafcass worker that my s/u was not able to cope with her children. Not once has this worker seen the s/u with her children. There have been no concerns regarding her parenting from any of our staff nor the HV, social worker or schools. But a recommendation has been made that the children go to live with their father. He is the Perp of DA here and was a perp in a previous relationship (all on record).
That’s why I always ask people to look outside the smaller picture. The judge can’t disclose what has been said. A social worker can’t disclose. So we can hear PTWM’s side and Samantha has had her name vilified. Can you imagine her walking to a shop and thinking “have these people heard or read about me”.
Samantha has been portrayed as an alcoholic incapable of being a responsible parent. But she’s managed to raise her boy’s before their father left the family (on a son’s birthday) for another woman? I don’t think he worried much about the boys’ welfare when he was sneaking out to PTWM’s bed?
(Sorry if I come across as angry here, I’m usually laid back and patient but I’m unable to comment in public due to having to represent work and being professional. Here I can put my views across without fear of reprimand. I truly detest these instagrammers whom have made fame and fortune from exploiting vulnerable people. Be it new mums, victims of abuse, children, single parents... that’s all they do. Exploit. Write a post about realities of a
tit life that gets shared millions of times because we can relate to the mundane, repetitive cycle of cleaning, nappies, toddler tantrums, the 2am calpol, no money...that stuff gets to us. We read it and think “Oh, I love her. She’s telling it how it is” but it’s not real.