Nope, I thought I’d own a home and be married with babies by 30. I’m 31, living in a houseshare with friends and not even sure whether or not I want children. I have a boyfriend who I have so much fun with but he is a Peter Pan and I’m not sure what exactly our future holds. I wish I hadn’t put so much pressure on myself, I had a breakdown at 27 when I realised it wasn’t all going to fall into place. I hate the thought that I worry my parents too. Ultimately though I enjoy my life and I’m happy which now feels like the point, even if it wasn’t what I expected.
That's the hardest bit for me. Realizing I'm not that special. I always thought I'd have one of those great destinies people dream about (lol).A few months ago I found a letter I'd written to myself when I was 18 that I was supposed to open on my 30th birthday but I got curious so I opened it. 18 year old me basically hoped to be in a dream job and have a boyfriend or fiancé at 30.
I'm 29 now and own a house with my fiancé. Financially we're both comfortable, but I was always so set on having a job I love I feel like I've failed myself that I'm still in an admin job 8 years on from uni. As a teenager I was a somewhat high achiever and set my expectations for life too high and then uni and reality just clobbered me.
I think at some point I realised I'm not special and I've just kind of got to get on with life and just do what makes me happy.
Definitely and I never take it for grantedThat's the hardest bit for me. Realizing I'm not that special. I always thought I'd have one of those great destinies people dream about (lol).
As child and throughout college, you think you're special, then you hit the job market / office politics and various external factors, and you realize you're just a drop in the ocean. I'm sure you're special to you're family and friends - that's what matters the most ultimately.
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