I think people really need to read up more on narc and abusive relationships in general because they are very similar with how they draw their victims in, hold onto them, and continue to keep that hold on them sometimes for years, sometimes through horrendous abuse, sometimes sadly until they kill their victim. It's not as simple as a lot of people think and it has nothing to do with being weak, spineless, stupid, thick, etc. I do think that a lot of times most narcs go for the naïve, trusting and empathic people they know they can fool and manipulate them time and time again, because they are the people who will always believe the best of them, who will justify and excuse their behaviours, even at their own expense, the people who will keep giving them chances, and the people who have a lot of trouble accepting or even seeing that the narc can be that deliberately, wilfully cruel and manipulative.
Sorry RTP, I'm not directing this at you as such. I just wish people would do more research on abusive and narc relationships before saying someone is thick or weak or spineless for A) being seduced into one, and B) for staying.
THIS .... my ex narc SIL could give AE some hints and tips. When my BIL left after 20yrs he couldnt take anymore of her ways,1st class degree in Psychology from the best uni in the country and never worked, alcoholic,sex addict , shopping addiction, excessive plastic surgery, D and D convictions, parental alienation, used him as a cash cow, i could go on .....
He was broken, suicidal, sleeping in his parents spare room and she said to his face that it would be easier if he were to commit suicide so that she would get full custody , the house , the pensions and insurance payout .
Oh , just to add that , she got free legal aid for the whole divorce and custody because she accused him of sexually assaulting 2 of his kids when they were young, and then spent years trying to imprint the lies into their heads for the benefit of the counsellors. She fought him for 10 yrs through the courts and appealed EVERYTHING. Cost her nothing, broke him and our family financially.
Happy ending... he is now very happily remarried with a young child, great career, own house, at last , and his older kids live with him.
She....sad , lonely ,broke, twisted, soon to be homeless, unemployable and frankly she got the result she deserved.
This is just scratching the surface but you get the idea.
I thank you for reading.
). I don’t take anyone’s side in this drama. I feel for the kids and the puppy and AE comes across as a very bad person through her endless attacks and desperate cries for attention. She’s not doing herself any favours and she deserves the backlash.
