I realised that I haven’t really shared about myself on here.
When I was 18, I started talking to a guy on OK Cupid, which now feels very retro to say.
He was a couple of years older and lived more towards London than me. We had a lot in common and fancied each other, so we decided to meet up. We went out for a while and it was going really well, when I noticed that he was getting comfortable with me. The “mask was slipping”, as it usually does, around the three month mark. Where he had previously been really kind, he was now becoming critical and possessive. He would call me as many times as it took me to answer him, sometimes 20 times in a row, and was not at all understanding that I was at work. When we weren’t together, he would want phone sex and nudes every day - at his beck and call. If I didn’t want to, he would sulk and ignore me for the rest of the day. When we were together, he would try and tell me what to wear and how to behave. It was really quite irritating and hurt my feelings a lot of the time. It is obvious to me looking back, that he was a very insecure person. He would buy himself a lot of designer clothes and sunglasses to try and make himself feel better, I think.
Eventually, I got fed up of this and dumped him, by text. He drove to my work, which was a 45 minute drive from where he was working from home. I was walking down the street to where my car was parked and was driving really slowly next to me, shouting abuse. Things like how I should have been grateful that he even looked at me and the like.
We had no contact after that for a month or so and I started seeing someone new, who I had met IRL through my school friend. OK Cupid guy sees on social media and starts asking me all sorts of questions, seeming really bothered that he had been replaced. I blocked him on everything but he would still periodically email me to attempt to make contact. I ended up being with my then boyfriend for almost three years and towards the end of my relationship, he emailed me this song, with the following message: “this song makes me think of you, let me know your thoughts”. Curiosity got the best of me and I listened to it, it’s very bold and there is strong language!
Anyway, my then boyfriend cheated on me multiple times with the same woman and our relationship ended. He dumped me and left me for her once I found out. I was spiralling and incredibly vulnerable at that time, so I made a stupid judgement error and allowed OK Cupid guy to come back into my life. He asked me to go out for drinks with him so I (stupidly) agreed. We went to a bar in London. We had two drinks together. Over which, I was a reminded of why I had ended things before. He mentioned how he had bought an ex some Louboutin heels and that when they had an argument, he had taken them and scuffed them. He suggested after the drinks that we go for a walk. We walked around for 10 minutes and then he to me and said, “my friends from work are drinking in another bar, you’re not invited, so I’m going to go and spend time with them”. He then kissed me on the cheek and walked away, just leaving me standing there. I think he only asked me on the date so that he could “even the score” in his own mind about how things ended. He didn’t speak to me after that. He actually blocked me on everything.
He was a classic, textbook narcissist. Even to this day, 5 years on from that meeting, he still sometimes looks at my Instagram stories. I wonder what goes on in his head, but am glad I am away from him!
) had a little son etc. One day I got a text from his mum - '***** has died. Sorry' No...no he hasn't. So me and manager did some digging, I contacted one of his mates he had told me about. Sent him the full conversations we had been having. His mate confirm he hadn't died and he was going to ask him about all this. The guy (who had supposedly died) then text me calling me all the names and how messed up I was! 
