I’ve been thinking about ringing them or the NCT line. Were they able to help much over the phone with positioning etc? Or was it more to direct you to local services?when you are home you can also reach out to The Breastfeeding Network who are fantastic and have a free helpline or messaging service. They also run volunteer led support groups and can help with positioning etc.
They helped me over the phone, but my first was a lockdown babe so the local groups weren’t available! I would definitely recommend speaking to them xI’ve been thinking about ringing them or the NCT line. Were they able to help much over the phone with positioning etc? Or was it more to direct you to local services?
I'm so sorry so many people interfered when he was doing fine and messed it all up! As others have said, do what works for you and refuse input if the nurses etc try to tell you to change things. Baby bandit only managed to latch a few times due to various issues but when he did having a nipple shield helped, and things like grabbing a handful of boob to shove into his mouth, and balling up a muslin to tuck under my boob to elevate it more to help him latch. Also laying down on my side with him next to me was a position he seemed to enjoy. He struggled to latch onto bottles as well the first few days so the nursery nurses spent a long time with their fingers in his mouth massaging his tongue to encourage sucking! People have posted really helpful advice/links above and we were also recommended to look at la leche league website for support. Sometimes breastfeeding takes a while to be established and in the meantime you can keep expressing and then get support to move back to breastfeeding - as long as you've got supply it's possibleYeah he’s been checked for tongue tie and we’ve done skin to skin most of today. He’s been in my top since about 6am and he roots and latches he just won’t stay suckingI’ll try the feet tickles we haven’t done that yet! It’s just so frustrating that yesterday he was fine but because I had him nuzzled in my arm and feeding that way they started interfering telling me I had to hold him by the neck and in the rugby ball position and now he’s completely lost it. I just can’t wait to get home and do it our own way. I’ve had to give him a a pre made bottle now just to get something in him and they’re already starting to push formula or expressing then bottle feeding. It’s like they’ve written him off even tho he had it nailed yesterday
Oh my god the weird stuff I used to come out with! And the constant fear I'd lost him under the duvet even though he didn't sleep in our bedNewborn sleep deprivation is hilarious - just been feeding baby Watermelon and my fella rolled over in his sleep and went ‘I am Groot … haha … I ! Am ! Groot!’ and carried on snoring away
Oh bless himBaby wotsit has infected chickenpox. He will not go to sleep in his cot, I manage to get half an hour out of him and he’s back up, rock him back to sleep back in cot and back awake. Starting to feel desperate. In the day he won’t let me put him down at all. Never seen him this poorly
Don't feel bad, they might have been friends already who've happened to have babies at the same time! I think socialising becomes easier when they're a bit older as you can bump into people at playgrounds or soft play etc and meet that way. I go to one baby group on a semi-regular basis and have people I chat to there but we're not friends outside the group, and as far as I can tell most people there haven't taken friendships outside the baby group!I've spent today out with my little one. I'm loving the sunny weather that's making it easier to get out & about. But boy did I feel lonely when I saw all the other mummy's with their mummy friends. It's made me realise that my anxiety stopped me going to lots of baby groups & getting myself out there to meet other people.
My little girl is 1 now & she goes the nursery so I know she's getting to socialise with other children, but sometimes I wish I could help her socialise with other children outside of nursery too.
Ugh it makes me so mad! There is a national breastfeeding hotline 24/7 everyday of the year definitely call them and they can help sign post you to some local breastfeeding cafes or mums groups who can support you with breastfeeding (obviously depending on where you live) but they will have all the knowledge, patience & support to keep you breastfeeding!Yeah he’s been checked for tongue tie and we’ve done skin to skin most of today. He’s been in my top since about 6am and he roots and latches he just won’t stay suckingI’ll try the feet tickles we haven’t done that yet! It’s just so frustrating that yesterday he was fine but because I had him nuzzled in my arm and feeding that way they started interfering telling me I had to hold him by the neck and in the rugby ball position and now he’s completely lost it. I just can’t wait to get home and do it our own way. I’ve had to give him a a pre made bottle now just to get something in him and they’re already starting to push formula or expressing then bottle feeding. It’s like they’ve written him off even tho he had it nailed yesterday
Congratulations and hope you are doing as well as can be. I know you've had loads of really good and helpful advice here already so your heads prob bursting but there's also a second day/night shift babies go through, if you google second night syndrome it might help with the huge change in behaviour from yesterday.We’ve tried the hand expressing and then syringing a bit first, tried hand expressing to get some droplets there for him to taste and be more interested and tried the skin to skin and finger but not the flannel to wake him up. He can latch and starts to suck but after literally 2 sucks he’s just looking around still latched but not suckingyesterday he was feeding like a dream and then they’ve thrown so many techniques at him that aren’t how we were doing it yesterday that we’re both confused and frazzled now. Yesterday we were getting loads of wet and dirty nappies so it was obviously working and today it’s like he’s completely forgotten how because they spent half the night telling me to hold him differently.
Not a silly question and I don't blame you at all for being touched out and just wanting a couple of minutes without a baby attached to you! I hope you both have a better night@Pontiac_Bandit Thanks, got him to pharmacy today and they have given me some cooling gel. He’s got antibiotics now and they seem to be kicking in quick as his back is already looking less angry. Sorry prob came over the daftest question. Everytime he’s poorly I think oh this is hard but omg these last few days have been tough, he will not be put down… I feel awful for feeling like my patience has gone. I just wanna have a wee for 30 seconds without holding a small human
A doctor came down from paeds to check and did the finger in the mouth thing.@raspberryjuice who checked for tongue tie? Did they put their finger in his mouth? I’m only asking because the majority of midwives aren’t trained to spot it.
if his nappy output in fine then he doesn’t need formula. I’d just keep trying with the boob!
I’d definitely (if you can, they can be expensive and babies are pricey as it isA doctor came down from paeds to check and did the finger in the mouth thing.
Thank you so much for all the advice. I ignored all the interfering ward staff and managed to get him to have a 5 min feed this afternoon doing it the way we were yesterday. Nothing like yesterday’s feeds but it’s a start. I know they mean well but it’s just caused us both no end of stress today
We’re waiting to go home now so I will just snuggle on the sofa with him for the next few days and work out our own way of doing it. I’ve got plenty of colostrum harvested and will try and get a bit more before milk comes in so we’ve got that to help us if needed rather than resorting to formula like they made us feel we had to do today. I’ve got nothing against formula and if we can’t get it sussed that’s obviously how we’ll go but I’m really hoping we can get back to how he was doing yesterday because he took to it so well
If it was me I'd probably not give it unless he seemed destressed or struggling to sleep - I'm not sure how much it'd help a cough anyway, and if he seems ok in himself then maybe just use something like infant olbas oil or baby vapour rub (assuming they're safe for baby's age) to help him out a bit and then you can ask for advice tomorrowWould really appreciate this thread’s advice, as I’m confused by conflicting online articles.
My otherwise healthy 8 week old baby has developed a cough over the the last day or so, with a little bit of a stuffy nose. No fever or other symptoms, and is feeding well with normal nappies. Sleeping normally, no unusual tears or tantrums etc.
Should I give infant paracetamol, or just leave it and wait and see? Coincidentally we are seeing the GP tomorrow afternoon for his 8 week check up and jabs anway, so I have that on the calendar regardless. But just wondering if it’s prudent to give paracetamol now too?
Well done on the good feed today and hopefully the start of moreA doctor came down from paeds to check and did the finger in the mouth thing.
Thank you so much for all the advice. I ignored all the interfering ward staff and managed to get him to have a 5 min feed this afternoon doing it the way we were yesterday. Nothing like yesterday’s feeds but it’s a start. I know they mean well but it’s just caused us both no end of stress today
We’re waiting to go home now so I will just snuggle on the sofa with him for the next few days and work out our own way of doing it. I’ve got plenty of colostrum harvested and will try and get a bit more before milk comes in so we’ve got that to help us if needed rather than resorting to formula like they made us feel we had to do today. I’ve got nothing against formula and if we can’t get it sussed that’s obviously how we’ll go but I’m really hoping we can get back to how he was doing yesterday because he took to it so well
Don’t! I made 1 good friend in 3 children that was a stranger. The rest was someone I knew with a child that age (my first, nobody…..) xxxI've spent today out with my little one. I'm loving the sunny weather that's making it easier to get out & about. But boy did I feel lonely when I saw all the other mummy's with their mummy friends. It's made me realise that my anxiety stopped me going to lots of baby groups & getting myself out there to meet other people.
My little girl is 1 now & she goes the nursery so I know she's getting to socialise with other children, but sometimes I wish I could help her socialise with other children outside of nursery too.
I actually made my best mummy friend through nursery - our girls are best friends so we started on play dates because they kept asking for each other on the weekends (as if 5 days of nursery together wasn’t enough). They’re still like it now and we go on holiday with them too - there’s always time to make friends and build connections xxI've spent today out with my little one. I'm loving the sunny weather that's making it easier to get out & about. But boy did I feel lonely when I saw all the other mummy's with their mummy friends. It's made me realise that my anxiety stopped me going to lots of baby groups & getting myself out there to meet other people.
My little girl is 1 now & she goes the nursery so I know she's getting to socialise with other children, but sometimes I wish I could help her socialise with other children outside of nursery too.
So I *think* at that age they're a bit limited on how much and how long they can have paracetamol for. If he's generally well in himself tonight then you may want to hold off and save it for his jabs, as he's likely to get a bit of a fever from those.Would really appreciate this thread’s advice, as I’m confused by conflicting online articles.
My otherwise healthy 8 week old baby has developed a cough over the the last day or so, with a little bit of a stuffy nose. No fever or other symptoms, and is feeding well with normal nappies. Sleeping normally, no unusual tears or tantrums etc.
Should I give infant paracetamol, or just leave it and wait and see? Coincidentally we are seeing the GP tomorrow afternoon for his 8 week check up and jabs anway, so I have that on the calendar regardless. But just wondering if it’s prudent to give paracetamol now too?
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