Holy mother that is callous!My husband passed away in 2018. I had always described my mil as a bit odd, machiavellian behaviour and she done some pretty shit stuff to me over the years but nothing could have prepared me for when my husband died. She knew of an insurance policy that my husband had as the mail would go to her house (address not updated). In 2021 she tried to cash it in, claiming that she had tried to find me but she presumed I was dead. This insurance policy was to the tune of 200k and was to be split between surviving spouse and any children. My husband had a son (my stepson) and she tried to defraud us both.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband xMy husband passed away in 2018. I had always described my mil as a bit odd, machiavellian behaviour and she done some pretty shit stuff to me over the years but nothing could have prepared me for when my husband died. She knew of an insurance policy that my husband had as the mail would go to her house (address not updated). In 2021 she tried to cash it in, claiming that she had tried to find me but she presumed I was dead. This insurance policy was to the tune of 200k and was to be split between surviving spouse and any children. My husband had a son (my stepson) and she tried to defraud us both.
I got a lawyer involved and was able to claim what was mine and my stepsons. I never reported mil to the police, I could have done. She was just a wicked, wicked woman.I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband x
That is awful, inexcusable behaviour from the MIL. Did you report her or anything?
My partner hasn't seen a penny of his dad's savings etc, he got a small payout from his Dad's work as it was a death in service situation and his dad had completed an expression of wish form. So other than money directly from his company, my partner and his sister have had nothing meanwhile step MIL has it all.
Not quite the same, but after MIL/FIL divorced FIL moved on and got a girlfriend (this wasn't actually the first one, but was the one that became a long term relationship). Within the first couple of years she completely alienated him from us, he actually rang MrDD to tell him "not to call on weekends because that's HER time" (they lived apart). We haven't actually seen FIL for at least a decade as he became completely sucked into her side of the family and so he just "didn't have time" to see us. The last time we saw him (family funeral) he pretty much ignored us the whole time because his girlfriends son was there... His sister was gobsmacked at his behaviour (and told us so as she walked us out to the car when we left).I've seen and heard of so many instances where the person feels confident that their spouse (second marriage) will leave a significant portion to their children only to see it never happen and the spouse take it all to know I've never marrying.
Poor staff members being treated like that, I’d have loudly apologised for everyone’s behaviour and walked out. So sorry you had a crap night.Just back from an absolutely excruciating night out with my out-laws for M-O-L’s birthday. Went to a 5 star hotel for a meal - she books the same place every time and every time spends the whole evening complaining about the food/service etc - then hands over the thick end of £400 for a meal/wine…(I’m lucky to earn that in a fortnight at my job - it’s small change to her)
When we arrived she was already kicking off with the manager because he’d put her at a different table to normal (she hadn’t stipulated, they should have read her mind apparently) so they switched us, even though they were already busy.
Food was all wrong, her main course didn’t arrive, and fair enough to complain about that, but we had crocodile tears and “it’s my birthday ruined” etc. My sister in law just got absolutely shit faced and started causing havoc, shouting at the waiters etc. she’d drunk three double g&ts a bottle of wine and two cocktails by the end of the evening.
I couldn’t eat anything I felt so stressed. Just sat there wanting to run away. In the end she complained so vocally the manager gave her 50% off the bill. I had my coat on and was half way up the car park before everyone had said goodbye.
I don’t fit in, in these posh restaurants. And even though some of the evening was the staff’s fault, I felt so bad for them listening to this idiot bunch of ungrateful middle class twats being nasty to them. I don’t know what I’m doing with my life anymore.
this is exactly my step mil! I’ve withdrawn after offering to pop round or invite her to do something and getting knocked back each time bcos she’s “not feeling up to it”, acting downtrodden then finding out she’s already made plans and gone out for lunchWe unexpectedly and devastatingly lost my partners dad (step MILs husband) last year, and through the whole time she kept behaving in a selfish way and making ridiculous statements as if she was the only one suffering. A year later and she's still complaining to my SIL that my partner doesn't message her and insinuated he's rude and heartless for not doing so. She never messages him though!
Don't bother with the old bat in future!! I am so glad I don't have mothers-in-law any longerthis is exactly my step mil! I’ve withdrawn after offering to pop round or invite her to do something and getting knocked back each time bcos she’s “not feeling up to it”, acting downtrodden then finding out she’s already made plans and gone out for lunch
Oh my! That is dreadful. How can she treat her own grandchild that way? I would cut contact if I were her parents. 11 is a difficult enough age as it is.MIL is surpassing herself recently; we have a 10 year old niece who is autistic and splits her time between my BIL and his ex. When she was very young things between her parents wasn’t good so my MIL was the go between however it soon transpired that she was essentially playing one off against the other so they cut her out and now directly deal with each other (which makes so much more sense). Anyway since then my MIL has been awful to my niece- belittles her, blames her for everything and quite frankly bullies her. As a result my BIL (understandably) rarely takes my niece to see my MIL. However yesterday we all happened to be there together as my niece is turning 11 today so we had a party- MIL was so vile to her that my boyfriend turned to her and said that if she spoke to my niece in that way again she wouldn’t have contact with either of our two. As she does every time MIL turned on the tears, screaming and shouting that she raised all 6 of her boys on her own and how dare they accuse her of doing things she isn’t doing and they don’t appreciate herit is beyond ridiculous. I’m very close to my niece and make sure to refute everything MIL says to her, I praise her and spend as much time with her as possible but it’s clear of course that MIL’s actions are affecting her. Sorry for the rant it’s just been all I can think of all day. I just don’t know how to deal with it as MIL is so combative when called out on her behaviour- the screaming and crying is something I’d expect from my 2yo not a 65yo
It’s truly awful and only getting worse. My BIL is very low contact and we are going to do the same but make sure we are at MILs for extra support if our niece does go there.Oh my! That is dreadful. How can she treat her own grandchild that way? I would cut contact if I were her parents. 11 is a difficult enough age as it is.
How awful for your niece, disgusting behaviour fromMIL is surpassing herself recently; we have a 10 year old niece who is autistic and splits her time between my BIL and his ex. When she was very young things between her parents wasn’t good so my MIL was the go between however it soon transpired that she was essentially playing one off against the other so they cut her out and now directly deal with each other (which makes so much more sense). Anyway since then my MIL has been awful to my niece- belittles her, blames her for everything and quite frankly bullies her. As a result my BIL (understandably) rarely takes my niece to see my MIL. However yesterday we all happened to be there together as my niece is turning 11 today so we had a party- MIL was so vile to her that my boyfriend turned to her and said that if she spoke to my niece in that way again she wouldn’t have contact with either of our two. As she does every time MIL turned on the tears, screaming and shouting that she raised all 6 of her boys on her own and how dare they accuse her of doing things she isn’t doing and they don’t appreciate herit is beyond ridiculous. I’m very close to my niece and make sure to refute everything MIL says to her, I praise her and spend as much time with her as possible but it’s clear of course that MIL’s actions are affecting her. Sorry for the rant it’s just been all I can think of all day. I just don’t know how to deal with it as MIL is so combative when called out on her behaviour- the screaming and crying is something I’d expect from my 2yo not a 65yo
What a vile witch! So glad your niece has support around her. I'm glad everyone is seeing your MIL true colours, heart breaks for that poor child.MIL is surpassing herself recently; we have a 10 year old niece who is autistic and splits her time between my BIL and his ex. When she was very young things between her parents wasn’t good so my MIL was the go between however it soon transpired that she was essentially playing one off against the other so they cut her out and now directly deal with each other (which makes so much more sense). Anyway since then my MIL has been awful to my niece- belittles her, blames her for everything and quite frankly bullies her. As a result my BIL (understandably) rarely takes my niece to see my MIL. However yesterday we all happened to be there together as my niece is turning 11 today so we had a party- MIL was so vile to her that my boyfriend turned to her and said that if she spoke to my niece in that way again she wouldn’t have contact with either of our two. As she does every time MIL turned on the tears, screaming and shouting that she raised all 6 of her boys on her own and how dare they accuse her of doing things she isn’t doing and they don’t appreciate herit is beyond ridiculous. I’m very close to my niece and make sure to refute everything MIL says to her, I praise her and spend as much time with her as possible but it’s clear of course that MIL’s actions are affecting her. Sorry for the rant it’s just been all I can think of all day. I just don’t know how to deal with it as MIL is so combative when called out on her behaviour- the screaming and crying is something I’d expect from my 2yo not a 65yo
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