Nicola Bulley Missing

[Danielle0120]

I’ve laughed nervously when my mum passed away and I held her. I smiled when the doctor came in just because I wanted to be polite. It’s the weirdest thing. You are in total shock, you’ve never experience anything like this and yet you don’t respond all Hollywood which seems to be what some on here expect. I have no idea why I didn’t what I did but there’s no right or wrong. Your mind doesn’t proces it all. But again it seems some people are only satisfied if the husband had re-enacted a dramatic scene from Eastenders.

Yes.
I work in a funeral home, but I also collect bodies from houses etc sometimes too. I collected a body last week, and the wife of the man I collected literally went hiyaaaa you ok, proper chipper as I got out the van. It's so normal. It's purely numbness and shock and not knowing how to act if it's never happened to you before. This lady was trying to be polite and didn't know what to do other than greet us with a big hello!!!! Not the first time either.

A few days later when she come to the funeral home I work at to view him, the shock had gone, and she was very different.

 

[Rxt156]

I’m glad ive found this. Been talking about it all day with hubs. It all seems a bit fishy to me. The phone on the bench is a big

 

[Boogs]

A friend of mine was wild swimming in a popular spot in August. She went under the water and didn’t come back up. They dragged the river for her and found her a few hours later. Everyone thought she’d drowned but there was no water in her lungs. It turned out that she had an undiagnosed heart condition and she’d had a massive heart attack. That taught me that life can change unexpectedly and in an instant. It sounds as if she is in the water. I hope for her families sake they are able to recover her quickly.

 

[Behelzabobs]

I’ve laughed nervously when my mum passed away and I held her. I smiled when the doctor came in just because I wanted to be polite. It’s the weirdest thing. You are in total shock, you’ve never experience anything like this and yet you don’t respond all Hollywood which seems to be what some on here expect. I have no idea why I didn’t what I did but there’s no right or wrong. Your mind doesn’t proces it all. But again it seems some people are only satisfied if the husband had re-enacted a dramatic scene from Eastenders.

I’m so glad you said this
I was hysterical when I was told my father had a terminal disease and literally three months to live, I must have cried a thousand times before he died but not a tear when he did die I was just numb for weeks
Everyone is different and it’s such an individual thing

 

[stardust1]

I’m glad ive found this. Been talking about it all day with hubs. It all seems a bit fishy to me. The phone on the bench is a big

I thought i’d read someone picked it up and put it there (?) I wondered if i would have done the same. A shoe/hat/glove yes but I think phones/car keys/wallets etc i would have took with me keep safe for someone and hope they were contactable via social media

 

[Mrs brighside]

Bodies can take weeks or months to be found in the water, the water will give her up, so sad but true

 

[Libbub]

How long was she gone before she was reported missing? Who reported her missing?

 

[BaxterBillions]

So much numbskullery in this thread Shittest armchair detectives ever!

 

[Behelzabobs]

I cold water swim and believe me it has taken me a long time to be comfortable when hitting the water and that's in a controlled situation through choice.

The shock and panic when it isn't expected will reduce your chances...and the cold will impact your choices...you won't think logically and if a current won't be able to possibly reach to your wellies....

This is one of the options here...falling in...

But without a trace....and her phone not on her but left on the bench...

Me and the husband said this tonight, he’s firmly of the belief she’s fallen into the river in some sort of freak reaching for the dogs ball accident

And I’m only talking if this was me I appreciate others might be different but there’s no way I’d leave my phone on a bench even to walk a few feet it would be in my pocket

I don’t know there is a lot of coverage though isn’t there and I don’t mean that in a horrible way either

 

[Mrs brighside]

I’m so glad you said this
I was hysterical when I was told my father had a terminal disease and literally three months to live, I must have cried a thousand times before he died but not a tear when he did die I was just numb for weeks
Everyone is different and it’s such an individual thing

I laughed with nerves at my grandads funeral, to the point everyone started laughing. The vicar even used it in her future eulogies, sometimes giggles are just an expression of heightened emotion

 

[InTheDollsHouse]

How long was she gone before she was reported missing? Who reported her missing?

Not long at all. As soon as the dog was found alone and her partner was called, he phoned the police.
There was 10 minutes between her being last seen, and her phone being found on the bench.

 

[xoxogossip_girl]

So much numbskullery in this thread Shittest armchair detectives ever!

You know what’s more annoying than people contributing an opinion? Constant complaining which adds NOTHING…

 

[PinkFigs]

Bodies can take weeks or months to be found in the water, the water will give her up, so sad but true

A man went windsurfing at a beach fairly near to me (east coast) and disappeared. His body washed up months later in either Norway or Sweden.

 

[witchandchips]

I’m normally on another thread but I’ve had to come on to read others views and discuss ideas. The bit that really doesn’t make sense to me is the idea that she’s slipped into the water but the dog is dry?! It’s a spaniel, it’s got one of the best scent track records there’s no way the dog would’ve missed her falling in the river and not gone in after her. Spaniels take an age to dry so it definitely didn’t go in the water and as such I don’t think she did either. The other thing that piqued my interest was one things the partner said in a tv interview, “we’ll never ever lose hope” interesting to have such an air of finality. It could be something of nothing but just a bizarre phrase to use

 

[coconochanel]

Not long at all. As soon as the dog was found alone and her partner was called, he phoned the police.
There was 10 minutes between her being last seen, and her phone being found on the bench.

Right but would you call the police or assume the dog had gone missing/got lost?

 

[MANDATORY]

Reading this makes me wonder how often you’ve drowned? You sound like the kind of person who thinks they’d be able to fight a bear should you run into one. Sod those people that get attacked by one, just fight back!

I'd rather fight a bear than you actually... but I suppose I could manage it... if pushed

 

[ilovetoknowit]

Could it be she left the phone on the bench, still able to listen in with her ear pods and had a tennis ball to throw for the dog, throws in in the river but the dog refuses to go in for whatever reason, she leans over to try get it back and falls in?
I’m no body language/speech expert but did think there was a lot of distancing in her partners speech calling her parents “the family” instead of “Nikkis parents” but that could be a protection thing I guess?

 

[InTheDollsHouse]

I’m normally on another thread but I’ve had to come on to read others views and discuss ideas. The bit that really doesn’t make sense to me is the idea that she’s slipped into the water but the dog is dry?! It’s a spaniel, it’s got one of the best scent track records there’s no way the dog would’ve missed her falling in the river and not gone in after her. Spaniels take an age to dry so it definitely didn’t go in the water and as such I don’t think she did either. The other thing that piqued my interest was one things the partner said in a tv interview, “we’ll never ever lose hope” interesting to have such an air of finality. It could be something of nothing but just a bizarre phrase to use

There’s been lots of discussion about the dog being dry further back on the thread x

 

[Josephine Shaker]

I laughed with nerves at my grandads funeral, to the point everyone started laughing. The vicar even used it in her future eulogies, sometimes giggles are just an expression of heightened emotion

When a young colleague of mine died we all went to his funeral and we actually all laughed because of the stories and memories people were recalling. That’s different to when you hear the news or are in the middle of trauma, but what I mean is that sometimes even in the worst grief (he died suddenly in a motor crash) people have varying emotions or ones that are not expected. I know people who have suffered so much, which I don’t want to go into too much on here but that involved a family murder, and they didn’t break down on the spot when the police came. And this involved more than one family member. What if trying to say is never feel bad about how you react. I didn’t cry at my dad’s funeral but I was in bits at a funeral of a friends dad who I’d only met twice! Oh and edit: I really loved my Dad before people start wondering!

 

[stardust1]

Right but would you call the police or assume the dog had gone missing/got lost?

I think I would call the police if there was no response from my partner. Did they find the dog and the phone at the same time?