it is shocking how some people (especially women) behave like this. I remember my cousin (who had recently been told she would be unable to have children so aws planning to adopt) her MIL (on xmas day, of all times) launched into this ridiculous rant about how adopting was nothing like having children yourself etc etc.. just awful
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Change the locks and leave him thereIt’s a bit weird but I think it’s cos I’m not used to it! Everything’s new and feels weird but it’s 100x better then waking up a sweaty mess on the sofa
He’s been staying at his mums house ever since. Apparently some issues with the carers. It’s switched companies and one day they didn’t turn up (they came to mine) yesterday two turned up one after another. I don’t really know or care - the freedom is amazing.
It’s the little things like not running out of toilet roll every other day, my house being tidy most of the time, not being asked what’s for dinner at 10am & the silence is lovely x
Thankfully yes, they have since adopted a beautiful daughter (and don't live in the same country as the MILThat’s terriblepeople can be so cruel with their words
I hope your cousin is doing well, it’s a huge thing to deal with
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on both fronts 
In an ideal world nobody should have to live in the same country as their MILThankfully yes, they have since adopted a beautiful daughter (and don't live in the same country as the MIL
I was going to say this, change the locks.Change the locks and leave him there
Mine is psychotic.
We are going through a really rough patch, separation has been discussed on numerous occasions and my biggest fear is her coming round to punch me if the worst happens.
I had surgery for a miscarriage the same day my sister in law went for an abortion & my MIL told me I have no idea what the SIL was going through, then didn't speak to us for 5 months. She only contacts my husband when she wants something, never visited when we went through 3 miscarriages but you'll bet your arse she will be there if we split to make sure I don't take any of his money (not that I want it).
We are going through a really rough patch, separation has been discussed on numerous occasions and my biggest fear is her coming round to punch me if the worst happens.
I had surgery for a miscarriage the same day my sister in law went for an abortion & my MIL told me I have no idea what the SIL was going through, then didn't speak to us for 5 months. She only contacts my husband when she wants something, never visited when we went through 3 miscarriages but you'll bet your arse she will be there if we split to make sure I don't take any of his money (not that I want it).
My MIL has just text asking if we're at home.
I'm to bloody hot to deal with her so ignoring it in hope she won't come over
I'm to bloody hot to deal with her so ignoring it in hope she won't come over
This isn't a complaint about my MIL but more a question of am I being an asshole...?
My husband's mom is coming to visit, she lives really far away so I have only met her a handful of times and do not know her well. When she visits, my husband is not taking time off work (WFH). So basically his mom will be sitting around the house all day. He says he doesn't have enough vacation time... well, technically he does but wants to keep it for Christmas. And because he will be working from home he doesn't think it is a big deal but he will be in the office all day as he is busy.
Is it weird that I feel awkward about that? I mean, I guess I could go for walks with her and stuff but I am extremely introverted and like my own space so this just seems...intense to me. My husband said he doesn't expect me to entertain his mom, etc, and that I can just go about my day as normal. I don't currently work and am quite insecure about that and worry she will judge me. Lol. My husband and I got into an argument because I asked what she is going to do and he said she will be happy to just sit around and relax...but I feel obligated to host her.
We are not really people that have a lot of visitors even pre-Covid. It probably sounds so strange but this whole situation fills me with anxiety. I should add that cause of Covid restrictions, I literally have not socialised with anyone outside of the house for a year so I think that makes it seem even more overwhelming!!
My husband's mom is coming to visit, she lives really far away so I have only met her a handful of times and do not know her well. When she visits, my husband is not taking time off work (WFH). So basically his mom will be sitting around the house all day. He says he doesn't have enough vacation time... well, technically he does but wants to keep it for Christmas. And because he will be working from home he doesn't think it is a big deal but he will be in the office all day as he is busy.
Is it weird that I feel awkward about that? I mean, I guess I could go for walks with her and stuff but I am extremely introverted and like my own space so this just seems...intense to me. My husband said he doesn't expect me to entertain his mom, etc, and that I can just go about my day as normal. I don't currently work and am quite insecure about that and worry she will judge me. Lol. My husband and I got into an argument because I asked what she is going to do and he said she will be happy to just sit around and relax...but I feel obligated to host her.
We are not really people that have a lot of visitors even pre-Covid. It probably sounds so strange but this whole situation fills me with anxiety. I should add that cause of Covid restrictions, I literally have not socialised with anyone outside of the house for a year so I think that makes it seem even more overwhelming!!
I don’t think your being an asshole. what I would say though is try to loosen up a weeeeee small tiny bit
if she doesn’t live nearby just think this is temporary. As you’ve only met her a few times it’s more than likely that she is feeling the same way as you are. If it gets overwhelming for you take yourself out for a walk or a coffee on your own. If your husband has said he doesn’t expect you to entertain her then that’s that 
Take him by his word and try not to worry.Failing the above, just take her to the pub and ply her with shots
So iv posted on this thread before about how my MIL wasn't interested in my pregnancy, and I said I bet when he's here she will be all over him......well I gave birth last week and of course I was right. Massive eye roll.
Sick to death of her. She just blows hot and cold and quite honestly she gives me whip lash. She's decided now she's interested but I'm sorry,I can't forgive and forget. She didn't give a tit before or even ask how baby was,in fact she never even made reference to him.
And now to top it all off she wants to be called Man man or something and not nan!! But it means mother in French and I'm fuming about it. Iv told my partner I'm not happy about it. But I just can't stand her anymore she's made such an atmosphere between us throughout the pregnancy. I know thay makes me just as bad as her but I just can't bring myself to forget how she was.
Another thing that annoys me is she said she would leave us alone for a few days aftwr he was born and yet she keeps inviting herself round. Can't be doing with her at all, wish she would bugger off.
Sick to death of her. She just blows hot and cold and quite honestly she gives me whip lash. She's decided now she's interested but I'm sorry,I can't forgive and forget. She didn't give a tit before or even ask how baby was,in fact she never even made reference to him.
And now to top it all off she wants to be called Man man or something and not nan!! But it means mother in French and I'm fuming about it. Iv told my partner I'm not happy about it. But I just can't stand her anymore she's made such an atmosphere between us throughout the pregnancy. I know thay makes me just as bad as her but I just can't bring myself to forget how she was.
Another thing that annoys me is she said she would leave us alone for a few days aftwr he was born and yet she keeps inviting herself round. Can't be doing with her at all, wish she would bugger off.
Congratulations!! I really feel for you on this. There’s nothing worth then constant visitors after just giving birth, let alone an annoying MIL. Maybe you could try and talk to her about how you’re feeling about not really seeming interested in the pregnancy and now she wants to know. She may have a reason behind it - not that it makes it okay.
Failing that, tell your partner to tell her you’re bloody knackered and to duck off. It will wear off though people are all over you when you’ve got a newborn and then they seem to fade away
MIL's birthday is next week. Every year when his poor Dad was alive I used have to remind my husband that it was his birthday, but he's had no problem remembering when his mother's is and has come home with this.
Seriously, is he taking the bleeping piss?!
'A really fabulous mother'. You must be joking.
Seriously, is he taking the bleeping piss?!
'A really fabulous mother'. You must be joking.
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God I hope so hun!! I had abit of a rough labour too, and because I was pushing for 2 and a half hours iv had stitches and quite badly damaged down there- and she knows this and knows I'm suffering. I don't want to see anyone right now!! Let alone her majesty.Congratulations!! I really feel for you on this. There’s nothing worth then constant visitors after just giving birth, let alone an annoying MIL. Maybe you could try and talk to her about how you’re feeling about not really seeming interested in the pregnancy and now she wants to know. She may have a reason behind it - not that it makes it okay.
Failing that, tell your partner to tell her you’re bloody knackered and to duck off. It will wear off though people are all over you when you’ve got a newborn and then they seem to fade away
I feel abit of a hypocrite really because I moaned she wasn't interested before and moaning now she is. But she really made my pregnancy miserable with all her mood swings and being funny about the pregnancy, so why should I accommodate her mood now!!??
God why can't my fella just have a normal mum!!??
Ps hope all gets sorted with your MIL xx
I am so glad I no longer have mother-in-laws BUT, I am a mother-in-law! I don't think I've ever been as diabolical as some of the ones featured on here thoughMIL's birthday is next week. Every year when his poor Dad was alive I used have to remind my husband that it was his birthday, but he's had no problem remembering when his mother's is and has come home with this.
Seriously, is he taking the bleeping piss?!
'A really fabulous mother'. You must be joking.
I’m almost convinced no fella has a normal mum!! I really feel for you on the labour and stitches I had the same and everybody’s all over the baby like a rash and nobody cares about you
and you just want to recover but it does settle especially once you start going out and making your own plans!If she’s still all over you a couple of weeks I would deffo ask her why she was so weird in pregnancy!
ahh thank you mine has finally gone home now
She wants to be called Maman?!
Is she actually French, or just nuts?
Tell her if she wants to use French words she can be Grand-Mere, y’know, which actually means grandmother.
yeah this situation sounds very awkward, it is awful to feel that you are not able to properly relax in your own home. Do you have any of your friends parents of about her age that you could invite to do stuff with her to get her out of the house?
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