coconochanel
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ADHD or not hes invading your personal space and needs to stop. You need to have a talk with his parents, Sorry but no way would I put up with that.
And again I’ll say, that’s up to his parents to nip it in the bud or supervise him! You don’t know him, so to assume he’s just a brat based on a few posts is disgusting and frankly quite offensive as the parent of a child who struggles with boundaries. I can’t speak for anybody else but I can assure you I’m not happy to label my child with additional needs. I very much wish my child didn’t have additional needs so he wouldn’t have to put up with being constantly judged or misunderstood by ignorant people like you.Society can’t always blame bad behaviour on additional needs! We seem to be surrounded nowadays with kids that are labelled with additional special needs, why is that?? I went to a primary school of nearly 900 pupils, for 7 years, and in all that time there were about 5 pupils with additional needs. My friend teaches in a small country primary school today and she is amazed at how many kids have ‘diagnoses’. Some of these children are so bad, they have kicked her legs, bitten her, and called her stupid. Come parent-teacher evenings, when she raised this bad behaviour, some of these parents replied and said it wasn’t their problem how their kids got on in school. Absolute disgrace. I think many parents are happy to use these ‘additional needs’ labels to just let their kids run about and do whatever they want.
The length of time this has gone on, it is clear to see this child knows what he is doing.
The child isn’t being a “brat.” He has additional needs as the OP has stated and perhaps has very little control over those behaviours. His parents should be supervising him when outside making sure he isn’t getting into trouble or even danger, that’s not his fault. I’m in no way excusing it as the OP deserves to have peace in their own home, but calling the child that only further stigmatises those with hidden disabilities (of which ADHD and autism both are).What an actual brat.
Good job hes not looking threw my window. Especially at night when I'm going down for a drink of water. Frighten the life out of himI have no idea how you have not totally lost it with the kid.its annoying and creepy ( I have a some slightly strange window fears ) and I would absolutely crap myself if I noticed somebody peeping through my window.
I just don't understand how he's left alone for long enough to get up to all this nuisance. Where are his parents ,the kid is clearly not safe to be out alone.
We have neighbours next to us who have three children, we have none. When we moved in we were yet to put up our gate but we would find the kids in our backyard playing. We are quiet people and want our privacy. When I went out to say something, the dad said "they're just playing, you don't mind, do you?" I had to tell him that I didn't want them on our property as if something happened, we would be held liable. I am in Canada, so not sure what it is like in the UK in that sense. We also had multiple issues where we would be on our deck, they would climb on the fence and yell at us. We tried to ignore them but that made it worse. We eventually spoke to the parents saying we just want our privacy in the backyard, we don't mind saying hi out the front and that they must understand that. They said they didn't understand and that the kids just want to say hi. They have problems with boundaries, the dad is a nosey one too. Sometimes we would hate going to our car, as he would talk to us for ages when we were trying to leave. They would also let the kids play with the hose and they would leave it on, which would flood our backyard and trip my husband's electrical tools. They hate us now, as we haven't gone to the past two block parties and they say it seems like we don't want to be friends with them...we don't. Haha.Thank you all for the advice! <3 I think speaking to the parents about the doorbell ringing is something I’ll have to do bc that really is crossing a line IMO. He’s woken me up twice doing it.
The car thing is a bit more tricky cos he does it with a lot of ppl so I don’t want to be the one that complains.
I’ve tried this It’s locked as I drive in and when I stop, he immediately tries to open the door and knocks on the window. I have to get out to disable my alarm before I can open the garage so that’s when all the nonsense with the boot and keys happens. I’m also very aware that his parents might hear me so I have to be careful that I’m not coming across harsh. But I think I will have to be more firm and just tell him to get off my drive. His mum is aware and has told him off about it before.
oh yeah as soon as the Police and PCSOs got involved it stopped. I’m just wondering if the presence of an officer who could explain the consequences, regardless of understanding or age, would give him and his parents a wake up call. Even if the little boy can’t comprehend fully and he’s has behavioural issues etc then his parents can and they need to enforce rules. Plus if the police/PCSOs got involved they may keep a closer eye and inform the parents of ways to help this behaviour etc. If his behaviour Isn’t stopped now what happens when he’s an adult and this has progressed to something a bit more sinister?would an 8 year old believe this? I know nothing about kids!
I genuinely don’t think he has the mental capacity to understand that it’s a right or wrong thing. It seems like it’s an impulse thing that he acts on. Like he’s not a naughty kid in the traditional sense eg damaging property like you explained (sorry you went through that btw and I hope it stopped?!)
You need to talk to the parents again and be upfront, you have given them so many chances to get some control over the situation. You could mention that you have witnessed him following a stranger to back up your concerns about his safety. He could very easily end up doing this to the wrong person and come to harm.Thanks guys. Yes he’s constantly outside alone riding his bike etc. He has a certain area where he’s allowed to play and he doesn’t go beyond that (I guess it’s where they can still see him from inside). I’m not a parent so I don’t know what’s normal. But he does constantly speak to strangers which is worrying but they’re aware of it.
I just spoke to my other neighbours about it and they told me that he does it to them too and one time rang their doorbell 7x in one day! So it seems I’m not alone. They advised me that I should ignore him (which I do).
It seems the problem with his behaviour is bad enough for them to take him to therapy too.
Re social distancing he does do it for the most part but I have seen him following a stranger and every time this man tried to get 2m away, the kid would follow him. He got a telling off from the stranger