Just need to offload a bit...
I've been having CBT for a while now, I have separation anxiety which got really bad after baby was born. I feel like I've been making good progress, I've managed to leave him for an hour or so with both sets of parents. (Don't even get me started on how pushed into this I felt, god knows if I should even have needed therapy or just set more boundaries but it's done now.) Last night I left him with my OH to go out for the second time in nearly 5 months. It was so so hard, I just worried constantly and found it really difficult to switch off and be present. Probably not helped by being regularly updated that he was crying/wouldn't settle/wouldn't feed/wouldn't go to sleep.
Please someone tell me it gets easier to a) leave them b) have someone else take care of them and actually meet their needs. All I feel is guilt because if I had been at home, he wouldn't have cried for 2 hours and would have gone to bed calm and happy.
Also, does the guilt ever go away or is this just life now? OH went out for day drinks on Thursday and I had a lovely day with the baby, just chilling at home. He has him for 3 hours and needs a lie-in to recover! Yet still somehow I feel bad for having gone out. Sorry, just dumping all my thoughts here.
Edit: Ok, I've decided I'm being harsh. I spend all day every day with the baby so it's easier for me to look after him... But an occasional break would just be so nice.