I kind of think that is spot on Tbf.
Getting duck protocols in order before the wedding saves a lot of grief way down the line.
Personally I have no issue with sahm, pt, full time, whatever works for you. What does annoy me is women, and men to an extent, who pop out kids and promptly give up work for some tenuous reason like “my salary doesn’t cover childcare”. With absolutely no thought to long term issues like pension, income later in life, what if dh disappears or dies, long term affordability, or any other eventuality.
Get those duck sorted first, so if he leaves, or a child needs care, or something happens and dh loses his job, so that you can provide for yourself and any dependents long term.
Don’t whinge when he runs off with his secretary that you gave up everything and now what do you? Now kids are grown, you have no pension, haven’t worked for 30 years. Much easier if you’ve already planned. Even if it’s continued with pension contributions, or savings, or bought a btl flat you can move in to. Don’t just abdicate all financial responsibility to a man and expect him to support you until you die.