I mean shocking in that it raises massive questions re how the whole search operation has been conducted.
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Exactly! Most likely because she's middle class and a mother. I would be devastated and very angry if I was a partner/parent/child/sibling of a recent missing person and we didn't get the crazy interest or special treatment she appears to be getting.
Yes I believe the school is on Hall Lane and that’s where she left the car
Porns normal for both sex. Possibly openly looking at it when you're in a relationship not so normal.
I don’t want to jump the gun.. but if she’s found that close why has is taken 23 days
I believe even Mr Faulding said that if a body is lodged in reeds than it can take a while for them to be found.
I see what you're saying and yes, a lot of people look at porn but they don't like and follow wee lassies with big tits on TikTok. A lot of people look at porn but I have never, ever seen someone use Pinterest for big jugs. It's all a bit public and weird.
If that's the norm, then the bar needs to be raised.
You'd have thought she'd take the girls with her, but then to be honest knowing what I know now having been dragged through family court all the time over the last 10 years by a narcissist....sometimes that's just as bad as when you were actually with the person....
I wish I could agree with your post from the previous thread @Boring Monday I was a missing person which I wrote about in the last thread. I was arrested on screenshots I was accused of sending by a controlling partner. He would constantly check my phone, when I rang him once by mistake once (it was an old phone and it got knocked in my handbag and rang the last number) he didn’t just put the phone down after a few minutes, he stayed on the phone for 20 minutes, I can only assume listening in. He would suggest we go out with his mates and when it was his turn to get the drinks he‘d be gone for ages, he would be watching to see if I was flirting, I have never cheated in my life but he had. If I went out without him I had to send a photo to prove where I was. I couldn’t look in the direction of another man, as in his head I was having an affair, the list is endless. He was a good looking guy and to the outside world he was charming, we dated for a few weeks when I was in my teens, so not really long enough to see that side of him.
When I finally ended the relationship for good he still didn’t leave me alone. I saw him on several occasions in the evening outside my home across the road looking in, he left messages on my phone saying he’d seen me in my local area that day, even though he lived miles away from me and I told the police this. I found out about a year after the police incident, my neighbour had also seen him near my home but thought we were still together. I begged the police to retrieve Info from my phone which would show how nasty he could be (as unfortunately I’d deleted it all as I didn’t want anything to remind me off him) but they wouldn’t.
And for those wondering why I took it, I honestly don’t know because my marriage (before I went on to date the nut job) had been nothing like that, we parted because as we grew apart and wanted different things and are still the best of friends. I look back now and don’t recognise the person I was but I was physically and mentally ill, he made me believe I was this awful person who should be grateful to be with him. BUT when the police got involved, never once did they speak to my counsellor, or my GP. Nor were they suspicious that the messages he said I sent were screenshots that basically anyone could have written. I found out later he wouldn’t give over his phone for them to look into it further so they went on those.
Not only that, he‘d gone into different police stations at different times to make complaints about me. And when I was interviewed by the Police they said he told them I was controlling, I was really shocked and asked what did he say I did that was controlling, their reply (this was two male police officers) I told him what to wear and that was it.
For one that was a lie, he use to say which shirt or trousers should I wear and that was basically it, I couldn’t care less what he wore he always looked nice but I couldn’t believe the police thought that was controlling, after all he’d done to me. A dear friend of mine said well that’s most women in trouble with the police for being controlling, she said she often said to her husband you can’t go out looking like that. 
I nearly took my life over it, my children would have been without their mother and I rang the police originally because he was stalking me and I was told by the police he’d hadn’t broken the law (this was a few years ago) all I wanted was for them to have a word with him to leave me alone but it was then turned back on me. I would never dream that kind of thing can happen until it happened to me. My counsellor said because he could no longer control my life, he was trying to do it vicariously through the police and they had enabled him, when they had so many opportunities to look into him and didn’t.
So I hope to god you are right and that the Lancs police are better than the ones were my area. I will never trust, or go to the police again and there are many, many more woman out there that feel the same, I know this from what I was told when seeking advice from the woman’s refuge. They are not kidding when they say women are being failed by the police, I hope to god Nicola isn‘t one of them.
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When I finally ended the relationship for good he still didn’t leave me alone. I saw him on several occasions in the evening outside my home across the road looking in, he left messages on my phone saying he’d seen me in my local area that day, even though he lived miles away from me and I told the police this. I found out about a year after the police incident, my neighbour had also seen him near my home but thought we were still together. I begged the police to retrieve Info from my phone which would show how nasty he could be (as unfortunately I’d deleted it all as I didn’t want anything to remind me off him) but they wouldn’t.
And for those wondering why I took it, I honestly don’t know because my marriage (before I went on to date the nut job) had been nothing like that, we parted because as we grew apart and wanted different things and are still the best of friends. I look back now and don’t recognise the person I was but I was physically and mentally ill, he made me believe I was this awful person who should be grateful to be with him. BUT when the police got involved, never once did they speak to my counsellor, or my GP. Nor were they suspicious that the messages he said I sent were screenshots that basically anyone could have written. I found out later he wouldn’t give over his phone for them to look into it further so they went on those.
Not only that, he‘d gone into different police stations at different times to make complaints about me. And when I was interviewed by the Police they said he told them I was controlling, I was really shocked and asked what did he say I did that was controlling, their reply (this was two male police officers) I told him what to wear and that was it. For one that was a lie, he use to say which shirt or trousers should I wear and that was basically it, I couldn’t care less what he wore he always looked nice but I couldn’t believe the police thought that was controlling, after all he’d done to me. A dear friend of mine said well that’s most women in trouble with the police for being controlling, she said she often said to her husband you can’t go out looking like that. I nearly took my life over it, my children would have been without their mother and I rang the police originally because he was stalking me and I was told by the police he’d hadn’t broken the law (this was a few years ago) all I wanted was for them to have a word with him to leave me alone but it was then turned back on me. I would never dream that kind of thing can happen until it happened to me. My counsellor said because he could no longer control my life, he was trying to do it vicariously through the police and they had enabled him, when they had so many opportunities to look into him and didn’t.
So I hope to god you are right and that the Lancs police are better than the ones were my area. I will never trust, or go to the police again and there are many, many more woman out there that feel the same, I know this from what I was told when seeking advice from the woman’s refuge. They are not kidding when they say women are being failed by the police, I hope to god Nicola isn‘t one of them.
The police force is finally starting to admit that it’s failing women – but is it enough?
The bond of trust between the police and women “must be mended,” a chief officer said.
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Horrendous to think her family have been going through this for over 3 weeks if she was that close by the entire time. I hope it’s not her, even though I want them to get answers
This could be the start of an awful turn of events
I hope if it is Nicola, everyone will continue to participate on this thread and hopefully won’t be triggered by it all.
I hope if it is Nicola, everyone will continue to participate on this thread and hopefully won’t be triggered by it all.
Because sometimes it can take a while for the water to give up it’s secrets.
It could be nothing as a new investigator was appointed to the case yesterday.
However, I really hope they have found her. Her family will have some closure and they will be able to say goodbye.
However, I really hope they have found her. Her family will have some closure and they will be able to say goodbye.
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Important to change maybe that CCTV doesn't actually cover the orange/ riverside path entrance?
He also said if she was in there he would definitely find her
At least this report has credibility. Not like the "helicopters and police all over Morecambe Bay" and similar, that turned out to be bullshit. Also it says massive search underway but doesn't necessarily mean they'll find anything, or have found anything. They could be just re-searching ground already covered because of advice of experts brought in. Don't know how to feel about whether they find anything or not. If they do, it means all hope is gone and it would be so awful and sad. On the other hand, it would bring some sort of closure to the family. Must be horrible for families who go months and years without any answers. Is it better to go through years of torture but still have hope, even if very faint, or is it better to have your answer much sooner, but it be a very tragic answer, but at least you can accept it, grieve, and try to forge some sort of path for the future? I don't know.
Do we have a map of the area gobby number 1 covered?
I thought there was proof she didnt come back that way from cctv outside the pub.
I don't think we can judge what people like to look at on the internet. How do you all know it's not normal? And even if it's "abnormal" its bleeping boobs!
I honestly think people need to take a long hard look at themselves. It's 2023 not 1723. People on here acting like puritans come on now. Your children probably look at far worse things.
Why are they only sealing off the area now ? In all honestly if they did find her and it was murder… what evidence could they actually use from the crime scene given it has been open to the general public and so many have been attracted to that site because of the disappearance. Sorry to say some police heads will roll when this case is wrapped up.
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