I never understand when they do this as soap acting is (relatively) stable for an actor in an industry which is anything butSoap opera actors, who decide they've outgrown the show and decide to leave and become a bigger star. Only to realise the grass isn't always greener(i.e. they don't have the acting talent) and subsequently end up back in the same show!
Related to this, nowwadays people just seem to brag about how busy they are all the time, everyone seems to have "side hustles" (another term I hate). I don't see how people think it is a positive to not have any free time to relaxGot another one. When people say things like "you've got too much time on your hands" or "I wish I had the time to do that" when you get to do something you enjoy or just a little hobby or anything really, its just so belittling and rude.
Completely agree. Drives me insane.Related to this, nowwadays people just seem to brag about how busy they are all the time, everyone seems to have "side hustles" (another term I hate). I don't see how people think it is a positive to not have any free time to relax
Kind of related but it’s the gate keeping parents do in general. For instance ‘Mummy friends, do you have any recommendations for somewhere to take the kids this weekend?’ - why just Mummy friends? Why not everyone who’s capable of recognising somewhere appropriate to take children? Daddies. Grandparents, aunts and uncles, friends. We’re aware of what facilities are like too.I’m a mum to a boy and I hate that people who are mums to girls think I have absolutely no idea what it’s like to parent a girl - ‘you just wouldn’t understand’. Hold on, was I not a girl once? Am I not female? True I’m not a mum to a girl but I remember what it’s like to be a little girl. This has annoyed me for years. It’s like because I’m a ‘boy mum’ I’m not longer female it would seem.
Also, the way some women look down on having a boy. I have a friend who used to do this to, she had one girl at the time. She’d wrinkle her nose and say I just can’t imagine having a boy, as if it was the worst thing ever. She has a boy now and I reminded her what she said and she denied it! Hmm yes you definitely used to ‘feel sorry’ for me because I had a boy and couldn’t dress my kid in pink girly things. She said as much!
This same friend is so stuck in the pink is for girls, blue is for boys BS that it’s hard to talk to her about it. My son was trying to talk to her daughter about dinosaurs and she interrupted and said ‘x just likes LOL dolls’. As if she can’t also learn about dinos? I said to her daughter ‘you know 50% of dinosaurs were female’ lol that didn’t go down well!
I find anyone who constantly has to make reference to themselves being a parent completely nauseating. I totally get that to some people, their kids are their life...but it's not a competition! I have a friend whose FB page consists of those inspirational quotes about how wonderful it is to be a mum, 'my kids are my life, I would do anything for them - share if you agree'. Yes, I do agree, but I need neither affirmation from Facebook friends nor the need to bleat on about it every single dayKind of related but it’s the gate keeping parents so in general. For instance ‘Mummy friends, do you have any recommendations for somewhere to take the kids this weekend?’ - why just Mummy friends? Why not everyone who’s capable of recognising somewhere appropriate to take children? Daddies. Grandparents, aunts and uncles, friends. We’re aware of what facilities are like too.
I absolutely despise when people say ‘as a parent I...’ then go on to claim something any normal, reasonable person would think. ‘As a parent I hate child killers’. This isn’t unique to parents! What about step-parents? Are they allowed to feel like that? Or a parent who’s child is now deceased? What about them? If you’re unable to have children, can you not have the same level of interest or outrage? Adoptive or Forster parents, people that act as caregivers but aren’t parents. There are Parents that abandoned their children, do they know better than a non-parent.
But no, you wouldn’t understand or feel as strongly because you’re not ‘a parent’.
I’m not a parent yet but I still have an opinion about child education, healthcare, social issues affecting children, danger etc
There are very few situations where this qualifier works without a further qualifier that makes their understanding/insight more unique.
Totally agree, it also must be horrible for someone who wants children and hasn't been able to to hear this constantlyKind of related but it’s the gate keeping parents do in general. For instance ‘Mummy friends, do you have any recommendations for somewhere to take the kids this weekend?’ - why just Mummy friends? Why not everyone who’s capable of recognising somewhere appropriate to take children? Daddies. Grandparents, aunts and uncles, friends. We’re aware of what facilities are like too.
I absolutely despise when people say ‘as a parent I...’ then go on to claim something any normal, reasonable person would think. ‘As a parent I hate child killers’. This isn’t unique to parents! What about step-parents? Are they allowed to feel like that? Or a parent who’s child is now deceased? What about them? If you’re unable to have children, can you not have the same level of interest or outrage? Adoptive or Forster parents, people that act as caregivers but aren’t parents. There are Parents that abandoned their children, do they know better than a non-parent?
But no, you wouldn’t understand or feel as strongly because you’re not ‘a parent’.
I’m not a parent yet but I still have an opinion about child education, healthcare, social issues affecting children, danger etc
There are very few situations where this qualifier works without a further qualifier that makes their understanding/insight more unique.
YES! Also when you comment on a certain parenting technique or what you would do for example and then people say "Oh you're not a parent you wouldn't know"Kind of related but it’s the gate keeping parents do in general. For instance ‘Mummy friends, do you have any recommendations for somewhere to take the kids this weekend?’ - why just Mummy friends? Why not everyone who’s capable of recognising somewhere appropriate to take children? Daddies. Grandparents, aunts and uncles, friends. We’re aware of what facilities are like too.
I absolutely despise when people say ‘as a parent I...’ then go on to claim something any normal, reasonable person would think. ‘As a parent I hate child killers’. This isn’t unique to parents! What about step-parents? Are they allowed to feel like that? Or a parent who’s child is now deceased? What about them? If you’re unable to have children, can you not have the same level of interest or outrage? Adoptive or Forster parents, people that act as caregivers but aren’t parents. There are Parents that abandoned their children, do they know better than a non-parent?
But no, you wouldn’t understand or feel as strongly because you’re not ‘a parent’.
I’m not a parent yet but I still have an opinion about child education, healthcare, social issues affecting children, danger etc
There are very few situations where this qualifier works without a further qualifier that makes their understanding/insight more unique.
Yes! I’m sure we can all admit there are ‘ideal world’ things that might fall by the wayside (no sweets until x age, say) but fundamental beliefs aren’t going to change or be flexed; suggesting otherwise is quite offensive. No, I can categorically tell you my child will never be forced to kiss relatives, ever. Also, it’s everyone’s journey to learn and adapt, advice is sometimes welcome but being told what you will and won’t do because that’s what they did or being laughed at is unfair and arrogant.YES! Also when you comment on a certain parenting technique or what you would do for example and then people say "Oh you're not a parent you wouldn't know"
Like yeah I'm not a parent but I have been a child? I know how I felt as a kid when my parents did certain things or handled certain things. It's not ridiculous stuff either, I'm not being like "oh I'm only going feed my kids organic vegan quinoa whole food paleo air borne diet" it things like, I'm not going to make my kid hug people they don't want to or hit them as disicipline or pull their trousers down in front of people or tell them their feelings and opinions don't matter.
You've articulated it so well that's exactly how i feel about it!!Yes! I’m sure we can all admit there are ‘ideal world’ things that might fall by the wayside (no sweets until x age, say) but fundamental beliefs aren’t going to change or be be flexed; suggesting otherwise is quite offensive. No, I can categorically tell you my child will never be forced to kiss relatives, ever. Also, it’s everyone’s journey to learn and adapt, advice is sometimes welcome but being told what you will and won’t do because that’s what they did or being laughed at is unfair and arrogant.
My best friend essentially co-parents her nephew due to family issues. She’s also qualified in childcare. I have another friend with a son they’ve not seen for 7 years since birth. The argument ‘you’re not a parent so you wouldn’t understand’ is so shortsighted.
This is on the increase, it's not just BMW and Audi drivers, this really annoys me.People who are incapable of using their indicators at roundabouts, or who wait until they're half way over before remembering to use them
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