It's well documented that an increasing number of pregnancies after the age of 40 happen because the mother assumed she was too old to get pregnant and had stopped using, or become careless about, contraception. I bet there are a few of those on Mumsnet ...
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I agree, I remember reading a thread on there about contraception and a lot of them claimed they got pregnant whilst on the pill.
This happened to both of my grandmothers and more recently one of my cousins. Its just basic common sense that if you are still having regular periods then you can still get pregnant, surely?
I made the mistake of dipping into a Harry & Meghan thread this morning. I have high blood pressure anyway... but my god some of them are so sanctimonious and patronising!
I have a friend who had her “FFS I thought I was in the menopause” baby at 50.
Anybody over the age of 27 who struggles with their mood, joint pain and swelling, children, school mums, work, general mats or their spouses is told it's perimenopause.
I could have sworn that women have been fighting for decades not to have all less than sparkly, shiny, happy tra-la-la emotions written off as 'it's your hormones, dear'. The shitshow that ensues as soon as somebody uses the word Hysteria forgets that blaming everything on perimenopause is saying exactly the same.
And if it's a MIL aged over 45 not agreeing to look after the kids for free or has forgotten to perform some other act of service in worship of the most recently working womb owner, it's got to be dementia.
Oh yes, and if somebody in the their late 30s is considering having another child, it's an absolute disaster and way too late - get to 42 and they're told they should have a termination as the kid is bound to be disabled.
One of Bea Arthur's best known roles was a 70s sitcom called Maude where she played an outspoken middle-aged woman named, well, Maude. It was notable for a then groundbreaking storyline where Maude has an accidental pregnancy in her late 40s and decides to have an abortion, as she feels she is too old to have another baby - bearing in mind that at that time, 50 was considered near-elderly. I guarantee that if that aired today Mumsnet would be talking about how it's unrealistic and no one that age can ever conceive
On one of the "looks fading" threads someone said her looks started fading at 43 because "the perimenopause was really kicking in." That's possible; perimenopause can begin at that age especially if you have an earlier than average menopause. But the number of people agreeing with it as if that's what every woman goes through at 43 made me boggle a bit
On one of the "looks fading" threads someone said her looks started fading at 43 because "the perimenopause was really kicking in." That's possible; perimenopause can begin at that age especially if you have an earlier than average menopause. But the number of people agreeing with it as if that's what every woman goes through at 43 made me boggle a bit
My mother also did this when she was 47. Went to the Docs with "the change" problems on August Bank Holiday Monday (as it was know then, end of August) and had my sibling at beginning of October.
I got married not that long after.My Dad’s mum had my Uncle at 43. Her eldest grandchild was actually several months older than him!My mother also did this when she was 47. Went to the Docs with "the change" problems on August Bank Holiday Monday (as it was know then, end of August) and had my sibling at beginning of October.
My grandmother was 43 when my father was born. She was 37 when she had her first (ancient back then) and my father is the youngest of five.
I know this might piss people off, so please feel free to abuse me... but I sailed through the menopause, not a symptom in sight whether peri or real (or whatever the word is). I'm so sorry for those having a hard time, but it's not something that reduces all women to snivelling hormonal wrecks. Sorry. Really sorry. But there is also hope!
Thank you for this! I hate the scaremongering that Mumsnet posters do and if anything I think that scaremongering only stigmatises women even more.
Thanks for this post. I’ve been shitting myself worrying about the menopause after all the scare stories I’ve read on mumsnet(and elsewhere).
Scaremongering seems to be a popular pastime on Mumsnet.
Yeah and as for perimenopausal, are you perimenstrual before you start your periods? No of course not!
Me neither - absolutely nothing at all, never heard of the word perimenopause until quite recently.
I'm in my early 30s and I have noticed my memory not being so good lately. I put that down to the stress of trying to arrange a wedding, honeymoon, house move etc. but Mumsnet has shown me the light. Better go break it to my fiance that I'm sliding into dementia and he'll be spending our first wedding anniversary by my bedside at the nursing home
Perimenopausal is a thing though. It's exactly how Drs describe it. It's when your periods start to become irregular because your ovaries start producing fewer hormones.
It's not a term invented by Mumsnet
Yeah fair enough but it seems to be the stock Mumsnet answer to everything even when not advised by a Dr!
I’m in my 50s and still have regular periods. My mother, grandmother and great grandmother all started periods at 13 and stopped at 55, without suffering bad menopause symptoms. I’m hoping I follow the pattern.
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