So here I am again. Typing my thoughts and posting to a group of people I’ve never met an am unlikely to ever meet. But typing it out stops it going round I’m my head. I’m completely burnt out. And the person that I should be able to go to for support has just screamed at me and put the phone down on me because my daughter didn’t ring her to let her know she was home from her holiday
My daughter went on a make or break holiday with her husband and kids. All was going well until he sneaked off to the casino and blew all their spending money ( my mother knows nothing of this she doesn’t even know that my daughter and her husband have separated and he doesn’t live at home anymore) I received a phone call in the middle of the night with my daughter crying hysterically. I calmed her down and we talked for a while. I transferred her some money and they finished the holiday. But it was the final straw for her and she’s contacting a solicitor on Monday.
My son was sexually assaulted at work by a male colleague. He’s reported it to work and the police but it has really messed with his head. He didn’t react how he feels he should have. He keeps saying I should have punched him but instead he just went into shock and stayed rooted to the spot. He’s having flashbacks and is struggling with his emotions. He’s been offered counselling but there’s a waiting list. In the meantime I’m trying my best to support him.
My job is incredibly stressful at the moment and I’m driving 200-250 miles a day as well as working in between. I’m waiting for my new car but at the moment I’m having to make do with a rental and to be honest it scares the life out of me on the motorway. It has no power and is about as comfortable as sitting on a deck chair I find myself in pain when I try to get out of it. I’m paranoid that I’m going to make a wrong decision at work and that it will end in catastrophe
I’m at the point where I feel like going to the airport and just getting on the next available flight but I know that I’m only going to take my problems with me.
I’m menopausal and my moods are all over the place and I’m currently crying because my mother has made everything about her again. I know that I’m excluding her by not telling her about my childrens problems. But I honestly can’t deal with her I told you so’s.
sorry for the long post but it does help to write it down
how do you guys do the no contact? My husband says I need to be stronger but I acknowledge that I’m a people pleaser. I’m ultra sensitive and my brain just won’t switch off.
My daughter went on a make or break holiday with her husband and kids. All was going well until he sneaked off to the casino and blew all their spending money ( my mother knows nothing of this she doesn’t even know that my daughter and her husband have separated and he doesn’t live at home anymore) I received a phone call in the middle of the night with my daughter crying hysterically. I calmed her down and we talked for a while. I transferred her some money and they finished the holiday. But it was the final straw for her and she’s contacting a solicitor on Monday.
My son was sexually assaulted at work by a male colleague. He’s reported it to work and the police but it has really messed with his head. He didn’t react how he feels he should have. He keeps saying I should have punched him but instead he just went into shock and stayed rooted to the spot. He’s having flashbacks and is struggling with his emotions. He’s been offered counselling but there’s a waiting list. In the meantime I’m trying my best to support him.
My job is incredibly stressful at the moment and I’m driving 200-250 miles a day as well as working in between. I’m waiting for my new car but at the moment I’m having to make do with a rental and to be honest it scares the life out of me on the motorway. It has no power and is about as comfortable as sitting on a deck chair I find myself in pain when I try to get out of it. I’m paranoid that I’m going to make a wrong decision at work and that it will end in catastrophe
I’m at the point where I feel like going to the airport and just getting on the next available flight but I know that I’m only going to take my problems with me.
I’m menopausal and my moods are all over the place and I’m currently crying because my mother has made everything about her again. I know that I’m excluding her by not telling her about my childrens problems. But I honestly can’t deal with her I told you so’s.
sorry for the long post but it does help to write it down
how do you guys do the no contact? My husband says I need to be stronger but I acknowledge that I’m a people pleaser. I’m ultra sensitive and my brain just won’t switch off.
Thank you for this video I just scrolled back and found it. That lady makes a lot of sense. But I’m not sure if I can personally put it into action yet because I’m still in the doormat stage xMust watch:
They constantly dangle that sense of “I’m going to reject you” and that’s how they keep their power.
It’s the exhaustion of every social interaction feeling like a loss of your sovereignty.
The fact is we are all responsible for our own happiness.
There is no version of this story where you will do enough that’s right for them, so just do what feels right to you.
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