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Amazing. They have a WALLPAPER of books in their study, but not ACTUAL books. This is so consistent with everything we know about her & I'm rolling
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Well, being vegan for ethical reasons (not to say this is Niomi's prime motivation) means that if scouring a few menus results in less animal suffering and death, that's a good trade. There are plenty of things to criticise Niomi for - including her personal brand of veganism, which is restrictive and avoidant of anything outside of the health vogue - but I don't think veganism while travelling is one, personally.and wherever she goes she just eats the same food as well, I think I have said this before but being vegan really does make eating (which for me is a huge part of travel) boring IMO (I know there are LOADS of amazing vegan options everywhere, especially in India, but it would annoy me to have to really scour menus sometimes to make sure who i was with could eat something and not try local specialties- not to mention Joeeyyyyy always only ate vegan with her too. Imagine going to greece and not eating fish or seafood?)
Sure she did. She worshipped the Temple of Soho House for the whole two months. #culturalexperience #socultured #realindiaI don’t know if anyone has ever mentioned how Rosanna Falconer went to India and posted the most gorgeous pictures of palaces and forts, yet Niomi was there for two months and didn’t visit a single one.
Direct messages: 0'Just thought I'd show the clothing in action', simper simper.
So I watched the video, and I do give her props for actually talking about the breakup, because she was glossing over it in her other videos. Classic Niomi still has to make it all self-congratulatory (as many have said).
The biggest red flag to me relates to how she said it wasn’t meant to be, and she didn’t realize she was on the wrong path, and she just had to realize that if they were meant to get married, he wouldn’t be doing these things to her. I don’t think there’s an issue with rationalizing that it wasn’t meant to be, so it’s time to move on, but she speaks as though that’s the whole extent of it, rather than to look at what actually went wrong.
She clearly talks about how they had issues and weren’t perfect, but she had convinced herself that she was in this fairy tale. However, it comes across like the only problem from her end was not realizing that they weren’t perfect, and glossing over any issues they had that caused the relationship to not be perfect (whereas Joe clearly cared about the disagreements/issues, to the point that he felt it was the right thing to end the relationship). She’s basically coming across like she didn’t realize the problems they had were actually problems, and THAT was the problem. When in reality, that IS a problem, but it’s only one - and ignores the actual issues that she was glossing over.
Two people don’t need to be perfect for each other to be in a happy, committed, loving relationship. It’s ok to have issues and differences, but both people have to work together to keep the relationship happy and healthy. Now, this is pure speculation on my end, but based on 1) what we saw in their videos, and 2) what Niomi said about not recognizing their problems, it wouldn’t surprise me if Joe had concerns (whether that be about not being able to eat what he wants, constantly having his private life on camera, or anything really), and if he tried to address them, Niomi may have just glossed over the issues, apologizing to try to make the issue go away, but not actually changing her behavior. If that was the case, it wouldn’t surprise me that Joe ended things, seeing how she wasn’t willing to work with him to make changes.
We’re all human and I’m sure Joe has his own issues, but I’m curious as to whether Niomi ever raised any issues with things relating to him that they needed to work through. Based on what she said about it being a fairy tale, it wouldn’t surprise me if she had overlooked any issues/concerns/disagreements she had regarding Joe. However, if she did raise any concerns with him, and Joe did try to make changes to address the issue, I could see that being another problem for Joe- that he’s willing to work through his shortcomings but she isn’t. Of course, this is all hypothetical.
All I’m trying to get at is that if 2 people are willing to work through issues together, things are more likely to work out. It seems like she ignored the issues or didn’t think too much of them. While that in itself is an issue that she can now recognize, I worry that if she hasn’t addressed the actual issues on her end in the relationship, she’s likely to bring them into her next relationship.
Hi! Back again because I feel like a dork for engaging with her content again after I swore off, but... I watched the video. Here are my thoughts:
- Multiple things can be true at once. She can be blindsided while at the same time, it could have been very clear there was a problem.
- Would not be shocked if she was blind to issues and therefore was blindsided so I do feel for her but mostly... I feel for her for not realizing there was a problem
- I really hope she develops some SELF AWARENESS. I have never been in a breakup where (and I've been in many) I didn't take time to think about what I had done. What if anything I did wrong. And there is SO much more to that than realizing someone wasn't on the right path. Was he"not her person" because she didn't think about changing and developing as a person?
- I do feel for her but only because I think she won't grow from this
- I feel gaslighted by her confidence in her being someone who doesn't need to change or grow. Like, it truly feels to me that she wanted to be accepted for exactly who she is. Which sounds like a fair thing, but who she is is a walking advertisement. I am convinced they broke up because he didn't want to live his life on camera and if that is the case... then her commitment to being an influencer trumping her relationship means that she had a role in this and it's not like she was dumped out of the blue.
- the whole video felt very contrived and I think she is blind to who she really is as a person
- there's always two sides to a story. If Joe dumped her with no conversation or warning then that is absolute shit. Maybe that happened. Maybe signs were ignored. I really wonder... if there was a window for self reflection and getting back to have a chat and pick things up. That DOES happen sometimes, happened to me earlier this year, we broke up and after 5 days of self analysis, conversation and a thorough letter explaining myself and what I wanted to change personally and between us, we got back together. Now moving in together as we face a lockdown. <3 But seriously, there might have been a window. I have a hard time thinking about Joe thinking there is no chance of getting back together unless he knew she would never give up being an influencer.
- I really think his job / dream loss given what happened with India and the job was a killer. I got the vibe from their lockdown videos that she didn't really get it, was blind to that, didn't support him. In that situation, + depression, + lockdown, I wouldn't be shocked if he wasn't his usual fawning self. She's materialistic to say the least so I wouldn't be shocked if she felt he was not a good person based on that very normal life change/perspective change.
So in summation, she does have some of my sympathy but mostly because I think her sense of who she is as a person is pretty underdeveloped.
Is this harsh? Maybe. But this year has taught us all to really question things and I'm just not buying what she's literally selling in this video (ads).
Completely agree with these posts as well as @judgejohndeed, @Ramster93 and @QueenBW (as usual!).Look, I think Niomi has every right to feel angry with Joe and think badly of him if she wants to. It happened to her and she was dumped while planning a wedding, that’s a unique kind of dumping and it hurts. So Niomi is gonna feel a way about it, fine.
However, it doesn’t make me feel angry at Joe, or think he’s a bad person. It sucks, of course, but these things happen and it’s horrible timing but you realize you just can’t marry someone, you don’t love them enough, what really are you meant to do? Perhaps we all haven’t been in this extreme of a situation but I’m sure many of us have found ourselves in situations that we start to second guess, situations we convinced ourselves were what we wanted and then realized that life had gotten away from us.
I do believe he thought he wanted to marry her, and... this might be an unpopular opinion but i think it’s brave to actually fully realize it‘s not right and to defy the ‘but it’s all booked!’ ‘But what will her family say?’ typical reactions and just know it is wrong.
Again, I totally understand that Niomi would hear this and not give a shit and have all sorts of things to throw back at him and that’s her right. But objectively, if you don’t want it anymore, don’t go through with it.
Can’t forget this classy photo shoot that resurfaced!Recap for anyone who needs it:
1) Nimbs is back at her mum's house in Brighton for lockdown
2) Her family had Covid before she came down, thus we are denied the sweet schadenfreude of her spreading it like peanut butter (unless she already did)
3) Yoga course is almost over, Jesus Christ what will she have to talk about after that last module, probably self love, oh God, save us
4) Dettol Daddy is stil liking her insta posts and Nims is engaging in some cringey poses. The girl is thirsty and it's not for green juice
5) JOE HAS BEEN SEEN WITH BREAD
Did I miss anything?
Niomi seems like the type of person who LOVES travelling but only to rich white people places. Even in the most exotic place in the world she'd find something beige and bland.I don’t know if anyone has ever mentioned how Rosanna Falconer went to India and posted the most gorgeous pictures of palaces and forts, yet Niomi was there for two months and didn’t visit a single one.