That is beyond awful MancBee. I am glad that the perpetrator is in jail but of course that cannot ever heal what you went through. It must be hard to share but your words are really powerful. So much love to you.
That is beyond awful MancBee. I am glad that the perpetrator is in jail but of course that cannot ever heal what you went through. It must be hard to share but your words are really powerful. So much love to you.She changed her name because of "multiple sexual assaults and trauma". I was the subject of childhood sexual grooming. I was assaulted from the age of 11, and raped from the age of 12. It is horrific. I plucked up the courage to go to the police just a couple of years ago, after seeing my abuser, now in his late 80's, in the papers getting married to a man in his 20's. The horror came flooding back and all the repressed emotions resurfaced. What made things worse was finding out that he had spent his whole career as a teacher of primary school children. I won't go into too many details, that may identify me but just to say, it is unlikely he will ever leave prison to hurt another child.
If JM's allegations are true, and I have no reason to doubt them, then I would hope she gets the courage to go to the police. It is to my shame that I allowed this man to go on to abuse others. I have had to have counselling to deal with the guilt I feel for not thinking about those others that were abused after me, that went through the same, and in some cases worse, than me. I comfort myself with the fact that 60's Britain was a different place than now, and hopefully I would have acted sooner had this been going on today. JM will not be able to use such reasoning to excuse her lack of action.
Talking about sexual assaults online, changing her name, threatening to name these perpetrators and not doing so, is not dealing with the problem. Allowing them to carry on with the same behaviour is almost akin to permitting the abuse of others to carry on. She will, like me, forever live with the guilt that she could have stopped the abuser from moving on and abusing others. JM has the chance to do what I failed to do, there is so much more support today.
I could go on, but to be honest I am finding this very difficult. Someone with any sort of following, like JM, who continually references abuse, has a duty to report and see through these allegations with police. They are, like it or not, an example to others. With their fame comes a huge amount responsibility. JM seems to not realise this with her flippant way she just chuckes about allegations.
I am writing this with tears in my eyes, and a feeling as though I am about to vomit, the emotions never diminish. So sorry if this has triggered anyone, but unsure how to hide text behind warning.
I think you should be incredibly proud of yourself for going to the police. It is something I still haven't managed to do and I don't know if I ever will. There's just no evidence and it would rip my family apart. For now, I feel I can't bear burning my life down that I've worked so hard to build. I don't know where my abuser is now or what he's doing, but I'm pretty sure he's still alive. I have pangs of guilt that my not reporting him could result in other victims. It's a mind fuck and one I don't wish upon anyone.She changed her name because of "multiple sexual assaults and trauma". I was the subject of childhood sexual grooming. I was assaulted from the age of 11, and raped from the age of 12. It is horrific. I plucked up the courage to go to the police just a couple of years ago, after seeing my abuser, now in his late 80's, in the papers getting married to a man in his 20's. The horror came flooding back and all the repressed emotions resurfaced. What made things worse was finding out that he had spent his whole career as a teacher of primary school children. I won't go into too many details, that may identify me but just to say, it is unlikely he will ever leave prison to hurt another child.
If JM's allegations are true, and I have no reason to doubt them, then I would hope she gets the courage to go to the police. It is to my shame that I allowed this man to go on to abuse others. I have had to have counselling to deal with the guilt I feel for not thinking about those others that were abused after me, that went through the same, and in some cases worse, than me. I comfort myself with the fact that 60's Britain was a different place than now, and hopefully I would have acted sooner had this been going on today. JM will not be able to use such reasoning to excuse her lack of action.
Talking about sexual assaults online, changing her name, threatening to name these perpetrators and not doing so, is not dealing with the problem. Allowing them to carry on with the same behaviour is almost akin to permitting the abuse of others to carry on. She will, like me, forever live with the guilt that she could have stopped the abuser from moving on and abusing others. JM has the chance to do what I failed to do, there is so much more support today.
I could go on, but to be honest I am finding this very difficult. Someone with any sort of following, like JM, who continually references abuse, has a duty to report and see through these allegations with police. They are, like it or not, an example to others. With their fame comes a huge amount responsibility. JM seems to not realise this with her flippant way she just chuckes about allegations.
I am writing this with tears in my eyes, and a feeling as though I am about to vomit, the emotions never diminish. So sorry if this has triggered anyone, but unsure how to hide text behind warning.
same Babe xWhat the fuck must Louisa be thinking this morning?
I can't believe how many messages I put up on here overnight, I feel like Jack!
Seriously though, I do hope that there is some kind of repercussion, you simply cannot tell over a quarter of a million people that a bestselling author is face down in a mountain of cocaine while he's writing. She has first hand experience of libel, and as the victim too. Repeatedly "getting away with" this kind of nonsense is not helping with the ego. I actually hope he sues the absolute shit out of her, she's gone way beyond a pile on this time.
Could potentially know him. She worked for the BBC as did he. So it's probable they passed each other in the hall or met at the coffee machine. I bet she's embarrassed. I would be if my partner got on like that in the professional world.same Babe x
Louise has probably got her muted on advice from friends.
Jack needs to re-read the KHvJM judgement, she might get some pointers
Not that my opinion matters, but I'm definitely more of the Deep Green outlook. Because humans fuck things up. Deliberately.I remember a pal of mine (with quite a large twitter following) once called out David Attenborough. I agreed with the tweets - yes, he's a natural treasure blah-di-blah but some of his political views verge - to me, anyway - on the eco-fascist side (ie. nature must be protected from humans/there are toooo many people etc). But HOO BOY did that go down terribly. THAT'S a controversial opinion Jack - not pointing out lazy stereotypes that I'm sure have already been highlighted by others way before you.
Im still catching up but HOOTED at thishttps://giphy.com/55itGuoAJiZEEen9gg Jack doing a chaos
oh god, that wasn't the gif i picked!!!!! Sorry @MancBee !!! I picked a gif of Sully frim Monsters inc!!! What is going on?!!!!!
I completely understand your inability to go to the police, the repercussions are seismic. I had pushed my abuse to the back of my mind, and it only surfaced when I saw the man in the paper. Your, and my, situation is not the same as JM. We have not made allegations online to garner sympathy and increase our SM presence. She is using theses alleged assaults in a totally unacceptable way. It actually makes me physically sick.I think you should be incredibly proud of yourself for going to the police. It is something I still haven't managed to do and I don't know if I ever will. There's just no evidence and it would rip my family apart. For now, I feel I can't bear burning my life down that I've worked so hard to build. I don't know where my abuser is now or what he's doing, but I'm pretty sure he's still alive. I have pangs of guilt that my not reporting him could result in other victims. It's a mind fuck and one I don't wish upon anyone.
What you went through is awful and I know it never goes away. The best we can do is to rebuild our lives and try and live them as fully and as joyfully as possible.
Please know that you have no reason at all to feel guilty or ashamed (yep, I know so much easier said than done).
Mancbee I'm so sorry that happened to you, and I know I'll be far from the first person to tell you this but you have nothing to feel guilty for.I am writing this with tears in my eyes, and a feeling as though I am about to vomit, the emotions never diminish. So sorry if this has triggered anyone, but unsure how to hide text behind warning.
Oh stop and go find something to do! Stop crying your being trolled yet troll a man who had done well for himself. We get it you work hard and no one pays you much attention, unless your being all crazy. Does it matter how he makes his money? He works hard and earned. He made a mistake and apologised. He's done more than you could ever hope to do. Just go away and find a hobby.
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