I have found section recovery Can be a weird thing. Like you get better really fast and can do more than you’d think, then you’re kinda stuck at that level for a bit, then have a jump up in what you can do again. Just keep moving when possible, that really helps, but listen when your body says it’s time to rest.the recovery has been rough! I was stupid and a day after I was like oh this is a breezethen day 2 hit me like a train. I am finally feeling human again I’m in next to no pain and feeling more like myself. Little one has lost 12% of his body weight so I’m trying to have him on the boob as much as possible so I’m currently just a snack to Him x
Yeah I found this. Kept pushing myself to do more and my scar kept opening but felt like because I wasn't in pain or unwell that I should be up and about all day. If I did it again I'd spend much more time with my feet up.I have found section recovery Can be a weird thing. Like you get better really fast and can do more than you’d think, then you’re kinda stuck at that level for a bit, then have a jump up in what you can do again. Just keep moving when possible, that really helps, but listen when your body says it’s time to rest.
Have you got bf help?
Honest answer - I think someone needs to look at it. I say someone: I mean a professional. Call your GP and insist on a f2f appointmentHi ladies, I hope you don’t mind but I’ve got a very TMI post to share, I’m going out of my mind with worry, and I just need to know if anyone else has had these issues and if they are normal/abnormal?.
So, I had my baby girl almost 11 weeks ago now.
She’s my 4th baby but I did have a 12 year gap between her and my last baby (I doubt that makes much of a difference).
Anyway, the labour and birth were all normal and pretty uneventful, she came out with a few pushes.
I delivered her on all fours as opposed to on my back (I delivered the other 3 on my back), and she was my heaviest baby at 8lb 8oz.
They said that I didn’t need any stitches and there were only a few superficial grazes, so I thought I’d got off pretty lightly...
Anyway, in the days and weeks following her birth, pooing has been absolute agony (like worse than the actual birth kind of agony), literally like pooing glass, and really difficult to actually get the poo out (like it feels stuck).
I spoke to a GP over the phone about it just after Xmas, and without even wanting to see me, she diagnosed an anal fissure and prescribed me some cream, it took me weeks to finally get it, as my pharmacy is just crap, but luckily I picked it up last week and have been applying it.
The pain seems to have gone now (thank god) but it still feels ‘weird’ pooing, and when I need to go I absolutely have to go, and if I don’t find a toilet asap I’m screwed ( I haven’t actually pooped myself, but I’m worried it would potentially happen).
Anyway, back at Xmas when I was at my wits end with the pain, I examined myself in a mirror (down below) my bum hole looked fine but I was shocked by how much my lady bits had changed…
The only way that I can describe it, is that my whole vulva has ‘split’ almost down to my bum hole (as into my ‘gooch’), there is only now a tiny bit of skin between my vagina and anus, it’s also red (which I’m not sure is just normal after birth).
I never looked ‘down below’ after having my other babies ( not for many months anyway), so im not sure if this is normal and it will ‘tighten up’.
Today, I had a poo (I go every 3 days or so), and again it was painfree (amazing) but still felt ‘odd’.
I decided to have another look down below , and it seems to be worse than it was before, as in the ‘split’, my ladybits are extremely red, and it looks like almost muscle-looking tissue is exposed.
I’m sure it’s not a prolapse or anything like that, as my actual vaginal opening (as in the ‘hole’) looks normal, it’s below it…
We’ve had sex once since the birth, and surprisingly it was just as good as always and didn’t hurt or anything , so I don’t think my actual vagina has any issues.
Last week I had a very small 2 day bleed, which I mentioned in a previous thread (I’m breastfeeding so I don’t think it was a period) and over the last couple of weeks, I’ve been having some really heavy discharge, which ranges from mucousy to creamy (always white), to the point that I need to wear pantyliners, I don’t know if this is still my body going back to normal.
I had my ‘8 weeks check’ last week (even though it was 10 weeks post birth), and I didn’t feel comfortable mentioning any of this to the doctor. She was pleasant enough, but seemed very rushed and not very approachable at all.
I did mention the small bleed, to which she just said ‘I don’t know what that was’ …
Im paranoid that I’ve damaged myself from the birth, I remember how intensely I was pushing and feeling like my bum was just splitting.
Aside, from my ‘down below area’ being dodgy, the rest of my body feels so weak, I’m still aching like I did when I was pregnant (SPD type pain), and I’ve got terrible lower back pain.
I’ve lost all the baby weight, which I’m grateful for, but I’m not the strong toned person that I was previously. Im sure being ‘older’ this time has had an impact.
Someone has suggested seeing a private physio who specialises in postnatal problems, I doubt that I’ll be able to afford one (unless it’s a credit card job), I love our NHS (I’m a nurse myself) but none of the female GPs at my practice seem approachable, and it’s such an intimate problem and I feel extremely vulnerable
I’m sooo sorry that this post is extremely TMI!!!
Please don’t apologise 🤍 from the pains and the physical description you’ve given it really sounds like you need to see somebody asap. Would you feel more comfortable if somebody could accompany you to the appointment, such as a partner or somebody else you’re close to?Hi ladies, I hope you don’t mind but I’ve got a very TMI post to share, I’m going out of my mind with worry, and I just need to know if anyone else has had these issues and if they are normal/abnormal?.
So, I had my baby girl almost 11 weeks ago now.
She’s my 4th baby but I did have a 12 year gap between her and my last baby (I doubt that makes much of a difference).
Anyway, the labour and birth were all normal and pretty uneventful, she came out with a few pushes.
I delivered her on all fours as opposed to on my back (I delivered the other 3 on my back), and she was my heaviest baby at 8lb 8oz.
They said that I didn’t need any stitches and there were only a few superficial grazes, so I thought I’d got off pretty lightly...
Anyway, in the days and weeks following her birth, pooing has been absolute agony (like worse than the actual birth kind of agony), literally like pooing glass, and really difficult to actually get the poo out (like it feels stuck).
I spoke to a GP over the phone about it just after Xmas, and without even wanting to see me, she diagnosed an anal fissure and prescribed me some cream, it took me weeks to finally get it, as my pharmacy is just crap, but luckily I picked it up last week and have been applying it.
The pain seems to have gone now (thank god) but it still feels ‘weird’ pooing, and when I need to go I absolutely have to go, and if I don’t find a toilet asap I’m screwed ( I haven’t actually pooped myself, but I’m worried it would potentially happen).
Anyway, back at Xmas when I was at my wits end with the pain, I examined myself in a mirror (down below) my bum hole looked fine but I was shocked by how much my lady bits had changed…
The only way that I can describe it, is that my whole vulva has ‘split’ almost down to my bum hole (as into my ‘gooch’), there is only now a tiny bit of skin between my vagina and anus, it’s also red (which I’m not sure is just normal after birth).
I never looked ‘down below’ after having my other babies ( not for many months anyway), so im not sure if this is normal and it will ‘tighten up’.
Today, I had a poo (I go every 3 days or so), and again it was painfree (amazing) but still felt ‘odd’.
I decided to have another look down below , and it seems to be worse than it was before, as in the ‘split’, my ladybits are extremely red, and it looks like almost muscle-looking tissue is exposed.
I’m sure it’s not a prolapse or anything like that, as my actual vaginal opening (as in the ‘hole’) looks normal, it’s below it…
We’ve had sex once since the birth, and surprisingly it was just as good as always and didn’t hurt or anything , so I don’t think my actual vagina has any issues.
Last week I had a very small 2 day bleed, which I mentioned in a previous thread (I’m breastfeeding so I don’t think it was a period) and over the last couple of weeks, I’ve been having some really heavy discharge, which ranges from mucousy to creamy (always white), to the point that I need to wear pantyliners, I don’t know if this is still my body going back to normal.
I had my ‘8 weeks check’ last week (even though it was 10 weeks post birth), and I didn’t feel comfortable mentioning any of this to the doctor. She was pleasant enough, but seemed very rushed and not very approachable at all.
I did mention the small bleed, to which she just said ‘I don’t know what that was’ …
Im paranoid that I’ve damaged myself from the birth, I remember how intensely I was pushing and feeling like my bum was just splitting.
Aside, from my ‘down below area’ being dodgy, the rest of my body feels so weak, I’m still aching like I did when I was pregnant (SPD type pain), and I’ve got terrible lower back pain.
I’ve lost all the baby weight, which I’m grateful for, but I’m not the strong toned person that I was previously. Im sure being ‘older’ this time has had an impact.
Someone has suggested seeing a private physio who specialises in postnatal problems, I doubt that I’ll be able to afford one (unless it’s a credit card job), I love our NHS (I’m a nurse myself) but none of the female GPs at my practice seem approachable, and it’s such an intimate problem and I feel extremely vulnerable
I’m sooo sorry that this post is extremely TMI!!!
None of us are medical professionals so unfortunately there isn't much we can say other than you need to see your GP. If you aren't comfortable around the professionals then perhaps take someone with you? I think sadly this is just one of those things in life where you have to deal with the embarrassment because it's preferable to living in discomfort.Hi ladies, I hope you don’t mind but I’ve got a very TMI post to share, I’m going out of my mind with worry, and I just need to know if anyone else has had these issues and if they are normal/abnormal?.
So, I had my baby girl almost 11 weeks ago now.
She’s my 4th baby but I did have a 12 year gap between her and my last baby (I doubt that makes much of a difference).
Anyway, the labour and birth were all normal and pretty uneventful, she came out with a few pushes.
I delivered her on all fours as opposed to on my back (I delivered the other 3 on my back), and she was my heaviest baby at 8lb 8oz.
They said that I didn’t need any stitches and there were only a few superficial grazes, so I thought I’d got off pretty lightly...
Anyway, in the days and weeks following her birth, pooing has been absolute agony (like worse than the actual birth kind of agony), literally like pooing glass, and really difficult to actually get the poo out (like it feels stuck).
I spoke to a GP over the phone about it just after Xmas, and without even wanting to see me, she diagnosed an anal fissure and prescribed me some cream, it took me weeks to finally get it, as my pharmacy is just crap, but luckily I picked it up last week and have been applying it.
The pain seems to have gone now (thank god) but it still feels ‘weird’ pooing, and when I need to go I absolutely have to go, and if I don’t find a toilet asap I’m screwed ( I haven’t actually pooped myself, but I’m worried it would potentially happen).
Anyway, back at Xmas when I was at my wits end with the pain, I examined myself in a mirror (down below) my bum hole looked fine but I was shocked by how much my lady bits had changed…
The only way that I can describe it, is that my whole vulva has ‘split’ almost down to my bum hole (as into my ‘gooch’), there is only now a tiny bit of skin between my vagina and anus, it’s also red (which I’m not sure is just normal after birth).
I never looked ‘down below’ after having my other babies ( not for many months anyway), so im not sure if this is normal and it will ‘tighten up’.
Today, I had a poo (I go every 3 days or so), and again it was painfree (amazing) but still felt ‘odd’.
I decided to have another look down below , and it seems to be worse than it was before, as in the ‘split’, my ladybits are extremely red, and it looks like almost muscle-looking tissue is exposed.
I’m sure it’s not a prolapse or anything like that, as my actual vaginal opening (as in the ‘hole’) looks normal, it’s below it…
We’ve had sex once since the birth, and surprisingly it was just as good as always and didn’t hurt or anything , so I don’t think my actual vagina has any issues.
Last week I had a very small 2 day bleed, which I mentioned in a previous thread (I’m breastfeeding so I don’t think it was a period) and over the last couple of weeks, I’ve been having some really heavy discharge, which ranges from mucousy to creamy (always white), to the point that I need to wear pantyliners, I don’t know if this is still my body going back to normal.
I had my ‘8 weeks check’ last week (even though it was 10 weeks post birth), and I didn’t feel comfortable mentioning any of this to the doctor. She was pleasant enough, but seemed very rushed and not very approachable at all.
I did mention the small bleed, to which she just said ‘I don’t know what that was’ …
Im paranoid that I’ve damaged myself from the birth, I remember how intensely I was pushing and feeling like my bum was just splitting.
Aside, from my ‘down below area’ being dodgy, the rest of my body feels so weak, I’m still aching like I did when I was pregnant (SPD type pain), and I’ve got terrible lower back pain.
I’ve lost all the baby weight, which I’m grateful for, but I’m not the strong toned person that I was previously. Im sure being ‘older’ this time has had an impact.
Someone has suggested seeing a private physio who specialises in postnatal problems, I doubt that I’ll be able to afford one (unless it’s a credit card job), I love our NHS (I’m a nurse myself) but none of the female GPs at my practice seem approachable, and it’s such an intimate problem and I feel extremely vulnerable
I’m sooo sorry that this post is extremely TMI!!!
You just need to think that the medical professionals will have seen so many people with similar issues probably even that same day. If you go there for your smear test it really won’t be that different to that in terms of the area they’d be looking at.Hi ladies, I hope you don’t mind but I’ve got a very TMI post to share, I’m going out of my mind with worry, and I just need to know if anyone else has had these issues and if they are normal/abnormal?.
So, I had my baby girl almost 11 weeks ago now.
She’s my 4th baby but I did have a 12 year gap between her and my last baby (I doubt that makes much of a difference).
Anyway, the labour and birth were all normal and pretty uneventful, she came out with a few pushes.
I delivered her on all fours as opposed to on my back (I delivered the other 3 on my back), and she was my heaviest baby at 8lb 8oz.
They said that I didn’t need any stitches and there were only a few superficial grazes, so I thought I’d got off pretty lightly...
Anyway, in the days and weeks following her birth, pooing has been absolute agony (like worse than the actual birth kind of agony), literally like pooing glass, and really difficult to actually get the poo out (like it feels stuck).
I spoke to a GP over the phone about it just after Xmas, and without even wanting to see me, she diagnosed an anal fissure and prescribed me some cream, it took me weeks to finally get it, as my pharmacy is just crap, but luckily I picked it up last week and have been applying it.
The pain seems to have gone now (thank god) but it still feels ‘weird’ pooing, and when I need to go I absolutely have to go, and if I don’t find a toilet asap I’m screwed ( I haven’t actually pooped myself, but I’m worried it would potentially happen).
Anyway, back at Xmas when I was at my wits end with the pain, I examined myself in a mirror (down below) my bum hole looked fine but I was shocked by how much my lady bits had changed…
The only way that I can describe it, is that my whole vulva has ‘split’ almost down to my bum hole (as into my ‘gooch’), there is only now a tiny bit of skin between my vagina and anus, it’s also red (which I’m not sure is just normal after birth).
I never looked ‘down below’ after having my other babies ( not for many months anyway), so im not sure if this is normal and it will ‘tighten up’.
Today, I had a poo (I go every 3 days or so), and again it was painfree (amazing) but still felt ‘odd’.
I decided to have another look down below , and it seems to be worse than it was before, as in the ‘split’, my ladybits are extremely red, and it looks like almost muscle-looking tissue is exposed.
I’m sure it’s not a prolapse or anything like that, as my actual vaginal opening (as in the ‘hole’) looks normal, it’s below it…
We’ve had sex once since the birth, and surprisingly it was just as good as always and didn’t hurt or anything , so I don’t think my actual vagina has any issues.
Last week I had a very small 2 day bleed, which I mentioned in a previous thread (I’m breastfeeding so I don’t think it was a period) and over the last couple of weeks, I’ve been having some really heavy discharge, which ranges from mucousy to creamy (always white), to the point that I need to wear pantyliners, I don’t know if this is still my body going back to normal.
I had my ‘8 weeks check’ last week (even though it was 10 weeks post birth), and I didn’t feel comfortable mentioning any of this to the doctor. She was pleasant enough, but seemed very rushed and not very approachable at all.
I did mention the small bleed, to which she just said ‘I don’t know what that was’ …
Im paranoid that I’ve damaged myself from the birth, I remember how intensely I was pushing and feeling like my bum was just splitting.
Aside, from my ‘down below area’ being dodgy, the rest of my body feels so weak, I’m still aching like I did when I was pregnant (SPD type pain), and I’ve got terrible lower back pain.
I’ve lost all the baby weight, which I’m grateful for, but I’m not the strong toned person that I was previously. Im sure being ‘older’ this time has had an impact.
Someone has suggested seeing a private physio who specialises in postnatal problems, I doubt that I’ll be able to afford one (unless it’s a credit card job), I love our NHS (I’m a nurse myself) but none of the female GPs at my practice seem approachable, and it’s such an intimate problem and I feel extremely vulnerable
I’m sooo sorry that this post is extremely TMI!!!
https://giphy.com/X4LNpG7eR6pNf2HREnView attachment 1907035One for the preemie mums
You need to get yourself examined. I'm not a gynaecologist, but speaking from a surgical point of view, it would be better to get yourself seen before any potential problem gets to surgical intervention level.Hi ladies, I hope you don’t mind but I’ve got a very TMI post to share, I’m going out of my mind with worry, and I just need to know if anyone else has had these issues and if they are normal/abnormal?.
So, I had my baby girl almost 11 weeks ago now.
She’s my 4th baby but I did have a 12 year gap between her and my last baby (I doubt that makes much of a difference).
Anyway, the labour and birth were all normal and pretty uneventful, she came out with a few pushes.
I delivered her on all fours as opposed to on my back (I delivered the other 3 on my back), and she was my heaviest baby at 8lb 8oz.
They said that I didn’t need any stitches and there were only a few superficial grazes, so I thought I’d got off pretty lightly...
Anyway, in the days and weeks following her birth, pooing has been absolute agony (like worse than the actual birth kind of agony), literally like pooing glass, and really difficult to actually get the poo out (like it feels stuck).
I spoke to a GP over the phone about it just after Xmas, and without even wanting to see me, she diagnosed an anal fissure and prescribed me some cream, it took me weeks to finally get it, as my pharmacy is just crap, but luckily I picked it up last week and have been applying it.
The pain seems to have gone now (thank god) but it still feels ‘weird’ pooing, and when I need to go I absolutely have to go, and if I don’t find a toilet asap I’m screwed ( I haven’t actually pooped myself, but I’m worried it would potentially happen).
Anyway, back at Xmas when I was at my wits end with the pain, I examined myself in a mirror (down below) my bum hole looked fine but I was shocked by how much my lady bits had changed…
The only way that I can describe it, is that my whole vulva has ‘split’ almost down to my bum hole (as into my ‘gooch’), there is only now a tiny bit of skin between my vagina and anus, it’s also red (which I’m not sure is just normal after birth).
I never looked ‘down below’ after having my other babies ( not for many months anyway), so im not sure if this is normal and it will ‘tighten up’.
Today, I had a poo (I go every 3 days or so), and again it was painfree (amazing) but still felt ‘odd’.
I decided to have another look down below , and it seems to be worse than it was before, as in the ‘split’, my ladybits are extremely red, and it looks like almost muscle-looking tissue is exposed.
I’m sure it’s not a prolapse or anything like that, as my actual vaginal opening (as in the ‘hole’) looks normal, it’s below it…
We’ve had sex once since the birth, and surprisingly it was just as good as always and didn’t hurt or anything , so I don’t think my actual vagina has any issues.
Last week I had a very small 2 day bleed, which I mentioned in a previous thread (I’m breastfeeding so I don’t think it was a period) and over the last couple of weeks, I’ve been having some really heavy discharge, which ranges from mucousy to creamy (always white), to the point that I need to wear pantyliners, I don’t know if this is still my body going back to normal.
I had my ‘8 weeks check’ last week (even though it was 10 weeks post birth), and I didn’t feel comfortable mentioning any of this to the doctor. She was pleasant enough, but seemed very rushed and not very approachable at all.
I did mention the small bleed, to which she just said ‘I don’t know what that was’ …
Im paranoid that I’ve damaged myself from the birth, I remember how intensely I was pushing and feeling like my bum was just splitting.
Aside, from my ‘down below area’ being dodgy, the rest of my body feels so weak, I’m still aching like I did when I was pregnant (SPD type pain), and I’ve got terrible lower back pain.
I’ve lost all the baby weight, which I’m grateful for, but I’m not the strong toned person that I was previously. Im sure being ‘older’ this time has had an impact.
Someone has suggested seeing a private physio who specialises in postnatal problems, I doubt that I’ll be able to afford one (unless it’s a credit card job), I love our NHS (I’m a nurse myself) but none of the female GPs at my practice seem approachable, and it’s such an intimate problem and I feel extremely vulnerable
I’m sooo sorry that this post is extremely TMI!!!
Ignore her, interfering old bag. You look after your baby however you see is best. God I hate Health Visitors.Sorry if I posted this before and sorry for all the questions but my hv said I need to stop feeding baby to sleep as it’s a bad habit for him and will be hard to break when he’s older… he won’t settle otherwise and won’t take a dummy she said feed him till he’s sleepy then put him down but he wakes and cries and moves about I know I’ve probably spoiled him but what can I do? Is she right?
I’m not too bad thanks although this pregnancy and Elanna, who has decided she must be surgically attached to me, is kicking my arse@Kaylarina I was just thinking of you today. Hope all is well
How weird, I literally used this analogy tonight! It unlocked a core memory of feeding the lambs at my uncle's farm.Baby has taken to drinking his bottles in a way that I can only describe as like when you went to a farm as a kid and there was always that frantic lamb chugging away at the bottle
I got forced to feed one of these when we went to a farm for Father's Day. I was annoyed as I'd made a point of not touching a single thing cos I find it awkward washing my hands when the baby's forward facing in the carrier, was only stood there as the KW wanted a do. Next min the robust farmer woman had thrust one in my hand.Baby has taken to drinking his bottles in a way that I can only describe as like when you went to a farm as a kid and there was always that frantic lamb chugging away at the bottle
PMSLrobust farmer woman
No I’ve done it for ages until about 12 months now she tells me she wants to go to bed awake in her own cot and waves at me doesn’t spoil them at allSorry if I posted this before and sorry for all the questions but my hv said I need to stop feeding baby to sleep as it’s a bad habit for him and will be hard to break when he’s older… he won’t settle otherwise and won’t take a dummy she said feed him till he’s sleepy then put him down but he wakes and cries and moves about I know I’ve probably spoiled him but what can I do? Is she right?
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