we sometimes borrow my dads car for grocery shopping and day trips, but my bf drives it. i'd love for us to get our own car so that i could practice properly. and before that i would definitely get some extra lessons, i feel like i don't remember anything! that just has to wait a little bit longer because our financial situation is not good atm :/
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My heart is already racing thinking about tomorrow's lesson 
feel like just giving up
feel like just giving up
You can do it! Think of how good you will feel when you’ve had your lesson. I know it’s hard now. It helps me to watch YouTube videos of people having their lessons, so I kinda know what to expect xMy heart is already racing thinking about tomorrow's lesson
You can absolutely do it! I used to be nearly in tears before lessons and really found rescue remedy helped, does your instructor know how you feel?My heart is already racing thinking about tomorrow's lesson
good luck
Yes, he's brilliant. I take rescue remedy, do hypnosis and eat a banana before every lesson to try and helpYou can absolutely do it! I used to be nearly in tears before lessons and really found rescue remedy helped, does your instructor know how you feel?
good luck
What is it that worries you so much?
I have anxiety anyway but I just find driving terrifying. Sometimes I struggle even being a passenger in a car.
I hate learning new things, I'm a perfectionist. I don't want to make any mistakes. I don't like not being good enough. Basically, I'm just tit
Logically though, you know that what you’ve written there isn’t true, right?
you need to sometimes be accepting of the fact that in order to be able to do something proficiently, you have you take the time to learn how to do it, and that within that process you will and absolutely should make mistakes - it’s how we learn and develop. No one on this earth ever got in a car straight off the bat and was a “perfect” driver - not one single solitary soul!!! Driving is a skill, like any other, which we have to take time to learn and also gain confidence in our own ability. Take the pressure off - it’s just driving. The world will still turn tomorrow if you crunch the gears or indicate too late or stall or whatever- you are supposed to make errors!!! I was at the supermarket today right and the lady in the car infront of me mounted the pavement and drove Over it to access the car park when she was yards from the turning into the car park and then she parked her car horizontally in the parking bay and off she went to do her shopping..... I tit you not.
Don’t sweat it - your doing better than you think, promise!
Something else I thought about re learner drivers
Driving is one of those skills you only develop through actually doing it. It is so hard when you only get access to car once a week for an hour with an instructor, and you'll spend most of the time going over the same things, but I promise it is so worth it!
I have been there with the anxiety... In fact, I was caught on a huge roundabout in the wrong lane and no one would let me change so I ended up in a B&Q car park and literally just had a big cry. This was after passing my test and having six months solo driving under my belt.
It does get better, honestly, and these wobbles happen to all of us so please don't let it put you off. Enjoy it, it is so liberating when you can literally just hop into a car and go wherever the hell you want.
Driving is one of those skills you only develop through actually doing it. It is so hard when you only get access to car once a week for an hour with an instructor, and you'll spend most of the time going over the same things, but I promise it is so worth it!
I have been there with the anxiety... In fact, I was caught on a huge roundabout in the wrong lane and no one would let me change so I ended up in a B&Q car park and literally just had a big cry. This was after passing my test and having six months solo driving under my belt.
It does get better, honestly, and these wobbles happen to all of us so please don't let it put you off. Enjoy it, it is so liberating when you can literally just hop into a car and go wherever the hell you want.
Well it could have gone a lot better, but was nowhere near as bad as I expected
See? It was a lesson so anything “bad” that happened wasn’t bad, was it? It’s just part of the lesson and you will work on as you carry on. Focus on what went well. Another lesson ticked off and another step towards passing your test. It’s alllllll good!
I am so glad I found this thread. I don’t know why I have this fear of learning to drive. I did a few lessons a few years ago and then stopped. I have a toddler now so really need to learn. I booked a theory test to ease myself back in. I get really anxious when I have a lesson. I struggle with how close the car should be to the curb etc... I know it takes practice but it still stresses me out.
It just takes practice. You’ll only learn and feel
Comfortable with the dimensions of the car and things like that by actually being in a car and driving it yourself. That’s what lessons are for - to learn!! I think everyone puts way too much pressure on themselves with driving - no one is expected to know how to do it to begin with, it’s perfectly ok to not know what to do! Book some lessons and get started, the longer you sit and wait the more you will overthink it and the worse you will feel.
Hey all, thought I'd join this thread! I'm 29 in a couple of weeks and it frustrates me so much that I can't drive yet. I didn't start learning until my early 20s and had real issues with confidence and anxiety plus a couple of crap instructors so I gave up for a short while. I then picked it up again, was well on my way with it and then was diagnosed with cataracts in both eyes and wasn't allowed to drive. From diagnosis, to the operations, to recovery I wasn't driving for 2-3 years. Was finally given the go ahead to continue driving again early last year then bloody covid happened! I was having lessons toward the end of last year with a new instructor who I love, then the third lockdown happened 
However, I passed my theory end of last year and resumed my lessons for the millionth time last week!
My test is booked for 1st July as that's the date I was given when my March test was cancelled due to lockdown (which I wouldn't have done anyway as I'd had no lessons for months.) My confidence has vastly improved from what it was, but I'm still a very nervy driver and feel VERY anxious before my lessons but when I'm actually in the lesson I feel ok. I think my biggest fear is roundabouts, I just dread them! I'm so busy slowing down and getting into second gear that it then overwhelms me that I've got to really quickly decide whether I can go or not and whether to carry on or go into first gear and stop, I feel like I'm just crap at judging and I panic cos you have to do it so fast and there's loads of cars behind you, ugh I just hate it! I think roundabouts will be what fails me on my practical :/
However, I passed my theory end of last year and resumed my lessons for the millionth time last week!My test is booked for 1st July as that's the date I was given when my March test was cancelled due to lockdown (which I wouldn't have done anyway as I'd had no lessons for months.) My confidence has vastly improved from what it was, but I'm still a very nervy driver and feel VERY anxious before my lessons but when I'm actually in the lesson I feel ok. I think my biggest fear is roundabouts, I just dread them! I'm so busy slowing down and getting into second gear that it then overwhelms me that I've got to really quickly decide whether I can go or not and whether to carry on or go into first gear and stop, I feel like I'm just crap at judging and I panic cos you have to do it so fast and there's loads of cars behind you, ugh I just hate it! I think roundabouts will be what fails me on my practical :/
That is so normal, I used to think it would be impossible to drive down a street without crashing into things. I had no spatial awareness and it also really threw me being sat on one side of the car and not the middle so I’d end up waaay to close to stuff. I know it’s cliche but when you’ve been driving a while the car really does become an extension of you. This may not even come by the time you do your test, but trust me after a while you’ll forget about all the stress and it’ll just be second nature. Please keep going!
You don’t have to panic and quickly do anything on approach to a roundabout. As you approach drop the car to second gear and about 20mph, get in the correct lane and indicate if you are going left or right (hold off on the indicator if you are going straight over) look to the right and if it’s clear and you are the leading car then just carry on. If you are behind a car you need to keep slow and either stop and drop to 1st gear behind them or if it’s clear and they go, then stay in 2nd and go behind. But whatever, don’t allow other traffic behind you to panic you - you just focus on yourself. And plus your in a learner car so people know you are learning!!!! If you find roundabouts are your nemesis then tell your instructor and ask to concentrate on doing them - I know that’s maybe the thing you don’t want to do but it’s honestly just repetition that will get you comfortable with it.Hey all, thought I'd join this thread! I'm 29 in a couple of weeks and it frustrates me so much that I can't drive yet. I didn't start learning until my early 20s and had real issues with confidence and anxiety plus a couple of crap instructors so I gave up for a short while. I then picked it up again, was well on my way with it and then was diagnosed with cataracts in both eyes and wasn't allowed to drive. From diagnosis, to the operations, to recovery I wasn't driving for 2-3 years. Was finally given the go ahead to continue driving again early last year then bloody covid happened! I was having lessons toward the end of last year with a new instructor who I love, then the third lockdown happened
My test is booked for 1st July as that's the date I was given when my March test was cancelled due to lockdown (which I wouldn't have done anyway as I'd had no lessons for months.) My confidence has vastly improved from what it was, but I'm still a very nervy driver and feel VERY anxious before my lessons but when I'm actually in the lesson I feel ok. I think my biggest fear is roundabouts, I just dread them! I'm so busy slowing down and getting into second gear that it then overwhelms me that I've got to really quickly decide whether I can go or not and whether to carry on or go into first gear and stop, I feel like I'm just crap at judging and I panic cos you have to do it so fast and there's loads of cars behind you, ugh I just hate it! I think roundabouts will be what fails me on my practical :/
Don't worry about slowing down drivers behind you or what they think of you.
I do check my rear view mirror to know what is going on, but really couldn't give a rats a about the car behind. In fact, when they sit right on the back of me and I know I'm going to be approaching a dual carriageway or something (loads around here by me) I let them over take me so they can get out of my sight and continue rushing around.
I will never forget the time a boy racer was stood in front of me at a busy junction and stalled - it was on a down hill
so it happens to confident drivers who you wouldn't expect, too! No one beeped or anything just leave them to it and only delayed the junction by a few seconds. It doesn't half feel longer though when you are the one who stalls.
I do check my rear view mirror to know what is going on, but really couldn't give a rats a about the car behind. In fact, when they sit right on the back of me and I know I'm going to be approaching a dual carriageway or something (loads around here by me) I let them over take me so they can get out of my sight and continue rushing around.
I will never forget the time a boy racer was stood in front of me at a busy junction and stalled - it was on a down hill
so it happens to confident drivers who you wouldn't expect, too! No one beeped or anything just leave them to it and only delayed the junction by a few seconds. It doesn't half feel longer though when you are the one who stalls.Thanks both! I will try and remember to just ignore what's going on behind me and focus on approaching the junction and keep calm. My lesson is in 10 minutes so I will report back!
I got overtook loads on my lesson last Sunday, I'm a learner! I'm learning how to drive safely, no acting like an idiot with no patience!
Do any of you have advice for the theory side of it all?
I keep being pushed to start learning and tbf it would be very useful, but having looked at some theory books I have no clue where to start or what to do
I keep being pushed to start learning and tbf it would be very useful, but having looked at some theory books I have no clue where to start or what to do
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