I couldn’t agree more. I have had that experience and it taught me so much. I agree with you about Ioan but to a certain extent I think AFE sold it to him too. Bright lights, big city, huge success and money. She revelled in it.From what he's said previously, Ioan wanted what he thought was the glamorous Hollywood life of a star actor too when he was younger. I think he was very naïve and immature when he met Alice and she really swept him off his feet, but 20 years with her matured him. There's nothing like a relationship with a narc to teach you with brutal clarity exactly what is and isn't important to you in a relationship and in life.