Exactly this! Obviously if a man is genuinely abusive and the woman is in danger then leaving is the sensible option, but like you say it’s not always black and white and when children and joint finances are involved it’s not always that easy.
Exactly this! Obviously if a man is genuinely abusive and the woman is in danger then leaving is the sensible option, but like you say it’s not always black and white and when children and joint finances are involved it’s not always that easy.Possibly controversial so I’m sorry if I offend anyone but I’m absolutely staggered by how many times I see “LTB”. I know some people will absolutely leave a relationship if they feel a line has been crossed and they have every single right to do so but sometimes couples try to work things out first especially if they have children and they should be completely supported in their choice if both parties are capable of moving on and living a good life together. I know couples who have a had things happen in their relationship that would definitely get a LTB on MN but they’ve really worked at their relationship and made it work. Obviously this doesn’t work in every scenario but life is very rarely black and white.
Totally. I know a couple who went through a real bad patch (she adored him, he was a typical lad went out all weekend left her home with the baby coming home pissed etc). She ended up getting Very close to a man at work. She said it wasn’t physical (an emotional affair) but she was fed up of talking to her husband and not feeling heard or understood. She said man at work supported her in ways her husband wasn’t capable of. Anyway the husband found the texts between them. He was hurt but rather than splitting up it shocked him and he realised that if he didn’t want to be there for her then someone else would. They were both remorseful and went to counselling. They’re still together and seem very happy and definitely had a huge lifestyle change for both of them. I can see in their case multiple “LTB” MN moments.Exactly this! Obviously if a man is genuinely abusive and the woman is in danger then leaving is the sensible option, but like you say it’s not always black and white and when children and joint finances are involved it’s not always that easy.
I always thought it was men who were supposed to hate their mother in laws till I read Aibu. Same with men as well, they really hate men.I don't want kids and people always assume I hate kids because of that (I don't), I always say if you want to hear from people who hate kid, get on mumsnet! They either hate their own, their step kids, their neices and nephews, their kids friends, other kids at the school, just random kids or all of the above.
And in real life I don't know anyone who hates their mother in law, the closest is a woman who doesn't like her mother in law but has a good relationship with her for the sake of her husband and kids. Mumsnetters seem to live in a roy chubby brown joke when it comes to mils.
My MIL is a bitch. Some of the stories I could tell would have mumsnetters clutching at their pearls.I always thought it was men who were supposed to hate their mother in laws till I read Aibu. Same with men as well, they really hate men.
I'm not saying there isn't some terrible MiLs out there but they take it to the next level on Mumsnet. If a MIL shows up announced, they practically cry.My MIL is a bitch. Some of the stories I could tell would have mumsnetters clutching at their pearls.
I think they all quickly learn to talk the same shortly after signing up to try and fit in. LTB, pick me dance, ducks in a row, have you been sniffing glue?, Game changer etcThe thing about mumsnet for me is that 95% of the posts could be written by the same poster. They are all similar in style and tone and condescendingnessthere'll be a handful of posters that stand out in a thread for having a different opinion or a distinctively different posting style, but otherwise they're one and the same. Also a thread could run on for 30 pages and the last posts are still echoing the first. It's like people read the OP, immediately add their opinion without bothering to read the whole thread or at least a few pages. Quite often the issue is resolved and people are still offering pearls of wisdom! Unless somethings kicking off, then they never seem to move the discussion forward.
Oooh sounds like she lives "very rurally"I can imagine Linda of the Home Counties, laptop on her knee, in her 5 bedroom detached house (decorated with F&B) and her statement necklace and waterfall cardi, feeling rather daring typing ‘are you on glue?!’ It’s probably the hardest ‘drug’ she knows, even though she necks 5 bottles of red at the weekend.
Absolutely all of this. Seems like they treat their husbands like a roommate or angsty bored teenage son who's under their feet during the school holidays. A partnership absolutely is teamwork and it's actually nice to do things for your partner and them do nice things for you. And apart from that it should be fun. I just can't imagine any Mumsnetters having fun with their partner. Seems like their relationship is stage managed to the degree that it just removes any fun aspect whatsoever. What's the point?I'm not saying there isn't some terrible MiLs out there but they take it to the next level on Mumsnet. If a MIL shows up announced, they practically cry.
It also gets me as well how clinical and business like they all seem to treat marriage and children.
The parents have to do their own cleaning, their own washing, absolutely do not do each other favours, have equal spends from family money, have equal nights out per week, have equal holidays away, have equals hours and minutes on unspecified hobbies, husband has to deal with his side of the family and wife absolutely must not buy his side of the family cards, presents or organise meet ups etc
A proper marriage is teamwork and being there for the other in anyway you can.
On the first reply you forgot the 'NOW.'"AIBU: DH has said he wants to join his friends and play football once a week at the leisure centre"
"OP I am furious for you! How dare he have a couple of hours with his mates and spend maybe £10 of precious family money on himself? Get your ducks in a row and LTB"
"OP is it really football? Sounds to me like he's having an affair. Get to your mums house right away"
"What right does he have to do this? Doesn't he know that anything other than work time must be family time? Does he not want to spend all his time with you?"
"Be careful. He may meet some new friends with working class names such as Dave or Trev. Some of them may even be (shock horror) tradesmen"
Don't forget your free half an hour with a solicitor! And maybe log it with 111 just to be on the safe side."AIBU: DH has said he wants to join his friends and play football once a week at the leisure centre"
"OP I am furious for you! How dare he have a couple of hours with his mates and spend maybe £10 of precious family money on himself? Get your ducks in a row and LTB"
"OP is it really football? Sounds to me like he's having an affair. Get to your mums house right away"
"What right does he have to do this? Doesn't he know that anything other than work time must be family time? Does he not want to spend all his time with you?"
"Be careful. He may meet some new friends with working class names such as Dave or Trev. Some of them may even be (shock horror) tradesmen"
And get CCTV NOW so you can keep watch of your ducks in a row. You will be ok OP my sister’s niece’s mother’s grandma’s Pope had the same thing happen and they are ok this isn’t permanent just get a cleaner and hello fresh and leave NOWDon't forget your free half an hour with a solicitor! And maybe log it with 111 just to be on the safe side.
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