Mr Waka sounds like Mr G, that’s exactly what he does whenever I give him something to do. The other day I asked him to give her lunch while I was upstairs tidying up. He was like “yeah ok. Have you already made it?” Erm no I haven’t mate, that’s part of the job. If I’m going to make it I might as well give it to her myself tooMr Waka wants to go to the gym so asked what he can do to help before he goes. I said do bath time, he said okay can you run it.
I said no. He asked why.
So I reminded him what I’ve done in terms of parenting today:
Got her ready, driven her to nursery, picked her up, cooked dinner, made her snacks, tidied up, washed up dinner stuff and will be doing bed time.
what a fucking cheek. Feel like saying he can wait til 8 now and get her to sleep himself too. They have no idea what mums do
He wanted to spend time with her on the sofa instead. Which is lovely, mini Waka loves it too but I didn’t get bonding time while boiling pasta or washing up pots or cleaning felt pen off the floor!They are clueless. Just beyond clueless. Why could he not run it? Genuinely interested in that. Like why would you go upstairs to the bathroom and stand and run the bath when he has to go up there to bath her? It makes no sense.
But bath time playing together is time to have fun too! If he just thinks it’s a chore he’s missing half the point.He wanted to spend time with her on the sofa instead. Which is lovely, mini Waka loves it too but I didn’t get bonding time while boiling pasta or washing up pots or cleaning felt pen off the floor!
Stuff like this just drives me round the bend. Even when it’s “can you sort lunch?” “Ok what will I make”Mr Waka sounds like Mr G, that’s exactly what he does whenever I give him something to do. The other day I asked him to give her lunch while I was upstairs tidying up. He was like “yeah ok. Have you already made it?” Erm no I haven’t mate, that’s part of the job. If I’m going to make it I might as well give it to her myself too
Thank you so much! I have had lots of amazing advice and I’m so grateful to everyone for their lovely repliesI’m just catching up, but I love this phrase ‘season of life’. Such wise words @Definitelyme
@ChattyMammy also sending you lots of compassion, and second trying to see a woman’s health physio to help aid your recovery. I’ve also been seeing one and she is so lovely and clearly passionate about her speciality and getting women back on their feet that I have never felt awkward in any of my sessions. I went private as had private health insurance which was able to cover it, but based on this experience if I have another on future I would happily pay out my own pocket for the treatment. I’m in London so if you are too then feel free to message for a recommendation!
Yes!!! It's so annoying!But bath time playing together is time to have fun too! If he just thinks it’s a chore he’s missing half the point.
Stuff like this just drives me round the bend. Even when it’s “can you sort lunch?” “Ok what will I make”
Think of something yourself, you incompetent fool.
Same hereMr Waka sounds like Mr G, that’s exactly what he does whenever I give him something to do. The other day I asked him to give her lunch while I was upstairs tidying up. He was like “yeah ok. Have you already made it?” Erm no I haven’t mate, that’s part of the job. If I’m going to make it I might as well give it to her myself too
Go on girlWish I could have got a picture of my husbands face when, as I was running my boys bath after emptying dishwasher cleaning kitchen etc I just thought ‘fuck this’ and went and sat on the sofa next to himtook him a minute for the penny to drop when he realised he was gonna be the one no longer watching the football but doing bath time instead.
Guarantee if my husband is doing lunch at the weekend it’s gonna be tomato soup for the kids. And he almost ALWAYS forgets to do any food for ToddlerMe. Like… just doesn’t make him anything. Then I when I ask where it is he says “Oh I haven’t gotten round to it yet” … despite the fact we are all sitting down to eat. He also never takes the kids’ food out to cool before we sit down, quite often manages to serve them last… just no fucking common sense around feeding them!Same here
BuT I DoNt KnOw WhAt To GivE hER
https://giphy.com/QUXYcgCwvCm4cKcrI3
well you’ve fed yourself well enough for years so figure something out!
Same here
BuT I DoNt KnOw WhAt To GivE hER
https://giphy.com/QUXYcgCwvCm4cKcrI3
well you’ve fed yourself well enough for years so figure something out!
What is wrong with them! When I was sick last week he made himself bolognese. I said save some for mini Waka “oh nah nah nah I didn’t make it for her”Guarantee if my husband is doing lunch at the weekend it’s gonna be tomato soup for the kids. And he almost ALWAYS forgets to do any food for ToddlerMe. Like… just doesn’t make him anything. Then I when I ask where it is he says “Oh I haven’t gotten round to it yet” … despite the fact we are all sitting down to eat. He also never takes the kids’ food out to cool before we sit down, quite often manages to serve them last… just no fucking common sense around feeding them!
Highly recommend it! Had enough of him sitting there just expecting me to do everything! I’m sorry you’ve had such a shit dayGo on girlI've just been upstairs with the baby as he's been agitated all day, I'm overwhelmed and all puffy from crying as ive hit my breaking point and just want to go back to work. I walk downstairs 20 mins ago, he's put no tea on for the older two. I say to him, what's for dinner and he goes "dunno, what's in the fridge?" LOOK YOU FOOOOL
Sending you the biggest lovesWe’ve been admitted to A and E. Here was me thinking she’d be home for bedtime. There’s no beds on the ward so we’re here for the foreseeable. I had a very embarrassing breakdown in front of the doctor when they put her on oxygen as she was just my tiny little NICU baby again . I feel so bad for sending her to nursery yesterday and today but she was as right as rain
Don’t feel bad!!! You weren’t to know and like you say they go downhill so quickly when little. I’ve cried multiple times in front of doctors, not embarrassing at all.We’ve been admitted to A and E. Here was me thinking she’d be home for bedtime. There’s no beds on the ward so we’re here for the foreseeable. I had a very embarrassing breakdown in front of the doctor when they put her on oxygen as she was just my tiny little NICU baby again . I feel so bad for sending her to nursery yesterday and today but she was as right as rain
Sending so much love mumma xxxxWe’ve been admitted to A and E. Here was me thinking she’d be home for bedtime. There’s no beds on the ward so we’re here for the foreseeable. I had a very embarrassing breakdown in front of the doctor when they put her on oxygen as she was just my tiny little NICU baby again . I feel so bad for sending her to nursery yesterday and today but she was as right as rain
I didn’t make it for herWhat is wrong with them! When I was sick last week he made himself bolognese. I said save some for mini Waka “oh nah nah nah I didn’t make it for her”
”why not?“ and then he went off to save her a bowl. It’s like he automatically has nothing to do with her meals! She’s not a lizard on some super special diet! She just cant eat egg or milk
PMSLSending so much love mumma xxxx
I didn’t make it for heralright, but share it mate! Hardly like she’s gonna eat the whole pan of it
Fucking hell. No joke. MrMe just text me to ask are the kids allowed GRAPES at school. (For context TMe is being a knob so MrMe was dispatched to do the lunches.) GRAPES. What does he think would be wrong with taking them?!
Mr B is usually the cook in our house both because he’s good at it and he enjoys it, I’ve now had to take over so baby gets fed I’ll remind him before he starts then I’ll hear a oh shit I’ve put salt in itWhat is wrong with them! When I was sick last week he made himself bolognese. I said save some for mini Waka “oh nah nah nah I didn’t make it for her”
”why not?“ and then he went off to save her a bowl. It’s like he automatically has nothing to do with her meals! She’s not a lizard on some super special diet! She just cant eat egg or milk
sending you love you weren’t to know hopefully you’ll get a bed asap xWe’ve been admitted to A and E. Here was me thinking she’d be home for bedtime. There’s no beds on the ward so we’re here for the foreseeable. I had a very embarrassing breakdown in front of the doctor when they put her on oxygen as she was just my tiny little NICU baby again . I feel so bad for sending her to nursery yesterday and today but she was as right as rain
He isn’t wise, honestly. I must send them grapes 2 or 3 times a week. How are men just oblivious to bloody everything going on round them?!PMSLI’d have to say ‘they’re banned because of the high sugar content and tend the send kids nuts in the afternoon so unfortunately not x’
In his defence (who am IHe isn’t wise, honestly. I must send them grapes 2 or 3 times a week. How are men just oblivious to bloody everything going on round them?!
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