this is so true and they don’t get that because of who they are. Like I said we haven’t spoken to our in laws for 4 years now and life is so much better. But I know for my husband he desperately wishes he had a normal family and he’d still love a normal dynamic. I think it’s human instinct to want to have a family.Wow that hit me hard. I totally relate. I am pregnant now and I feel a deep pain inside me knowing my children won’t have grandparents.
I cut from my family for over 14 years and never looked back. I feel so safe without them but I always have that longing for a family but it’s all a fantasy sadly.
I remember when we first cut ties the narcs and the flying monkeys in the family said why did we put up with them for 7 years if they were so bad? My other half got told he didn’t get abused and even if he did he needed to “get over it” they all act like a big happy family and it make me die as they all spend their time slating one another. The Facebook photos and stories from narc families are hilarious as if you know the dynamics you just can see how fake they all are