Settle in kids, I'm going to tell you a story from my life, that this Kickstarter thing reminds me of, but I have been wary about sharing because it (a) it's something I don't much like to talk about and (b) sounds like a JM style story, because I have a life that would make the scriptwriters of EastEnders shake their heads and claim to be a bit too farfetched. However, it is entirely true.
Several years ago I met a man on online dating. We got on very well and discovered we had several things in common. We'd both had cancer, mine was v early stage and surgically treated, but his was very severe, stomach, and he had several ops, radio and chemo and was at one point told that it was incurable, but he had amazingly gone into remission just after that. The story of how he had recovered was very dramatic and gory. He also had an interesting job in the media. I liked him very much. He was funny and clever and held a room when he told a story. We dated for a while, it was nice, he would tell me funny stories about his job, his previous life, all incredibly detailed and funny. We moved in together, he would work, go out to work, come home, deal in camera equipment online, all sorts of strings to his bow, but there was never any money. Then there were cracks, strange things with his family, odd raging outbursts when challenged on anything, compared to his normal genial persona and these gradual inconsistencies in what he said vs what he did. One day, there was a violent outburst beyond anything else, and I asked him to leave (after over 3 years of being together). It was like a switch had flipped and he became full of cold rage, and he was a big man, and it was very scary. He left, and then I found out all sorts of things. I posted something on the socials that demonstrated we had broken up (not a direct thing, but a post that made it clear) and two of his exes contacted me...
He'd never had cancer. He'd never done any of the things he said he'd done. He was unemployable because of his ego. He lived off them for years like he lived off me. And most of all, he was being chased by 100s of people on the internet because he'd been an expert in a form of collecting and had sold fakes (he'd inexpertly produced) of something that people will pay A LOT of money for. He owed thousands and thousands of pounds. I found a forum where people talked about him. He would come on and tell stories of his ill health, his (at the time) partner's ill health. He had multiple email addresses set up in the names of his family and friends that he would email from making excuses for him, because he was allegedly in hospital. The tone of all that was that these people who were owed money were horrible, awful people for nagging him, and making *him* feel bad, and he was the victim in all this. It was awful, and in retrospect terrifying, and SO SO reminiscent of some stuff talked about here.
My salutary tale ends here.
Edited to add: the scars I saw from surgery on his stomach were self-inflicted. Not sure how I missed that bit.