Yes I think so, she doesn’t have any friendship circle, I think she’s abit of a hermit aswell and doesn’t go out much either, she also is a cleaner at a school (ironic as their house is a dump) so she also works alone, I feel sorry for her but also life is also what you make it, her and her partner also neglect their child too so then I stop feeling sorry for her and feel for the child hence why I reported them to nursery and they’ve since had home visits and health visitors roundWhy does she need you to go if her partner is going anyway? It would be different if she was going alone with the child I guess. Is the woman really lonely and using the fact that your child is at the same nursery to try and forge a friendship?
You can't be expected to bankroll their kid's company at their bday thing.No I would have to pay myself, she’s only booking for herself, partner and child I would have to fund my child and self
Exactly, that is a lot to ask someone to spend for a children's birthday at any time, let alone at the momentYou’re just going to have to be honest and tell her it’s too expensive for you. I take it you’re not close friends with her, so it’s not like you’re losing her friendship. I feel sorry for the little boy, but you’re not responsible for his birthday
I have stumbled across this thread and your situation sounds so much like me and my previous neighbours. Both worked but the house was a tip and they never took the children anywhere.Yes I think so, she doesn’t have any friendship circle, I think she’s abit of a hermit aswell and doesn’t go out much either, she also is a cleaner at a school (ironic as their house is a dump) so she also works alone, I feel sorry for her but also life is also what you make it, her and her partner also neglect their child too so then I stop feeling sorry for her and feel for the child hence why I reported them to nursery and they’ve since had home visits and health visitors round
Thank you it’s so stressful isn’t it! That’s also why I don’t want to go out with them either as they are only neighbours and not friends, I hate it when she watches me and my son in the garden it makes me really uncomfortable and I end up going indoors, she knows I’m a single parent too so it’s only me that can say yes or no I don’t have any back upI have stumbled across this thread and your situation sounds so much like me and my previous neighbours. Both worked but the house was a tip and they never took the children anywhere.
At first I felt sorry for them and joined them in on trips to the park, walks but soon it became expected. It was almost like being under siege, we couldn't set foot in the garden without her encouraging her kids to lean out the windows and shout my kids names, it really limited our enjoyment of our home.
I think what I'm saying is that some people you just have to hold at arms length for your own sanity.
Like a previous poster said possibly pop a card through and make your excuses. You sound like a really nice person but ultimately its not your responsibility to make their lives better.
Update on my neighbour - had been mostly avoiding but saw her in the street just now with her kids. Walked past and said "hey!" with a rictus grin. As soon as she was gone dropped the smile and called her a cunt under my breath. Felt good. She can't accuse me of anything now and if she does I am literally never speaking to her again. Twat.Always follow your gut instinct - you have it for a reason.
The last time I ignored mine I lived to regret it (Mine was neighbour related too).
Next time you see her be polite and nice but I wouldn’t confide in her anymore.
If I thought a friend had been “off” with me and not their usual self, I’d ask them either if 1. I’d done something to upset them or 2. if everything was okay?
You’ve told her what is wrong and perhaps her “ready to talk” was a clumsy way of saying “I’m here if you need a shoulder to cry on”
I’d see how she is next time you see her and if she pushes you just say “Thanks but I’m trying to deal with it myself at the moment.” Stay polite and nice if possible.
Follow your gut instinct. I ignored mine and gave my new neighbour “friend” 2 chances before I realised what she was really like. The day she moved in she was incredibly rude to me but I put it down to the stress of a house move even though I felt something wasn’t quite right. I ignored my gut instinct. She is the neighbour from hell. Next time alarm bells are going off in my head, I’ll listen to them!
I’m sorry you‘re dealing with so much crap in your life right now. There is a support thread on this forum to vent and ask for advice if you feel it would help.
Take care x
Depends what the planning permission is for?Trying to write my application to object to a neighbour's planning permission - it's very hard to keep it factual which is what the Council requires. Has anyone had any success in this area that could offer me some tips on what the the Planning Department will look for?
What are you objecting to and why?Trying to write my application to object to a neighbour's planning permission - it's very hard to keep it factual which is what the Council requires. Has anyone had any success in this area that could offer me some tips on what the the Planning Department will look for?
As others have said, it depends what it is. But the usual things for extensions (I'm assuming that's what it is) are loss of light, overbearing, too close to a neighbour's habitable room, changes to the street scene, the layout is inappropriate, reduction in the amount of car parking etc etcTrying to write my application to object to a neighbour's planning permission - it's very hard to keep it factual which is what the Council requires. Has anyone had any success in this area that could offer me some tips on what the the Planning Department will look for?
This is it. If they're actually proposing to do something outlandish it wouldn't go through anyways. If they're planning something pretty ordinary or with local precedent your objection will likely count for nothing to Planning but be published online and make things awk between you & your neighbour.What are you objecting to and why?
Quite often, although you have the right to object, it will still go through and then just put bad blood between neighbours wondering who it was... unless its very obvious! If youre objecting an extension and other ppl have the same size extension already, its very unlikely they will side with you I'm afraid.
We are in a semi detached and always tell our neighbours about noisy work and they reciprocate.If you lived in an old terrace house and you were having a new roof put on… you would have the decency to warn your neighbour’s on either side, wouldn’t you, before the work was done? Came home from work and there’s scaffolding at the front and back… fair enough. Then yesterday morning, the scaffolders came and put a ladder diagonally across my front door to climd onto the scaffolding and they’ve knocked over my plant pots!! Fuck me. Manners cost nothing.
Oh, and they should have actually asked me if I was ok with them putting on a new roof on as they have to take some of my tiles off when they join them. Dicks.
Can you contact the RSPCA anonymously?Hoping for some advice re couple in flats.
Aside from the many many rows & breakups with their partner & visits from the police of which I no longer bat an eyelid over* However I am concerned about their cats. They spend periods of time away from the flat depending if they’re getting on or not..
They have numerous cats which are left in or out whilst they’re away - for 24 hours + and not being fed - they are almost feral. They recently got another cat which is left alone locked in not being socialised.
I have started feeding them if it’s longer then 24 hours but worried about the cats & also not comfortable saying something.
Any advice gratefully received x
*Reports of DV but zero steps from their family, friends or themselves to break cycle…
If that were my neighbours I'd die laughing - they're a very middle class couple so more like, "I'm so cross with you!" and "I was just trying to be CONSTRUCTIVE, Marjorie!"This weeks cringe from the neighbours
Dad to preteen son “Shut up, you’re ruining my f’ing life”
Preteen son “F off you fat f’ing c*nt”
I think it’s more the Dad constantly belittling the kids calling them re tards and saying they have ruined his lifeIf that were my neighbours I'd die laughing - they're a very middle class couple so more like, "I'm so cross with you!" and "I was just trying to be CONSTRUCTIVE, Marjorie!"
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