New poster on this thread but have followed the horrifying saga here since Alice's first tweet was picked up by the Daily Fail, I am not proud to admit that I check the sidebar of shame from time to time
. Please indulge me in this lengthy post. I mean no offence and will slink away if this cause any problems.
As these threads progress, whatever compassion and empathy many Tattlers felt for Alice have dissipated to a great degree, mostly replaced by pity and anger. I truly believe that this thread would have been non-existent had Alice behaved like an adult, because most people here are kind and feel for those in distress. This is evident to me by the stories many of you have shared detailing your own pain, loss, horrific illnesses, personal struggles and determination to get on with your lives. I am very familiar with crushing grief, and I know how easy it is for that feeling to permanently change one's outlook on life. Relationships with loved ones, close friends and family can be irrevocably altered. "They" cannot walk in your path and do not know what to say or how to help you, so they unwittingly or deliberately extricate themselves from your lives.
Alice has suffered the death of a marriage. It must be soul crushing. No one really knows what happened . What we do know is her behaviour since the separation. It is well documented here, and Alice herself has provided the ugly details. Alice (or her Twitter followers) spends far too much time on this site , when she should be investing her energy in reclaiming her agency. Sorry for that cringe term, but I have a bit of a sore head today
Dear Alice,
You have two beautiful children, a home, financial stability (not buying your story of money woes), and if you so choose, a bright future ahead of you. You are an intelligent, attractive, articulate woman who is utterly lacking in self-confidence. I am no psychiatrist and will refrain from armchair diagnoses, but it is very clear to an outsider that you have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol. This will destroy you and those around you. Your girls will be grown before you realise it, so encourage their childhood joy whilst you have the opportunity . You have opportunities for fulfilling employment, but you must seek them out. No one will arrive at your doorstep, career offer in hand. Make use of your skills as a multilingual. Speaking and writing in multiple languages on a daily basis keeps the cobwebs from overtaking my grey matter, is the basis of my career and gives me immense pleasure. You have connections. Make use of them. Accept empathy but reject pity. Do not allow your rage to be weaponised against you. You can find peace and fulfilling new relationships, but your Twitter is poisonous. Regards, a Twattler who wishes you well.
(Fellow Tattlers, I apolgise for my rant . I must read like an awful self-appointed life coach, but I cannot self-edit today. Promise to never do it again
Love and peace to you all, and a happy and healthy 2022.
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