I don’t want to revive the whole thing from my end again but she is even more a victim than Ioan and that’s the hill I will die on. And I’m grateful to the posters who were able to make the point far better than I, while still being respectful of all views.Fucking all of this. Thank you for sharing this, truly.
it has broken my heart a little to see the tide turn towards judging and writing off Ella, a literal child going through unimaginable trauma while under relentless daily pressure whilst grieving her father and likely questioning everything (imagine growing up with such a loving father as Ioan and then believing he hates and couldn’t care less about you? That would break most adults).
kids, teens, adults, can all act in ways that are unhelpful, unkind, cruel, irrational seeming, to outsiders, when under massive stress.
who Ella is at thirteen while going through this situation speaks to what she’s been put through, not to some kind of innate character flaw/badness.
I’m guessing many of us who consider ourselves to be fairly kind and decent people today have stories about behaving like absolute twats in our teens (let me tell you about the time I called up my father’s girlfriend to tell her he was cheating on her with his best friend… I was sure I was doing the right and moral thing at seventeen, and this was at the back end of years of trauma at home). I caused a LOT of pain and heartache and didn’t understand the situation quite as deeply as I thought I did. And I wasn’t even being pressured by anyone to do anything.
fast forward a couple decades and you’ll see me sat around the dinner table with said father and stepmother, having a lovely time. They understood and forgave. I’m still ashamed by can understand why I acted the way that I did. Heck, in our teens most of us are still acting on instinct and hormones and it’s very dangerous when you believe with certainty you’re the one in the right and start meddling/acting out.
that poor girl. My heart goes out to her. I know she looks older and is tall and all that but she is a child.
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Such an Alice word. Isn’t the word mainly used for puppies and babies and things that are mini?Calling your child a tedious bitch is adorable. Who knew?!