Odd Neighbours / Neighbour Problems #2

[SoulDestroyer]

Have you considered
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I really want to do this, sadly not got an evergreen shrub thats big enough!

 

[Ashfox]

My neighbours are still obsessed with my garden. They believe they own a part of it - it has been proven that they don’t, but they don’t believe their own solicitor nor mine. What irritating things can I put in this part of the garden? I’m not adverse to silly signs as long as they’re within the law

annoying! Could you pop a bench or a garden swing seat facing away from their property? As well as some planters with heavy rocks in? X

 

[hol20x]

My neighbours are still obsessed with my garden. They believe they own a part of it - it has been proven that they don’t, but they don’t believe their own solicitor nor mine. What irritating things can I put in this part of the garden? I’m not adverse to silly signs as long as they’re within the law

An electric fence

 

[Rxt156]

Some hole has blocked my drive with their car for the last 2 hours. No one to be seen. Can’t believe people think this is acceptable!

It’s not a huge road either so people only come to visit houses as there’s nothing else around. WTF

 

[Mollywobbles]

Some hole has blocked my drive with their car for the last 2 hours. No one to be seen. Can’t believe people think this is acceptable!

It’s not a huge road either so people only come to visit houses as there’s nothing else around. WTF

A note saying please do not block my drive and stuck onto the screen with pritt-stick is very effective

 

[Rxt156]

A note saying please do not block my drive and stuck onto the screen with pritt-stick is very effective

What is also effective:
Waiting for them to come back and telling them off . She won’t be doing it again

Must be a neighbours girlfriend. She was only about 18. Pulled a right face when I told her she’s blocked me in for hours. she said I’m going now. Welllll that’s ok then isn’t it

 

[AFlyOnYourWall]

I moved into some flats before when I was pregnant. I'm 5ft and look young for my age. My new 6ft loudmouth next door neighbour saw this so decided to knock on my door screaming and shouting that she was going to punch my baby out of me. My ex (sons dad) ended up dangling her over the stairs bannister and warning her not to ever threaten his child ever again. Things went quiet for a while. Then she started doing things like slamming doors really loud and other little things to get a rise out of me. One day she woke my baby up slamming the doors so I was like how about I get my child picked up and a kick you one end of this block of the flats to the other. Little miss I'll kick your baby out of you called police. Ended up going to mediation and I said literally all I want is to pretend you don't exist and vice versa. She got offered a new place a few weeks after so decided as a parting shot she would call social services on me. Her house move however fell through. I went to her work and asked to speak to her manager and explained I was an angry neighbour who she had called social services on and if they recieve any anonymous calls made about them they know who to blame - that was the job gone. My sons dad proceeded to bully her partner to the point he broke up with her cause he couldn't take the heat no more. She got a cash in hand job - that was until her ESA letter ended up in my post - so I went into her work to deliver it to her. I ended up getting the housing to move me to a house as I said I feared for my life. When I was moving out she rang housing to complain about me removing furniture from the flat was causing a fire hazard. As I left I went and thanked her as if it wasn't for her bullshit I wouldn't have got my new house. She wanted to kill me but knew I was ready to rock and roll.

My point is sometimes you have to out psycho these horrible nasty people. Nowadays my partner is the local hard man so obviously nobody bothers me lmao.

bleeping hell I thought my neighbours were bad… I think I need a drink after reading that

 

[Lucyxxxx]

I do have an idea for some neighbour issues. Approach the local hard man and ask him to start "nipping over" aka get himself spotted around your house. Be amazed how quickly the issues disappear.

 

[SoulDestroyer]

An electric fence

Would love one, but it'd have to be next to the footpath and I don't think that's legal

 

[flutternutter]

Some hole has blocked my drive with their car for the last 2 hours. No one to be seen. Can’t believe people think this is acceptable!

It’s not a huge road either so people only come to visit houses as there’s nothing else around. WTF

My neighbours lot do this. Expect you just to knock on every door until you find the owner... i would direct everyone to them twats

 

[Mollywobbles]

My neighbours lot do this. Expect you just to knock on every door until you find the owner... i would direct everyone to them twats

Wasn’t there a film with Eddie Murphy when he stuck a banana up someone’s exhaust pipe. Car wouldn’t start. They had no idea why.
Now, something like that, maybe a potato, even an apple….

 

[SoulDestroyer]

My neighbours are still obsessed with my garden. They believe they own a part of it - it has been proven that they don’t, but they don’t believe their own solicitor nor mine. What irritating things can I put in this part of the garden? I’m not adverse to silly signs as long as they’re within the law

Crazy neighbour's taking pictures of my garden again. I know it's not illegal as she's stood on the pavement, but with all the harassment we've had she's clearly just doing it to upset us/annoy us. She's unhinged.

 

[ChubClubThug]

Crazy neighbour's taking pictures of my garden again. I know it's not illegal as she's stood on the pavement, but with all the harassment we've had she's clearly just doing it to upset us/annoy us. She's unhinged.

I'd take pics of hers the same time she's doing it and make sure they know

 

[Future]

Crazy neighbour's taking pictures of my garden again. I know it's not illegal as she's stood on the pavement, but with all the harassment we've had she's clearly just doing it to upset us/annoy us. She's unhinged.

Take pictures of her taking pictures to try freak her out!

 

[Louise13]

So unfortunately this is going to be a long and serious one - TW possibly for stalking and harassment.

For background, myself and my partner bought our dream house three years ago, we live in a small cul-de-sac of only 6 houses in a small village and we are a bit out of the way so it's quite a secluded area. When we moved in we had no issues with the neighbours until our direct next door neighbour sold the house and a new neighbour moved in. I would consider us to be good neighbours, we have socialised with all our neighbours, say hello in passing and chat for a few minutes and we have even helped neighbours grit their driveways in the icy weather and helped them with their gardens (cutting grass etc.) - most of our neighbours are elderly except a family with adult children and the neighbour we are having the issue with who is a single man around his late 40s, and we are a young couple with no kids. Our house is detached so there is no issues with noise and we have a driveway for both our cars so no issues in that regard. Apart from all this we really keep ourselves to ourselves, I'm quite shy and not interested in being friends with the neighbours aside from the usual niceties.

When our previous next door neighbour moved we first met our new neighbour as he was moving into the house while we were doing some work in the front garden, we introduced ourselves, chatted a bit and that was it. We both felt he seemed a bit odd, he had moved on his own across the country with no job to go to and it was a bit unusual that he had bought the house next to us which was a fairly expensive family home when he was living on his own and had no employment. We also found out that he was looking for jobs in the area that were generally minimum wage roles (bartending, shop assistant etc.) and he previously worked in a care home, to be clear, I don't think that there's anything wrong with that but it seemed very odd when we knew how much he had paid for the house. He offered all this information without any prompting from us. Myself and my partner both found it a bit strange but thought he likely had family money and a big deposit or something and never thought too much of it after that. In the two years he has lived there he has got a few jobs here and there and been sacked from every single one, he seems to rub a lot of people up the wrong way and I do find he comes across as a bit arrogant and patronising which is quite strange as he is also quite soft spoken and he definitely doesn't have a tough guy persona (he reminds me of Phil Spencer lol).

The first incident happened a few months later when my partner was away for the weekend on a stag do, I was doing some work in our back garden and he popped up over the fence and started talking to me while I was obviously busy. He talked to me for 2 hours and I felt completely trapped, no matter how much I tried to politely leave the conversation he kept on going on going and asking me all manner of personal questions, he then asked me if I wanted to come over to his for dinner as I was on my own for the weekend, I hadn't told him this and I felt sick at his words, I made an excuse and left and didn't go back out again. For the whole weekend I was scared to leave the house in case I saw him. I told my partner about this and he said I was probably worried for nothing and that the guy was probably being over friendly as he doesn't know anyone in the area. I hoped that this was true but unfortunately not... over the next few months he managed to corner me multiple times when I was outside doing anything - always when my partner was not home. I chatted politely and for too long because he honestly was scaring me and I wasn't sure how he would react if I was rude or fobbed him off. The things he would try to talk about were deeply personal, asking me where I work, how much I earn, whether I work from home, he even asked me about medical issues that I have after he saw my partner bringing me home from the hospital after a surgery.

Then things started to escalate further, a few days after an incident where he had approached me while my partner was actually home and I managed to hurriedly make an excuse and dash into the house where my partner was waiting at the door for me, I got a knock on the door from said neighbour. It was on a weekday in the middle of the day when I was working from home and my partner was out at work and wouldn't be home for several hours. The neighbour told me he wanted to see a tree in our garden that was overhanging his fence as he wanted to prune it and walked into our house and through to the back without invitation to look out of the window at the tree. He then sat down at our dining room table and started questioning me, he told me that he thought my partner was abusing me as I was always nervous around him and because I wouldn't speak to him when my partner was there. I told him I was fine and there was no issue, he stayed in my house for around 45 minutes and made comments that I was "cute" and "pretty" before I eventually convinced him to leave me alone because I was working, at this point my anxiety was through the roof and after he left I had a full blown panic attack and actually had to finish work early because I was so shaken up. Since then he has knocked on the door multiple times when I am home alone, I have managed to ignore him most of the time but our door is right next to a window into our downstairs which is all open plan so if I'm downstairs he can see me through the window and he stands there until I answer. He has done various things which seem like excuses to come over and try to get into the house and on some occasions he has brought me gifts, luckily I have managed to keep him out.

Things escalated even further last week, he knocked on the door and as I was expecting a parcel I went to the door without thinking. I opened the door and he told me he wanted to "clear the air between us", he said that he thought my partner was jealous of us speaking to each other and being friends because he is a "single guy" and he seemed quite agitated and forceful I managed to get rid of him and I immediately left the house and went to work from the office instead, since this has happened I have been working in the office a lot more as I am scared to be at home on my own in case he comes over and I have noticed that he has been watching me leave and come back. I have purchased and installed a ring doorbell today and I'm hoping this will deter him from coming to the door.

As if the whole situation couldn't get any weirder, my dad called me today to say that a family member of my neighbour who he knows as they work in a shop he goes to, had warned my dad that my neighbour had been talking about me to his family saying that my partner was jealous of our friendship etc. she told him he is a real weirdo and that he is also a drug user and drug dealer! Bear in mind that my dad barely knows this girl aside from him visiting the shop that she works at (he has had parts invoiced to me at my address before so it is in their system which is how she must have known he was my dad), but she was able to provide details of who me and my partner are to my dad which makes me think that the neighbour must talk about us/me a lot.

Genuinely I'm worried that this guy is obsessed with me, I'm scared for my safety and I'm not sure if there's anything I can do about it. I'm reluctant to go to the police as I don't think he has committed a crime and I don't have any evidence. I think they would go and speak to him I'm worried that this will make things worse. Has anyone had a similar situation and what did you do?

So I read all your lovely comments and it was so nice to see all your support and suggestions. I thought I would give a quick update as to what’s happened since.

My dad went and spoke my neighbours relative again and she offered to speak to him about his behaviour which i accepted. She updated me today and basically it was very weird, she told him that his behaviour was inappropriate and was making me feel very uncomfortable around him and he told her that I was unhappy with my partner and wanted to leave him and he was waiting to make his move?! Apparently the comments that made him think that was one time when he barged in my house he commented on a bunch of flowers and asked if my partner bought them for me and I said as a throwaway comment that he doesn’t buy me flowers, the other time was when I barely knew him he asked how long me and my partner had been together and I said “7 years and still no ring” as a jokey comment. He told her that he would propose to me and buy me flowers all the time, she reiterated to him that that is completely inappropriate and that if he didn’t stop harassing me my dad would come and “knock his block off”. Apparently he’s looking to move away now and he hasn’t been back to our house since.

I have a ring doorbell and cameras set up now and haven’t seen anything of note either, he’s not been onto our property at all and seems to be actively avoiding us which is great.

I also went and spoke informally to a PSCO - I actually share an office with our local police (I don’t work for the police) so I just popped over to their area while I was working and asked what they thought I should do. They advised that it would definitely be classed as harassment and that I should keep a diary of incidents and make sure I save any ring footage as evidence. They offered to go and speak to him but as the situation seems to have calmed down a bit now I don’t think it’s necessary at the moment.

I did consider some of the other suggestions such as getting a door chain but I haven’t, we have just had a new front door installed and I’m reluctant to drill into the new PVC. I absolutely will though if his behaviour starts up again.

Someone also asked what my partner thinks of the whole thing, he is supportive but he has not experienced any of the behaviour firsthand and I don’t think as an over 6 foot man he really gets the genuine feeling of fear that you feel when someone is harassing you or making you feel threatened in a sexual way. He has offered multiple times to go and speak to the neighbour but I felt that as the neighbour thinks he is controlling/abusive towards me that it might feed into his delusion more that my partner is jealous of us speaking and this could further inflame the situation. I also felt a little crazy about the whole thing and like maybe I was making a big deal out of nothing so it wasn’t until his family member confirmed what a creep he is that I felt justified in my feelings about him.

So overall positive I think? I’m praying that he is serious about moving away so then I won’t have to worry about him anymore, thankfully it definitely seems to have calmed down in the past few weeks which is great and I’m starting to feel a bit more relaxed and comfortable.

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

So I read all your lovely comments and it was so nice to see all your support and suggestions. I thought I would give a quick update as to what’s happened since.

My dad went and spoke my neighbours relative again and she offered to speak to him about his behaviour which i accepted. She updated me today and basically it was very weird, she told him that his behaviour was inappropriate and was making me feel very uncomfortable around him and he told her that I was unhappy with my partner and wanted to leave him and he was waiting to make his move?! Apparently the comments that made him think that was one time when he barged in my house he commented on a bunch of flowers and asked if my partner bought them for me and I said as a throwaway comment that he doesn’t buy me flowers, the other time was when I barely knew him he asked how long me and my partner had been together and I said “7 years and still no ring” as a jokey comment. He told her that he would propose to me and buy me flowers all the time, she reiterated to him that that is completely inappropriate and that if he didn’t stop harassing me my dad would come and “knock his block off”. Apparently he’s looking to move away now and he hasn’t been back to our house since.

I have a ring doorbell and cameras set up now and haven’t seen anything of note either, he’s not been onto our property at all and seems to be actively avoiding us which is great.

I also went and spoke informally to a PSCO - I actually share an office with our local police (I don’t work for the police) so I just popped over to their area while I was working and asked what they thought I should do. They advised that it would definitely be classed as harassment and that I should keep a diary of incidents and make sure I save any ring footage as evidence. They offered to go and speak to him but as the situation seems to have calmed down a bit now I don’t think it’s necessary at the moment.

I did consider some of the other suggestions such as getting a door chain but I haven’t, we have just had a new front door installed and I’m reluctant to drill into the new PVC. I absolutely will though if his behaviour starts up again.

Someone also asked what my partner thinks of the whole thing, he is supportive but he has not experienced any of the behaviour firsthand and I don’t think as an over 6 foot man he really gets the genuine feeling of fear that you feel when someone is harassing you or making you feel threatened in a sexual way. He has offered multiple times to go and speak to the neighbour but I felt that as the neighbour thinks he is controlling/abusive towards me that it might feed into his delusion more that my partner is jealous of us speaking and this could further inflame the situation. I also felt a little crazy about the whole thing and like maybe I was making a big deal out of nothing so it wasn’t until his family member confirmed what a creep he is that I felt justified in my feelings about him.

So overall positive I think? I’m praying that he is serious about moving away so then I won’t have to worry about him anymore, thankfully it definitely seems to have calmed down in the past few weeks which is great and I’m starting to feel a bit more relaxed and comfortable.

Yeah there is some positive stuff in there. Your neighbour does sound slightly mentally unwell though (and a bit fixated and mildly delusional) which could be problematic.

I think I'd avoid any contact now where possible, including your partner speaking to him about the situation.

I hope he moves and you can relax. It's awful to not feel comfortable in what is meant to be your safe space.

 

[Jyhy1110]

So I wrote on here on the 6th December about my neighbours cat poo roof and had previous posts about their filthy child and house etc, I contacted environmental health and they didn’t get back to me, I contacted them again a month later and they asked for photo evidence which I sent them, they have since sent a letter to them and have now booked an appt for an inspection, this complaint also was forwarded to the nursery the child goes too and they have child services contacting them next week, hopefully this is the biggest kick up their arses to provide a clean healthy home for their kid! They now think the world is against them and they live perfectly fine clearly not if environmental health and social services are involved

 

[Some People!]

So I wrote on here on the 6th December about my neighbours cat poo roof and had previous posts about their filthy child and house etc, I contacted environmental health and they didn’t get back to me, I contacted them again a month later and they asked for photo evidence which I sent them, they have since sent a letter to them and have now booked an appt for an inspection, this complaint also was forwarded to the nursery the child goes too and they have child services contacting them next week, hopefully this is the biggest kick up their arses to provide a clean healthy home for their kid! They now think the world is against them and they live perfectly fine clearly not if environmental health and social services are involved

Will they keep your name & evidence out of it? I always dread them ever knowing it was, for example, a picture clearly taken from my upstairs window that got them in trouble.

 

[Jyhy1110]

Will they keep your name & evidence out of it? I always dread them ever knowing it was, for example, a picture clearly taken from my upstairs window that got them in trouble.

no the council are not allowed to give my details out, I asked the council man on my emails to stay anonymous,he said claimant details are never shared and he won’t be allowed to show them the pics either

 

[Some People!]

no the council are not allowed to give my details out, I asked the council man on my emails to stay anonymous,he said claimant details are never shared and he won’t be allowed to show them the pics either

Amazing, that's good to know.

I hope this finally gets these issues sorted for your benefit as well as theirs.