These messages up thread reminds me of my mum a bit too. She’s also the type who will
never apologise. It’s really frustrating. When I still lived with her (until I was 29
) it could be hellish, I won’t lie we would have some absolute slanging matches at times, in fact I think it got worse as I got older because I so badly wanted independence and we are
such different people. I’d end up in my room absolutely beside myself having panic attacks and she would never once be the one to come to me and want to reconcile and move on. She would stonewall me / give silent treatment, be passive aggressive - you know the drill. It was always me who would have to initiate an apology and even when I did she would never acknowledge her part in the whole thing or say the words “I’m sorry”. It’s maddening.
She’s also the same with saying ‘thank you’, it’s quite bizarre really. She will basically force you to thank her for something but if the shoe is on the other foot she just will not say it. In fact she once said to me that she didn’t need to thank me for doing things because I’m her daughter?? Okay does that mean I am completely undeserving of gratitude?
What is everyone’s opinion on it, is it some kind of power play?
@FlipFlop0706 I’m so sorry your mum is like that with you. It really hurts when someone point blank refuses to see that they’re in the wrong or take responsibility for a part they played in something. I’m not at all surprised you would rather be low contact with her right now. You need to think about self preservation and look after your own wellbeing first and foremost! 🩷