That is the really sad thing. Alice is processing this all in real-time and online and exposing her children. Aside from the fact is it is all irrelevant in No-fault divorce California, she is not thinking about how she and the children are going to look back on this. Alice is scared and frightened for what the future holds. There is nothing wrong with processing or joining the dots privately, what she doesn't seem to realize is that those dots make zero difference legally, and by joining them in a public forum she is putting herself and her children in peril
Now I like to think I have empathy. Even though I am totally #Team2Es and think Malice has acted totally abusively, I am sure she is going through pain and some worry right now.
However... From what I can actually
see, she's not spending any time at all worrying over the future or the practicalities. She's not upset in the sense that she seems sad about the breakup of her 20y relationship. She's spending all of her time waging this war on anyone who doesn't get with the Party Line.
Now if I were feeling generous I could perhaps understand it, in a way, as a coping mechanism. I could see someone staving off the hurt, the tears and the pain with getting really, really angry about what's happened and having a good old vent.
I did exactly that. In between sobbing brokenheartedly at the breakdown of my marriage, the loss of the future we could have had, the pain of all the abuse I had suffered, I raged! How fucking dare he! The utter bastard etc etc. I didn't leave it all on SM for posterity though, I wept and vented my feelings alone or to my best mate and my sister. I wrote some of the worst of them in a journal.
The problem here is that Alice has shown a pattern of abusive behaviour both online and in real life for a long, long time. This goes beyond hurt.
This is an already vicious person who now has a convenient excuse to spew hate in what is considered not only socially acceptable, but laudable purely because she is an older woman who's husband left the unhappy marriage while later taking up with a younger woman.
She's jumping on people's real and valid pain over a very real devastating event in their lives. Husband leaves wife for woman half her age is cliche for a reason, it does happen so, so much and it's fucking awful! There are no words.
But! She's hijacking your pain! She's hijacking other people like you's pain, and wearing it as a costume while she puts on her one woman hate parade.
And she's clever because it's working, she's gaining sympathy whilst acting in a way that usually most people would be loudly denouncing as varying from not fucking on to actually that's criminal, she should be charged for that.
It's hard not to sympathise when the story so resembles your own, but as we have to remember, and in our own relationships, learned to our own cost, to look closely at the actions not the words. That's when we see if someone is who they say they are.
With Alice we are somewhat lucky because not only does she show us what a nasty piece of work she is but she also tells us. Made me have to do a lot less brain work in the end so cheers Alice!
hope everyone is taking regular breaks to stretch, drink water and reassurance friends & family that they are indeed alive! To those that have jobs - sorry to their bosses 
Am I missing something here? In black and white, page after page is evidence of her abuse and she has a fan base who accept and encourage her abuse. That’s got to be a reflection on them surely. What kind of person has an abusers back?
