Happy to begin the speculation!
I think affair
Just to add - I’ve heard of many men marrying despite having another woman on the side.
Let me talk through my reasoning:
1) not financial troubles - they have a lovely home, he has a fantastic job, they’ve never shied away from expensive things. Going by their relationship I’m sure they were transparent with money especially given her career there would have been a lot more needing to be contributed (mortgage wise at least) from him.
2) not agreeing job wise - solicitors work long hours, yes, but she was used to the worst of it - the hard graft post-uni and to split later would make no sense. They’ve known each other’s schedules for years and she has weekends away from gifts and meals out for brands. Couples with long working hours usually instead crumble YEARS down the line usually after children.
3) falling out of love - possible as they have nothing to focus on now the bigwedding is over etc. However, you tend to just march on rather than only last 7 months!
4) affair - this is my bet. Solicitors / industries similar are notorious for it (I work in the industry). Perhaps not a full blown affair but easily him having an emotional one with a colleague or getting too close to someone or even a one off mistake. Or maybe it was her. I just place my bets there!
I don’t disagree. But up thread I said I think it’s a bit unfair to jump he’s had an affair mainly because were only seeing her side of the story and to give him benefit of the doubt I suggested a few other reasons why they may have split.
in terms of financial trouble, you never know. People get mortgaged to the hilt, cars on lease, big holidays, loans for weddings then it all needs paying back. Also if one in the couple spends / fritters money away it can cause problems and lead to a split. You can have a great salary which can open up many credit lines, doesn’t mean you’re good with money or dont spend beyond your means.
if you google his name, it’s clear what line of legal work he’s involved in. so definitely long hours, nights away. I bet he has to go to London a lot. I doubt that was the situation at the start of his career, if he worked mainly in Manchester plus remember they also lived in Manchester too. So he was probably around more and they spent more time together.
If he’s career minded he’s could be putting in even more hours which can cause rows. Think about it, he could be in London all week, shes in Chorley or whatever. Their worlds could easily have moved apart, even without having children. He might be getting pulled into the London lifestyle and socialising whilst she’s at home on her own. I think many couples would struggle to make that work personally.
I disagree that people try and make things work as well. These days people are constantly told to put themselves first, don’t settle if you’re unhappy etc. The divorce rate in the UK is pretty high. it’s easy to have a big glam wedding and pretend you’re in love but a lot of people don’t want to work at their marriages. A lot of people don’t like to compromise or realise they have toxic traits that cause problems for their partners. So they just bail and move onto the next. I think them being married less than a year is a red herring, they were together a long time and they could have had issues all along but were too scared to break up. Maybe they thought the wedding would make things better and it didn’t.
affair is the obvious answer. I guess it just feels a bit harsh to paint him as the bad guy when we have no idea. But equally if he did have one, then he’s a
tit and she would be rightly devastated after so long together.
