Well done though, hopefully next time those nerves will ease up a bit.I failednerves got the better of me, I hope next time I feel more prepared
Youāll have company soon anyway, itās mine tomorrow and I have no hopes for a good result.
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Youāll have company soon anyway, itās mine tomorrow and I have no hopes for a good result.
I hope you pass! think positive 
Yes I have, they were good in my experience. They helped prevent me getting really hyped up and panicky but did not make me drowsy or wired.
Good luck for tomorrow @judsmum! Thank you everyone for this thread, everyone I know can drive and I feel like the odd one out. Itās really nice to share my experiences and read others too 
Hi everyone
I started my lessons again last Sunday. I have a new instructor and she is a lovely, gentle Ecuadorian lady with the most relaxing voice and demeanour.
even though I have had multiple lessons previously no one taught me about āpush pullā steering! We spent the whole lesson working on this and steering wheel control and I was shocked no one else had shown me. The discrepancy between each instructor can be huge!
Anyway, I got the hang of it by the end of the lesson but felt so stupid at the beginning when I couldnāt grasp it that I had to fight back tears! How ridiculous. I think I just feel so ashamed that I canāt yet drive that if the slightest thing goes wrong my mind screams at me that Iām too stupid to do it.
At the end of the lesson my instructor said to me I am a fast learner and I have to stop telling myself I canāt do it because I can. Sheās a lovely lady, I really feel good about seeing her. Next lesson is on Saturday. My plan is to be passed by the end of the year - I feel determined this time! Good luck everyone
I started my lessons again last Sunday. I have a new instructor and she is a lovely, gentle Ecuadorian lady with the most relaxing voice and demeanour.
even though I have had multiple lessons previously no one taught me about āpush pullā steering! We spent the whole lesson working on this and steering wheel control and I was shocked no one else had shown me. The discrepancy between each instructor can be huge!
Anyway, I got the hang of it by the end of the lesson but felt so stupid at the beginning when I couldnāt grasp it that I had to fight back tears! How ridiculous. I think I just feel so ashamed that I canāt yet drive that if the slightest thing goes wrong my mind screams at me that Iām too stupid to do it.
At the end of the lesson my instructor said to me I am a fast learner and I have to stop telling myself I canāt do it because I can. Sheās a lovely lady, I really feel good about seeing her. Next lesson is on Saturday. My plan is to be passed by the end of the year - I feel determined this time! Good luck everyone
This really resonated with me!
me too.
So, I am sat on my bed, on my own in floods of tears because in 3 hours my instructor is coming for me and in five hours Iāll have failed. I honestly donāt think I can remember a thing that Iām supposed to do. Iām bleeping furious with myself.
It took me years to learn! I actually passed first time in a manual car but as soon as I passed I lost all my confidence and didn't drive for years. I've recently started driving again and I have an automatic and its so much easier! Driving doesn't come naturally to me at all and I don't enjoy it but I have to take my daughter to nursery. It upsets me sometimes that I'm so reliant on my husband as I won't drive far away.
Hey guys, I started learning to drive once lessons started again, ten years later than my peers, and Iāve never been more terrified - I first had lessons 4 years ago and I felt like my instructor threw me in the deep end, it was terrifying, I had a panic attack and never went back. Fortunately now I have a brilliant instructor whoās really worked on my confidence and weāve booked my test for end of November! For someone whoās had a decade of anxiety issues and months of therapy, itās something I didnāt see happening.
One thing thatās actually really helping me keep a handle on the nerves is knowing that no one in my immediate circle passed first time - and because Iāve paid for all my lessons thereās no additional pressure if I donāt. Just because I failed something, doesnāt make me a failure (and trust me that one was a lot of therapy to learn too).
My final tip is try and think what youād say to a friend in your position - youād be a lot kinder to them than youāre being to yourself.
Wishing you the best of luck, but whatever happens, youāre going to be OK.
One thing thatās actually really helping me keep a handle on the nerves is knowing that no one in my immediate circle passed first time - and because Iāve paid for all my lessons thereās no additional pressure if I donāt. Just because I failed something, doesnāt make me a failure (and trust me that one was a lot of therapy to learn too).
Judsmum Iām so sorry youāre so scared and sending you a big, Covid compliant, virtual hug. The only advice I can offer is that your instructor wouldnāt be letting you take the test if they didnāt think you were ready. You are therefore clearly a safe and competent driver, and if you demonstrate that you should pass. If you donāt pass, you can try again, itās not reflective of you as a person. Thereās a lot of us in here in the same boat
My final tip is try and think what youād say to a friend in your position - youād be a lot kinder to them than youāre being to yourself.
Wishing you the best of luck, but whatever happens, youāre going to be OK.
Thinking of you and sending lots of positive vibes your way!
I hope you get on OK xx
I failed.
only got two minors and did my manoeuvre well but there is a four lane roundabout in the city centre and a lorry was trying to get in my lane and apparently I didnāt move over to let him in quick enough.
only got two minors and did my manoeuvre well but there is a four lane roundabout in the city centre and a lorry was trying to get in my lane and apparently I didnāt move over to let him in quick enough.
Gutted for you. You seem to have a lot of positives you can take forward though! Well done you for getting through it
This a hundred times! I feel like such a tit mum because I canāt pick her up, I canāt take her to ballet (my sister goes while Iām having my driving lesson), we canāt just go swimming or into town on my day off unless my sister is free. It sucks but it doesnāt make me a bar person!
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That appears to be a really crappy reason, but it appears you had a really good drive and are clearly very capable! 2 minors
That appears to be a really crappy reason, but it appears you had a really good drive and are clearly very capable! 2 minors
Youāll get it next time that doesnāt sound too bad honestly and any competent driver could do that! Mine was way worse I had loads of marks against me but just donāt give up
2 minors is fantastic. Something positive to think about for your next test. Well done for getting through it x
It sounds like very bad luck as well. Youāre clearly very safe with 2 minors, so next time youāll smash it.That appears to be a really crappy reason, but it appears you had a really good drive and are clearly very capable! 2 minors
I had a very similar experience with my first test. I was reacting to a situation and the examiner pointed it out. Because they mentioned it it was classed as examiner intervened and immediate fail! Only had 4 minors otherwise.
I think having to do the test again helped as I knew what to expect that time so I was a lot calmer, however my second test everything seemed against me (the weather, the examiner, the manoeuvres) but I passed with 3 minors
And statistically second time passers are safer drivers
I think having to do the test again helped as I knew what to expect that time so I was a lot calmer, however my second test everything seemed against me (the weather, the examiner, the manoeuvres) but I passed with 3 minors
And statistically second time passers are safer drivers
Can I ask what the GP said to you? Was it your first time of speaking to them about anxiety? I really canāt go through this again next time.
Thank you everyone. Iām so very very disappointed but iv just got booked back in again for the 19th of November. So hopefully lucky number 3
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