I don’t know, PND can have a lot of different symptoms but it can totally make her feel like she hasn’t any attachment or even dark thoughts toward Noa. It can make you do very strange things. Even want the baby to get poorly so they will be cared for elsewhere.PND is no excuse for straight neglecting your kid just saying.
There was a time, during my PND, that still makes my blood run cold. My eldest had run out of the play cafe we were in, I knew i hadnt checked on him as his Dad was there (i felt relieved i was off the hook from being 'mum' and catching up with friends). When he asked where our boy was, i was worried but i didnt react. I just sat there, anxious but detached. My son had run out towards a busy road and someone stopped him in time. It fucking breaks my heart now. But at the time, i remember how detached I was about it all. Its fucking awful what your mind can do. I have a lot of guilt about those early years, but hardly anyone knew. I havent actually discussed that incident with anyone because I feel so awful about it.I don’t know, PND can have a lot of different symptoms but it can totally make her feel like she hasn’t any attachment or even dark thoughts toward Noa. It can make you do very strange things. Even want the baby to get poorly so they will be cared for elsewhere.
I think neglect is too strong - a night doula might not be everyone’s cup of tea but it is providing care in a round about way rather than leaving her alone to cry it out all night.
That must be so hard to look back on but totally sounds like what PND can do to your mind. It is so messed up but so common and terrible to experience!! Try not feel guilty about it, easier said than doneYou'd think Siobhan would be supporting her with bonding with Noa. If Kate is ready to hear it and accept it, of course. Parenting looks different for all, but its clear she has struggled with Noa
There was a time, during my PND, that still makes my blood run cold. My eldest had run out of the play cafe we were in, I knew i hadnt checked on him as his Dad was there (i felt relieved i was off the hook from being 'mum' and catching up with friends). When he asked where our boy was, i was worried but i didnt react. I just sat there, anxious but detached. My son had run out towards a busy road and someone stopped him in time. It fucking breaks my heart now. But at the time, i remember how detached I was about it all. Its fucking awful what your mind can do. I have a lot of guilt about those early years, but hardly anyone knew. I havent actually discussed that incident with anyone because I feel so awful about it.
She comes off almost manic, the way she’s so abrasive and in your face - never just energised and fun but like a shouty whirlwind. Is it for the gram because I can’t imagine how exhausting it must be to be like that constantly? She has no subtlety or quiet tone, she even shout whispers. If she is like that all the time, it isn’t really compatible with communicating with a baby.I know PND can manifest itself different in everyone. But the thought of shouting down my phone and taking loads of videos whilst in depths of it is just beyond me. That is why I think Kate is bad, not mad!
Oh bless youThat must be so hard to look back on but totally sounds like what PND can do to your mind. It is so messed up but so common and terrible to experience!! Try not feel guilty about it, easier said than doneI used to mouth the words to my child "I hate you" and make them cry as my face must have been scary to look at I feel so terrible about it now that I idolise them!
I know PND can manifest itself different in everyone. But the thought of shouting down my phone and taking loads of videos whilst in depths of it is just beyond me. That is why I think Kate is bad, not mad!
She's not remotely relatable to non-parents either. I'm not particularly maternal and am childless by choice, but Noa is the most beautiful wee thing and I'm really saddened by her parents behaviour.Why aren’t her management stepping in and telling her she is alienating herself from any follower who has ever been a parent?? She is not relatable to any Mother/Father with her complete unwillingness to do her job!
She’s already lost followers and the longer she continues to pay someone to Mother her child, the more followers she will lose.
Yes precisely. She has help there all the time. Having a shower while my husband was home and to be fair even when he wasn't was a must to make me feel human. I'd pop baby near me in the bathroom and have a quick shower if she was up and awake. If she was asleep I'd have the monitor with me incase she woke. Either way she was always near me and a daily shower was possible.Why isn’t Boj able to look after Noa during any part of the morning or afternoon so that Kate can jump in the shower?
The baby is never dressed properly. Again, if Kate was a young girl on a council estate, people would be a lot quicker to call neglect.I don’t know, PND can have a lot of different symptoms but it can totally make her feel like she hasn’t any attachment or even dark thoughts toward Noa. It can make you do very strange things. Even want the baby to get poorly so they will be cared for elsewhere.
I think neglect is too strong - a night doula might not be everyone’s cup of tea but it is providing care in a round about way rather than leaving her alone to cry it out all night.
Irresponsible, ok. Neglect? Nah.The baby is never dressed properly. Again, if Kate was a young girl on a council estate, people would be a lot quicker to call neglect.
Dressed properly?Irresponsible, ok. Neglect? Nah.
There were, i think, two? times people felt Noa wasnt covered up enough. I mean.. Laura Whitmore had her baby out with legs & arms on show and her skin was all red.Dressed properly?
Have I missed that ?
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