I can’t decide what to make of Ana. The whole situation reminds me a lot of my own, so I wonder if the situation for niomi/Ana will play out the same...
My partner broke up with his girlfriend of two years, shortly after they’d moved in together. The ex reminds me a LOT of niomi in her behaviour. She ignored a lot of the “red flags” that he was unhappy (he told her he wasn’t sure, he didn’t want to move in but she pushed the issue etc). So the breakup came as a “shock” to her. She held out hope that he’d change his mind, which I suspect Niomi did too for a while.
as he was the one who did the breaking up he felt very guilty for a while over it. He sad he’d “checked” out and just knew it wasn’t what he wanted. There was no big argument, nothing specific. The seed of doubt just sprouted one day and kept growing. I suspect it was the same for Joe.
like Joe and Ana, he and I started dating a few months after his breakup. His ex stalked me **religiously**. I felt like the other woman (which I most definitely was not). I felt too guilty to post him on my Instagram for a long time and he wasn’t keen on it either, he felt guilty for moving on faster than her. Perhaps Ana and I were in a similar situation in that regard. It’s not an easy place to be - you feel like “the other woman” because you know the ex and her friends despise you and it was clear his ex still felt he was “hers”. Holding back from posting felt like I was keeping it a dirty secret, even though I knew I wasn’t doing anything wrong. When you’ve met a guy you’re excited about and see a future with, it’s exciting and you want to be open about it and revel in it. Having a relatively recent ex in the picture keeping tabs, tarnished those early days of dating for me. And of course it’s hard to find someone to empathise with you because ultimately, you’re better off than the unhappy sad depressed dumpee.
his ex pretended she was “Living her best life” online for a long time after the breakup. To look at her social media her posts were OTT and she frequently posted about how great it was being single, even though I knew through mutual friends she wasn’t handling it well at all, hated being single and had never been single for more than a handful of months. I always knew she directed her hatred and anger at me instead of her ex boyfriend.
she was desperate for a new boyfriend too. She fell hard for a guy I know and was very full on in asking him out, but he wasn’t interested. She also had a lot of one night stands, which isn’t bad in and of itself, but I got the impression she was hoping a one night stand would turn into something more - which is setting yourself up for failure somewhat.
after that stage, she gave up on men. She posted a lot of passive aggressive content aimed pretty obviously at him. She openly (online and to friends) blamed him for a bad experience and he was the reason she was put off men. Very much like Niomi, she never accepted her personal responsibility. The fact she pushed him into moving in when he wasn’t ready, the fact she ignored him when he expressed misgivings. She stuck her head in the sand and it didn’t work out, very reminiscent of niomi.
a few years later me and the boyfriend are super happy, we are much better suited and I post him online now
So yeh Ana comes across as a bit bitchy now but I wonder how much has gone on behind the scenes and how fed up she has gotten. It has been almost a year.
I don’t think Niomi will get into a relationship as quickly as we think she will. I don’t think it’s the loss of joe necessarily (obviously they didn’t have a connection that was very deep). I think her confidence in dating and relationships will be deeply shaken (very much like my boyfriend’s ex). I think she is probably over joe but probably not over the shock of her Imagined future falling apart, the shock of her judgement failing her. That is extremely tough to think about and move on from. Nigh on impossible if you don’t spend time reflecting on it or accepting personal responsibility.
I am anticipating an official couple’s photo on her Insta any day now 
This drama is giving me life