oh boy. here we go again...
AE: I don't know how we got to this awful point. I don't hate him. But he definitely hates me. Nobody saw it coming. Least of all me.
That's funny cos I know how it got to this point. Just check your socials.
AE: If only he knew how hard he was making it for me and th girls...
Divorce is always hard, especially if there are kids and especially for the one being dumped. Life sucks sometimes, deal with it.
AE: I never agreed to using the wizard. It was imposed on me. He would never go to court - there is too much he's done that people don't know about. Court is public. I did lean in for a second. There are so many things falling apart here in the house that only he knows how to fix. Also I wanted his thoughts on elsie's progress. I spoke for 1 minute out of his 30 minutes with Elsie. I don't know what the fuck I have done wrong.
You didn't use the wizard, that's what, as agreed.
AE: Yes, he does have NPD. (Although undiagnosed, because I don't think his 'people' agree with getting diagnoses. But well spotted.
Hmmm, do AE's people also not agree with getting her diagnosed?
AE: They won't read it when they're older. They know it and read it now
And I am sure they hear it too constantly. That's why it doesn't matter to AE if they read it too.
AE: They are Begging him to talk to me and to come back for Christmas and I know he won't...
I personally think AE is using the kids to try and manipulate IG. A mature parent would explain to the kids that it's better if the parents talk thru the wizard and don't spend Xmas together.
AE: We abused women need to stick together.
FFS! Leaving a marriage doesn't constitute abuse.
AE: Kids do NOT SUFFER because of public gossip! Certainly not Gen Z for whom ALL is public gossip. Kids suffer when their parents LEAVE HOME and deprive them of a proper family. Privacy only protects the bully my kids are fine. They are upset that their father has left and ruined their family.
And kids suffer more when the divorce turns acrimonious and the mother badmouths the dad for ruining the family.
AE: What they want is the Dad they've grown up with. But that's not possible.
They still can do. Just not under the same roof as you.
AE: Man- $500 per email. $500 to send the email to the opposing counsel, $500 for that counsel to forward the email to their client. OR... the divorcing couple could JUST AGREE to work stuff out themselves!
Yes, I thought the latter was what collaborative divorces was all about. They have a mediator too. Don't complain about him wasting money on lawyers when you are dragging this divorce out and not compromising.
AE: Lawyers in LA charge $600 for phone call. And they rally don't want to hear your shit.
Wonder why? I guess ranting on twitter is certainly a lot cheaper lol
AE: I have three attorneys, a therapist and a divorce coach. I'm running out of money to pay for them.
Why does she need 3 attorneys?? And he is the one wasting money?
AE: He has lost all the money saved for our kids future.
Well at least he is still earning. Unlike AE.
AE: Losing custody of my children because I am desperate enough to share the constant hate I get from him seems like a very odd reason to take kids from their mother and put them in a home.
This is truly vile. If the children are reading this (and they will talk to each other even if Elsie isn't reading it), what a way to traumatize them. The obvious outcome is joint custody NOT putting them in a children' home.
AE: A year ago this would have been anathema to me. But the stealth bullying hasn't stopped, the threats, the refusal to pick up his stuff, to speak to me, to come to the house. He's told Elsie if she behaved well he 'might come back". She still hopes + it breaks me
I wonder if IG when faced with Elsie begging him to come back didn't relent and say he might just to make the kid feel better in the moment. When faced with an upset kid, parents can do that so I can't be too harsh about that.
AE: I did my fair share of crying, screaming, accusing. I begged and begged for at least some sort of running discussion, for the kids sake. That's my way of reacting to such a life-changing event. So he ghosted me. I have been ghosted for almost 10 months now. I can understand his feelings changed. What I don't understand is why he chose to do it in such a hateful way.
Er, the crying, screaming, accusing might have led to him refusing to speak to you. BTW, you were not ghosted or No Contacted. He is willing to communicate via the wizard. It's just too bad she doesn't like it.
That's all for now.
PS I think IG has probably looked on here. It's certainly less toxic than her twitter feed and the FM enablers. Plus we keep the receipts, a bit like the wizard.
Methinks the lady doth protest too much.
