I think she treats Darcy the way she does out of guilt and fear. Guilt that she was an only child for so long and now feels bad that she has to split her time and fear because her mum died so young and she has said quite a few times how Darcy is now at the age Louise was when her mum passed away. I do get it but it’s so damaging. Louise would be a therapists dream [emoji51]
I admit I spoiled my daughter when her father and I split. She was only 18 months at the time and I felt horrible he wasn’t there anymore. (Long story short, he did everything for her. A bit mentally abusive, said I was a bad mum when she was only a week old because I had a lie down when she was asleep. He wouldn’t let me do things with her when he got home from work and at weekends, said I was doing it wrong so I didn’t have much of a bond with her. She hated me bathing her and putting her to bed etc and would scream for him all the time. It was pretty soul destroying for that first year it was just us) I over compensated by buying her lots of things. If I had the money I probably would have took her to Disney too. I had to be both a mum and a dad to her while trying hard to bond at the same time
That single mum guilt can eat away at you. My daughters dad moved back to his parents 40 miles away and didn’t drive (he still doesn’t and still lives there too 10 years later) so she didn’t see him much. Now she sees him 4 days a month (completely his choice btw, I have suggested more but it doesn’t fit into his schedule he says) and she misses him. I’ve had to hug her while she’s cried because he hasn’t called her when he said he would, he doesn’t reply to her WhatsApp messages, etc. So I get so so annoyed when Louise says how horrible it is to have 50/50 with Matt. Darcy doesn’t have that heartbreak my daughter has, she has regular contact with both parents and has 2 very loving homes.
I’d like to point out that now I have an amazing bond with my daughter, as sad as she is at her dad not being around and contacting her between her fortnightly visits to him it was the best thing for me and her us splitting up. She does not get spoiled anymore either. If I say no to something she’ll go ‘my dad would buy me it if I asked him’ to which I reply ‘ask him for it then’. [emoji23] He says no as well.
She treats Darcy as though her life with Liam and Pearl is an awful thing. That having a live in boyfriend (or as Darcy refers to him ‘your babe’) and a little sister is a terrible thing to happen to a 7 year old. That’s life especially nowadays with so many blended families. Personally I think she wants to one-up Matt and Devon as much as she can.
