I’ve had this a lot, as I’m expecting a September baby and I’m a teacher. Lots of “good effort” and “well planned” as though we just had sex the once and it was a done deal. No, we’ve tried for years, been married nearly 11 years, and I was diagnosed with both PCOS and endometriosis in 2017 so had given up. I’ve had to grin and bear the insensitivity, especially as I’ve always been quite open about my health concerns as I think reproductive health should be discussed more.As the parent of a stillbirth and 30 week miscarriage I totally agree. It particularly enrages me when people say they tried to have autumn babies to help with the school year and a perfect two year gap. I have random age gaps between my 3 and two of them are August babies! It is not a given and not her fault but problems do occur.