I tend to do meal replacements and have a couple of proper dinners every week on nights when I have free time to enjoy planning, shopping, cooking etc. It gets me out of that forgetting to eat/being suddenly ravenous/eating too much/blood sugar crash/eat more quick cycle.
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The way I look at it is that the prep work is a large part of it, at the end of the day training with 3 square meals of biscuits wonāt see results, fail to prepare, prepare to fail and all that!Hi all, sorry to derail slightly - it's obviously the time of year to think about it but does anyone have any tips for improving their fitness/losing weight? I lost a load of weight when I was on Elvanse but now I'm unmedicated I always eat crap for the dopamineI also don't have anyone who could be a gym buddy to help motivate me, so I feel a bit stuck!! Ant advice much appreciated
Meal prep -cook once, eat twice mentality, make sure youāre multi tasking with meals and making multiple portions each time, write a shopping list and better yet have online deliveries or click and collect so you canāt stray
Snack prep - easy to reach for snacks with little to no prep that arenāt too healthy, so yoghurts as an example, protein ones come in lots of flavours, cherry bakewell, banoffee etc
Meal replacement shakes in the fridge for days youāre not feeling it, Huel is the one I use
Make sure everything you eat, every meal and snack has these three things: protein, fat, fibre. Switches off the dopamine need from food, itās weird.
Gameify it, use a macro counting app like myfitnesspal to track anything youāre comfortable with, food, measurements etc and use the novelty to keep yourself motivated, ideal if you can connect with others on there too
Hi I really need some advice! It's stupid really because I know what I need to do but basically my daughter's school called me in to say they wanted to send her for a adhd/asd check. We have had our first phone call and the doctor has accepted her now waiting for the meeting date. When looking into autism / adhd I realised I think this is what I have. I've got major OCD, been on sertraline for anxiety for 8 years and always struggled with day to day life I just feel like I'm drowning constantly and don't stop doing things yet get nothing done. So I was productive and booked myself a doctors appt, my doctors have a system where unless it's an emergency and you need an appt that day they book you in for like 4 weeks time for a telephone appt. Well by the time they called I missed the call even though it was on my calendar so I rang back really embarrassed and booked another appt waited a month and same thing happened it was now the summer holidays and I missed the call. I'm too embarrassed to ring back again and say I've missed it again it's been months. Really can't afford a private appt I know I need to sort this but I'm just so rubbish with appointments.
I think you have 3 options with this one, either help from technology (reminders/alarms/calendars), help from a friend/relative to remind you, or take you (if that's what it takes), or help from the practice - explain what the situation is, apologise and see if they do anything for people with memory issues to help them remember and get to appointments?
Thank you I'm going to be productive and call Monday morning. The annoying thing was I'd practically done a countdown to the appointments and still ended up missing the calls. Thanks so much for your reply really appreciate it x
Would recommend remindersā¦ I tell Siri to remind me about everything (I literally say āhey siriā when it pops into my head), itās the only way I get something important done. Even if I snooze the reminder a few times, Iāll eventually get it done but means it doesnāt fall off the radar
The fact that this meant so much to you and you still managed to miss it screams ADHD to me.
Try not to beat yourself up about it, we donāt mean to do it.
Thank you! So annoying I felt like a weight had been lifted when I booked the appointment and felt so down after, I thought this is it finally going to sort my life out, but third time lucky it is instead! X
Hi all,
Iām diagnosed and medicated for ADHD
really suffering with RSD atm (rejection sensitivity). Was left out of a non-work event with people at work where loads went and only a few of us were not invited. I feel like Iāve been punched and like a proper loser. I donāt know what to do š„²
Iām diagnosed and medicated for ADHD
really suffering with RSD atm (rejection sensitivity). Was left out of a non-work event with people at work where loads went and only a few of us were not invited. I feel like Iāve been punched and like a proper loser. I donāt know what to do š„²
Itās hard isnāt it, I had a similar thing in the workplace a few years ago. It turned out they werenāt people Iād have really wanted to hang out with anyway, but it still stung.Hi all,
Iām diagnosed and medicated for ADHD
really suffering with RSD atm (rejection sensitivity). Was left out of a non-work event with people at work where loads went and only a few of us were not invited. I feel like Iāve been punched and like a proper loser. I donāt know what to do š„²
Youāre absolutely not a loser though, its not a reflection on you, itās just a crap situation.
The receptionists speak to hundreds of people per day, they wonāt remember you had other appointments, and it may not be the same doctor each time calling. If itās brought up itās great evidence for why youāre struggling and need an assessment. If you canāt face the cringe factor check if they have ePatient facility on their website, you can request appointments or admin online with an eConsult
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Oof thatās rough, Iām so sorry, had similar at the weekend where my neighbours all arranged a night out and mine was the only house not invited š«Hi all,
Iām diagnosed and medicated for ADHD
really suffering with RSD atm (rejection sensitivity). Was left out of a non-work event with people at work where loads went and only a few of us were not invited. I feel like Iāve been punched and like a proper loser. I donāt know what to do š„²
My choice would be to take the high road, donāt make a scene but donāt ignore it either, if theyāre talking about it in front of you that means it wasnāt personal and they donāt see anything wrong, they just have a social circle you werenāt aware of, if they painstakingly avoid mentioning it then they knowingly excluded, in which case theyāre massive bellends and do you really want to be one of them?
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My therapist said she thinks I should talk to a psychiatrist via my GP about ADHD (I had not and had never brought ADHD up with her but it wasnāt out of the blue - I was talking about executive dysfunction basically, which I have struggled with my entire life. Itās evident in school reports and such)
Anyway, it would be really nice to hear peopleās experiences of treatments and especially medication? I worry it will inhibit my ability to get in the āzoneā where I hyperfocus, which is a part of myself I really like. Iāve also heard people say it can cause hair loss and I have a full on phobia of hair loss :-/ Thank you
Anyway, it would be really nice to hear peopleās experiences of treatments and especially medication? I worry it will inhibit my ability to get in the āzoneā where I hyperfocus, which is a part of myself I really like. Iāve also heard people say it can cause hair loss and I have a full on phobia of hair loss :-/ Thank you
Does anyone have any advice on friendships. I'm really sociable and good at greetings but it doesn't go much further I really struggle to have friendships on a deeper level? I had a friend recently who was really negative and everytime I saw her she just wanted to gossip about people it was so draining I couldn't see her anymore. I have someone I've become friends with but I am so fond of her I'm worried I'm going to mess up the friendship? She's going to realise I'm quite strange. Sorry this all sounds ridiculous i know.
Are you me? I feel EXACTLY the same! I get so anxious that Iām going to mess up and be too weird
Same and I feel like I'm constantly texting afterwards to clear up things I've said. Like I even find myself annoying I don't know how anyone puts up with me! Eg last week saying goodbye at the school dropping kids off she said "bye have a great day" I reply "Hi" or she says "enjoy swimming" I reply "you too" when she's not going I am just weird stuff. I've tried meditating so I slow down and actually think about what people are saying and how to answer but it just doesn't help.Are you me? I feel EXACTLY the same! I get so anxious that Iām going to mess up and be too weird
Have you ever had a friend who also is, or suspected to be adhd? The few Iāve met are an instant click and I never feel like Iām on eggshells in the same way
I don't think so I find it so difficult even with my own family. I've learnt when not to talk, feel like I've been biting my tongue my whole life to be honest until I met my husband. He is the only person who completely gets me. Also I like to keep people at arms length it just works so much better until I feel lonely or realise I'm lacking certain friendships.
Some of the people who've been nicest to me have been people I really don't know that well. It always seems like there's a tipping point of about 18 months with people where I feel like everything is going great and then out of nowhere I never hear from them again. Most of my friends who I just vibe with are probably on the spectrum, though. I don't really like it, feeling like there's no-one I could just phone and they'd be happy to hear from me, but I'm getting closer to accepting it.
I've found this too. I've got a neighbour who is so much on my level with the ADHD although I've not asked him if he has a diagnosis, and we get on so well. His (adult) kid says its impossible to follow our conversations though.
I'm currently in the process of being diagnosed with ADHD - I've had an appointment where a clinician has said that all the evidence they've gathered strongly suggests that I have ADHD (combined type) and the psychiatrist will do the formal diagnosis in my appointment with him next week.
I was just reading your experiences with friends and I just wanted to say I relate so hard - I'm going through it with a work friend at the moment who was all over me when I first came, really friendly, would check on me all the time, invite me over to her house etc, and she seems to have just completely lost interest in me lately where she now brushes me off and seems very cold and distant. I've been taking it so badly and have been leaving work crying etc, but this is sort of a pattern where I feel like people just get sick of me after a while, a few months to a year, year and a half or so and I've never understood why. I think it's because I'm always 'too much' emotionally, or too intense, or whatever.
I was just reading your experiences with friends and I just wanted to say I relate so hard - I'm going through it with a work friend at the moment who was all over me when I first came, really friendly, would check on me all the time, invite me over to her house etc, and she seems to have just completely lost interest in me lately where she now brushes me off and seems very cold and distant. I've been taking it so badly and have been leaving work crying etc, but this is sort of a pattern where I feel like people just get sick of me after a while, a few months to a year, year and a half or so and I've never understood why. I think it's because I'm always 'too much' emotionally, or too intense, or whatever.