You can still watch it on here though, it really is awful.
I have been to the end, I was driven to despair with that inner scared feeling, at everything, sometimes so intense you just get where you want it to STOP, it's too hard and too sore. Even when at my absolute worst, I was able to be guided - physically and mentally by those closest to me & I was never "attacking & bullying" like Alice is. I know admitting there are problems is very hard & even 1 change seems completely unobtainable and completely overwhelming. You also need to have want to change, unless someone/an agency has to step in. For me, even though there has been change, I still hold some things back from anyone and I know if I was to start certain things, even once - is still so triggering and could suck me back in again.
I'm aware Alice does not seem to have anyone on the ground - so to speak to be that guidance, however I feel even if she did, she wouldn't let them help, or even listen to anything other than support & back up of what she is doing now, i.e. We need to get more aggressive.
Sorry for long post, I really don't want to upset anyone. Please delete if this is inappropriate. Take care guys
I think a big problem with AE is that she seems like she has intrusive thoughts that seize control of her to the point where she seems debilitated by them and is incapable of self-regulating her emotions.
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I think we can all agree that AE wants to be with IG. I think we can all agree that AE would welcome IG back without hesitation if he would have her.
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Forgive me if you disagree, but I believe that perhaps a root of AE’s mania over IG is that she doesn’t get real with herself about (1) what she wants and (2) what must be done to get what she wants.
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Based on my own human instinct and on DailyMail comments,
It’s clear what AE should do:
(1) be quiet (play dead) and act like she’s fine so IG can get past whatever negative feelings he has towards her,
(2) get hot (weight loss, healthy lifestyle, skincare, eliminate vices, etc.),
(3) pretend to meet someone else and act like she’s letting IG go,
(4) and he will probably come back - they were together for a while, he didn’t forget her overnight and it’s cheaper and easier for him to stay with AE - she just needs to calm the heck down.
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AE wants to be with IG, she wants to be his wife and she wants him to want her and she doesn’t want anyone else. AE is burning down her life into ashes because she’s lost him and she makes those comments on Twitter about him maybe wanting her back (probably to bug BW) to soothe her own ego and calm herself down - but then other intrusive thoughts take over and she begins to drink and panic and fall apart.
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AE: if you’re reading this - just be quiet and get hot and give it time - give yourself a chance to triumph, we are so much more superficial and animalistic and our memories are so much shorter than we realize. Just be quiet and get hot and give it time.
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(And when you get him back - stay quiet and real with yourself.)
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I know people will disagree with me and say this is nonsense and manipulative and that AE should just accept that it’s over. But - she doesn’t want to accept that it’s over and she’s spiraling as a result.
So she might as well do what it takes to triumph and win him back.
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