Esme
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All of this. I took my time to go out, physically I just couldn’t walk (episiotomy in 3 places and then stitched ) I LOVED being home, the cuddles, I have so many photos of us all. Babies change so fast and you can see each day how she’d changed. They lose the newborn look so fast. I don’t have any photos of my body, it just wasn’t important to me how I looked. I was so happy and me and my husband enjoyed our baby bubble.Just went on to look at the post and now I’m fuming she’s only done it and posted it for cloud and comments saying how well she’s doing for being out dressed “properly” and in heels. While subsequently making a lot of new mums in the comments feel quite shit I imagine! Someone commented that for their first walk she hadn’t even brushed her hair and Lauren replied that that was her for the first two weeks, like she only allowed herself to be “off peak” for two weeks before “snapping back”.
I really hate new mum culture sometimes, it really leaves people feeling like they’re failing when they’re taking time to recover and getting to know their new baby and new routine - which is exactly the thing you should be doing.
I just feel sad for these people who put so much pressure on themselves to be out and about, like nothing happened. They will regret it. I guess it isn’t like Lauren actually lives with Ella’s dad and they’re in a happy bubble of love. I guess when you depend so heavily on internet strangers giving you compliments, your whole life is fake and set up for the gram, getting dressed up like that for a walk is normal to her. She’ll realise one day how foolish and pathetic she’s been.
To any new mums reading this, you just grew and gave birth to your baby. Take the time to know your baby, rest and recover and enjoy it. It goes so fast. It took me a good 9-12 months to start to feel like my body had recovered. Literally nobody cares about “snapping back”. It’s a dated and ridiculous mentality.