Ioan Gruffudd & Alice Evans #225 Narcissistic abuser, but make it fashion.

[NarcRage]

Christmas is always difficult for Mr NR. Aside from just missing the children there is also...

People asking (innocently) "what are you doing for Christmas, spending it with family?"

When you meet anyone new at Christmas party they always ask "do you have children" and you have to explain you do but you don't see them and they don't speak to you because your ex wife poisoned them. And people think ...there must be more to it, what did you do to them?

The whole sending them Christmas presents knowing they will ignore you/not thank you and not respond to your cards and letters and emails.

And it marks another year of no contact.

It's not easy.

 

[frobly-mobly]

Okay, that ad is funny but YOUR PROFILE PIC has me in stitches. Post the larger version please?

It was a tough choice between the two farcical facial contortions

 

[Autisteuse]

pretty sure she has claimed PTSD several times so far


tbh if you visit enough doctors it's easy to get a diagnosis. not accusing Bianca of this of course, but it'd be surprising if Alice hasnt gotten one yet (or at least tried). Going by how extensively she shopped for a fibro diagnosis (and yet by her own admission never got a definitive one) and that she has already implied to shop for therapists as well she clearly isnt too lazy for this.

No, Welp - it’s not easy to get a diagnosis of *C* PTSD. With ‘standard’ PTSD you have to meet a range of criteria, from hypervigilance to anxiety to sleeplessness. CPTSD is a lot more… complex. It can be a combination of traumatic events; sustained trauma during childhood; a traumatic event or series of events that makes you feel unable to escape, that you are trapped, controlled and coerced; and there are specific symptoms associated with CPTSD, including numerous and vivid flashbacks so that you perceive you are living the traumatic moment(s) in real time, suicidal ideation and desire, utter despair and sensations of worthlessness, which must be fulfilled in order to receive a diagnosis and subsequent treatment (the best of which I found, personally, to be EMDR - horrific to experience because, in effect, you are directly reliving the trauma, but a good way to unlock repressed memories). Basically, it’s as ‘easy’ to get a CPTSD diagnosis as it is an autism diagnosis - and that takes years of assessment by a range of clinicians and specialists. You would have to find a pretty appalling psychologist/psychiatrist to simply diagnose you with CPTSD without a detailed and rigorous assessment and evaluation of a full range of symptoms and comorbidities - the kind of clinician who should, and indeed *must*, be struck off. It took a year for my trauma therapist to give me my own diagnosis, and that was with weekly sessions.
Someone mentioned Bianca’s positivity re: her diagnosis. It can actually be a huge relief to learn what is wrong, rather than labouring under nebulous fears, stress, the sense that something is desperately wrong - but what? It allows you to feel that now, there might be some resolution to the psychological pain you’ve been crushed by. The feeling is temporary, but it’s at least a start.
-Thank you to everyone who has been so lovely: @lulooo, @CookieMonsta, @Lulugrace - you really are the dearest people, and a great reminder of why these threads are such a lifeline of support and compassion.

 

[welp]

Bianca getting all the diagnoses Alice begs for

very interesting post. unlike Alice I believe her that she has a lot to tell

 

[Diamonds60]

This is the other aspect of “they are at it again”

4500 PAGES of abuse tweets. Yet Bianca who has never really said anything is “at it again”

 

[NarcRage]

Whatever will we do?

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Funny how they pick on the three tattlers who provide the most information to the rest of us....three people who definitely don't insult or troll but inform others of the truth.

 

[Ally Pally]

 

[Treacletrixter]

The thing about Alice’s contribution to the family home is that it’s not necessary for SAHP to be a bread winner. But then they should be a home maker. Alice was neither. For 12-14 years Ioan hired people to do housework and provide childcare. That must have cost 3-400k that could have been used to pay off the mortgage. If she had gotten an average middle class job @ c 50-100k per year they woud have had enought to pay for childcare and pay down the mortgage. Or used his big payouts to reduce the mortgage. Or she could have built her own capital portfolio.

That house should have been nearly mortgage free and they should be sitting on assets worth c 2-3m. Thats reasonable for a middle class family in their neck of the woods.

Then they could have each walked away with 7 figure lump sums and a bit of maintenance.

Because she is a lazy, selfish and entitled article they are low on savings, investment and capital. His income is enough for a family but not for one where one person insists on living it large.

She is presumably keeping up the yarn that she can’t take a normal job because her next great acting role is just around the corner. The only camera she has any chance of getting behind is a security camera in Starbucks.

 

[marjorytrashheap]

Ah tattle turds! I haven’t been around in a bit but happy Hogmanay to you all.

It’s a real inspiration to see the way that I and B - despite serious chronic illness, separation from the kids, abusive relationships, and cruel editorials in the press - continue to take care of themselves, body and soul. They make sure to spend time and celebrate close family, they’re out in nature daily, they seem to enjoy a low-key life of art, music and culture with the occasional cocktail. I only wish I lived this way! Making it my new year’s resolution.

And it’s very telling to me that Ioan and Alun seem closer than before. Imagine one of your siblings being married to…that.

 

[welp]

Tone posting at 4am UK time that it's Boxing Day is quite a choice, given that Boxing Day was yesterday, it was however Boxing Day at that time in the USA....

Ruining your and your kids life out of pure stupidity....yes, very witty.

they are still pretending....incredible

 

[slidders]

Nor does Bianca (again!) need to censor any of what she’s going through to avoid it seeming like she’s trying to get ‘one up’ on Alice. Poor girl can’t win.

 

[welp]

Well, Bianca has been bullied by Alice (and since she is legally not allowed to, by her alt accounts), her minions, her brother etc. Most of those posts are either mocking her illness or spreading extreme lies (Alice's alts and Loopy are most guilty of this by their description of the door incident that was 1000x more extreme than what Ella even initially alleged before the judge talked some sense into her). Her partner's daughter first vandalised her house and shoved her and then filed a textbook DARVO RO against her. She was portrayed as a child abuser, when in fact she is a semi-disabled woman that was abused by a teenager if anything (and as a extra layer that teenager is your partners daughter being weaponise by your and your partners abuser). It's mentally enormously taxing when you are accused of something this extreme when you are actually the victim. The Daily Mail has a lot of blood on their hands because they were twisting the court docs to the max in this aspect.

Despite being the most innocent party of this story (at least from the adults) she is probably getting the most grief just because she dates a divorced man. She is blamed all the time for not "letting him go" to fix his relationship with his kids etc. Heck, we are sometimes perhaps even a touch hard to her because we often question whether she actually is with Ioan genuinely or because him (and this drama) gives her the fame she may crave. Of course we are not accusing her, we are just being fair by not ruling this out, but when you are the person in question and you know whether it's true or not it hurts a touch when it's not the truth. I actually thought it was curious that she mentioned why she moved to LA when she did. It's a very common criticism many have on them because that may have messed up the minuscule chance of a good transition for the kids (of course the sane among us know that with Alice this was never going to happen anyway)

And then there may be more Alice-unrelated things in her personal life.

The bullying and lies she is refering to is a lot more than just Alice, I believe, even if she is the root cause of most of it. And I dont think she wanted to make it about Alice specifically.

At the end of the day her post is about how she deals with the bullying that everyone of us can see from many parties. And the things she says she will talk about aren't even anything threatening against oh so poor Alice. Although I can imagine that the explanation for how they got together are abusive spouses, at least that's the only thing that makes sense in the posts context.

As for deleting comments: Bianca has deleted many negative comments about Alice on her page, and most comments now seem to be generally about her bullies. I think it's fine. You really cannot expect her to police her SM, especially when people are actually telling the truth.

 

[Ametrine]

Didn't CPTSD used to be about people who had been soldiers in combat, or hostages, or experienced CSA, or similar? Not just... adults who have been through horrible things?

I guess it's like the 90s when everyone was bipolar.

This is a pretty ignorant comment. Perhaps you should read more about CPTSD before stating things like this.

Domestic violence is listed as a potential cause.

What is complex PTSD?

Find out what complex PTSD is, the causes and how to treat it. Learn about misdiagnosis of complex PTSD and BPD.

www.mind.org.uk

 

[BingoFlamingo]

This bit got me: “I have no doubt that the abuse and lies will still continue”

she knows Alice will never give up. What a sad fucking statement.

 

[Blurp]

Bianca and the Gruffudd boys. I had to crop these right in because the surroundings made the files too big. They're on 's Instagram posts rather than stories as usual. Gosh, you can really see the family resemblance side by side.

 

[barre19]

Am I alone in thinking he looks thinner here?

Looks like he’s lost a good 200lbs or so of deadweight

 

[Ice Cream Enthusiast]

Raving lunatic, but make it fashion:

 

[Loveu2]

It's absolutely raw, you moron.

 

[SamFoxStuckinaCloak]

Alternate view: she can post whatever she likes on her own feed and other people's ridiculous conclusions are not her fault.

every time Bianca censors herself because people might get the wrong end of the stick, Alice wins.

 

[House of Tea]

This Alun obsession. I don’t get it. Just a normal looking bloke, I am sure he is perfectly nice, but just an ordinary bloke. Why has he become A Thing on here? It’s really odd. Like a lot of nuns peeking out of the window to catch a glimpse of the gardener.