The NICU thing I get to an extent when I had my son it was an emergency c section but he was healthy and didn’t need NICU but it annoyed me that she wouldn’t bond with P P wasn’t critically ill she needed a bit of help she needed her mum who wasn’t there and was more interested in going for lunch - when I had my son all I wanted to do was hold him keep him close to me so I don’t understand how you’d not want to be with your baby when their in NICU! I was a NICU baby I was a twin sadly my twin was stillborn and I was born early and I spent 8 weeks in hospital that wasn’t even local to where we lived my mum was only 18 when she had me so not only was she grieving for one baby she was also terrified of losing me and for the 8 weeks I was there my mum was at the train station for the first train in the morning to the hospital and at the station for the last train home at night she phoned the unit as soon as she was up and as soon as she got home she even phoned several times during the night and my mum said it’s an experience you never forget you never forget the sounds the beeping the wires and tubes even the smell but she said she couldn’t do much for me in NICU as I was so small but she was there sitting for hours on end just to make sure I wasn’t alone and that I was okay... that’s what mums do! They don’t just sit in their room feeling sorry for themselves when you have a child it’s stops being about you P needed her and she was all me me me