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I agree I think there’s some middle ground. It’s not a 3 year sordid affair but also not hey BW I’m in love let’s move across the world in 2021. I’m just not sure where that middle ground sits exactly. He was def into BW in 2020 I think but I’m not sure if he crossed any lines. He prob did and I’m not wanting to believe it.
For me, it is naive to believe there was no affair in the beginning, no matter how short, before he left Alice. He was in a horrible marriage, where Alice's behavior was escalating. He was alone in Australia, meaning, he didn't have to come home to Alice every day. You can see with that freedom where he developed a flirtation and friendship with Bianca, someone he began confiding in, and someone who had this searching mind, looking how to overcome obstacles with the power of positive thinking, on and on, and he needed that. It wasn't all physical. I would think a man drowning in a marriage, with an out-of-control wife, but with two little children, a bit of a weak man emotionally, would cling to conversations with her about how to turn inward spiritually, manifest his happiness, a way forward, realizing you don't have to be mired down in the drama-filled life he was living with Alice.
I don't think she was the cause of his divorce. He turned to her as he was facing divorcing Alice. I doubt it was a long affair either, and probably happened sometime in 2020. And I don't fall for any stories from Alice about how in love she and Ioan were and happy when he was home in 2020 briefly. Her story changes all the time. Plus, that bashing of her own husband, calling him a "pussy" on twitter, that he wasn't standing up for issues she felt were important (inexcusable behavior on her part) was the final nail in the coffin. Do people not understand how inexcusable that is? HIs own wife?
I've never judged his affair. Real life and bad marriages finally going down are messy. Both parties say and do hurtful things during that period. He came home and told Alice he didn't love her. (No, that wasn't a shock. She said for two years he had been telling her that and many other things about her behavior. She just didn't believe he had the balls to leave her.) Well, this time he did. They were living as an estranged couple since August of 2020, separate bedrooms. She said he wouldn't look her in the eye, nor really talk to her. So he got through the rest of 2020 and holidays for the kids' sake (not moving out, but staying in the guest bedroom), and then he left. So for a year, not seeing Bianca because of the pandemic and travel restrictions, they developed a strong relationship via Zoom and obviously grew closer, as she's here now. It happened to a lot of people. Many celebs fell in love via Zoom and long conversations daily. The world kind of stopped during the pandemic in many ways. That was how people connected. By the time she saw him in France, they were already a solid couple. And he had had a year, since August of 2020, to know he really was out of his marriage, before he saw her in France in August of 2021, and know if he really wanted to move forward with this new relationship with her coming over.
This is how "I" felt IT MAY HAVE likely unfolded, or somewhere in the ballpark, at least.
I would have more sympathy or, at least, empathy for Alice had she not shown who she is not just to him, but to others on twitter, and not just during the divorce, but before. When she attacked his young co-star, basically calling her fat to humiliate her and hit below the belt (pretending as though she was just relaying what Ioan felt), I saw what a horrible c...nt she is. Ella is a very young actress. For a 53-year-old woman to attack her the way she did, that just got my blood boiling. Alice on twitter: "The problem with Ioan is he rarely likes anybody. And EK was too fat for him." Another drunken quote by Alice: "I've never met her him in person. Ioan kept say gin she was too fat." Sure, Alice. She lies and attacks women's physical attributes. That's HER way of hitting below the belt, attacking women.
And to do what she has done to her children is inexcusable, no matter what pain she is in over losing Ioan. No sympathies for Alice anymore, which I did have in the beginning. The only person who destroyed my sympathy was Alice herself. I can't imagine what it was like being married to her, especially the last few years.
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IG singing ‘you scumbag, you maggot, you cheap lousy faggot, happy Christmas your arse I pray god it’s our last’ 
